Serious Sister Drama!

I am soooo angry right now!!!!!!!!!! I asked my one and only sister to be my MOH and boy am I regretting that decision!

She is soooo jealous of the fact that I am getting married and is being really mean and nasty to me.

A little background on her: She got married very young to a guy that beat her, eventually divorced him, dated a few more wierdos after that, and now has a somewhat decent boyfriend that she has been dating for three years. She decided to move in with him on the grounds that he would propose soon after. Well, no ring yet and she is fuming! Also, the first time she got married to the guy nobody in our family liked (because he beat her), she eloped and now she regrets not having a big fancy wedding. So she is taking out all her frustration on me.

When I first got engaged I asked her to be my MOH. That was a little over a year ago. (My wedding is in 7 months now.) She agreed but said she wanted a co-MOH to help with the shower and bachelorette party. So, I asked another friend that likes party planning to be her Co-MOH. Then that friend dropped out due to financial issues, leaving my sister as my only MOH.

Also, I am fuming because out of the seven bridesmaids that said they would be in my wedding one year ago, I only have four left. Two of the remaining bridesmaids are acting wierd and will not answer phone calls and one of them is my sister who I am seriously thinking about kicking out of the wedding.

So, back in September I invited my bridesmaids to this really fancy tea and paid for them all. It was kind of like a thanks for being my bridesmaid kick off luncheon to see who was really serious about still being in the wedding. Only two out of ten people showed up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is when I was planning to give out these cute official invites to be in the bridal party (even though they already said yes to a verbal ask). That is about the time everyone started dropping out.

So, I mailed the invites to the remaining bridesmaids who could not make it. One called me back and left a message but acted wierd and the other one I have not heard from (although I know she is getting married in a few weeks and did not even invite me!!!)

So I am wondering what the heck I am supposed to do since they all have to get their dresses ordered over the next six weeks. So, I decide to send them a nice packet of information and make it look really cute. It has everything in it they need to know about ordering the dresses, booking a hotel room, etc.

My sister comes over and I give her the packet and she completely flips out on me!!!!!!! She tells me she does not have time to read the packet and will never read the packet. Then she proceeds to say that she does not have time or the money to be in my wedding and if I force her to read packets, she will drop out. What the heck???!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Nice MOH, right?

So then I tell her she has to get her dress by the 2nd week of January and she freaks and starts screaming about it being Christmas and all. I reminded her that I asked her a whole year ago and she should have been saving the $$$. Plus, she has six weeks to put down $68 for the deposit and can pay the other half in April. She can even use a credit card to pay it. Honestly, I did not think $68 was too much too ask.

Then I tell her that my nephew (who is a junior groomsman) will need a tux and it will cost between $80-$130, but she does not need to get that for a few months yet. That really set her off! She asked me why he needs a tux when he is not even in the wedding. What the heck!!!!!!!!!!! I asked her a whole year ago if he could be a junior groomsman and she said yes. Now she is claiming she did not realize he would be walking down the aisle. Give me a break!

She is now responsible for my shower and bachelorette party, which I am sure will not happen if she is in charge. I am seriously thinking about planning and paying for it myself and just inviting my friends to come along.

She had me so upset I just started bawling. This is my sister. She is supposed to be happy for me and supportive. I understand she is not happy in her own life, but that does not give her the right to ruin my wedding!!!

To top everything, she asks me why we have to get the dresses so early and I tell her that is what the store told me. My wedding is in June which is right during wedding and prom season, so everything takes longer. Then she yells at me for having my wedding in June and tells me I should have considered that the dresses had to be ordered in December and that was incovenient for everyone.

I felt like saying, 'It is my wedding and I will have it whenever I want!'

To make matters worse if her boyfriend proposes soon (which he might) there is a chance she will decide to have her wedding either before mine or the same month. She has balls! I talked to my mom about it and she does not see anything wrong with that. She does not see that she is doing it to be downright spiteful and to take the attention away from me.

Well, I was engaged before and the guy dumped me and we had to cancel everything and I was completely humiliated. You would think my own family would be happy for me instead of trying to sabotage my special day!!!!!!!!!!!

I am at the point where I am ready to say forget all the bridesmaids. If I have nobody, oh well. I am sick of worrying about it.