Sexuality and Intimacy question at Pre-cana

DD628 Posted: Feb 12, 2008 05:03 PM

Sexuality and Intimacy question at Pre-cana

If you had pre-marital sex, do you lie and say NO at pre-cana---or do you tell the truth?

MrsK2008 Posted: Feb 12, 2008 05:04 PM

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tell the truth!

DD628 Posted: Feb 12, 2008 05:05 PM

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I plan on it...I just didn't know what any one else thought

jgl Posted: Feb 12, 2008 05:05 PM

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they never asked.. plus our hosts wer not stupid... we never felt that pressure to discuss that or say that we were or werent

so many people in our group were living together and it was never made an issue

dream426 Posted: Feb 12, 2008 05:07 PM

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Posted by jgl

they never asked.. plus our hosts wer not stupid... we never felt that pressure to discuss that or say that we were or werent

so many people in our group were living together and it was never made an issue

Same with us. They always said we do not have to comment on anything but if we wanted to we were more than welcome to. All of live together also and they knew that. Our hosts were so cool. I really enjoyed having them as our hosts.

Princess Cut Bride Posted: Feb 12, 2008 05:10 PM

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When I went to session 1 of pre cana two sunday's ago....we sat in a hall with about 40 other couples. We had two different couples talk to us and after each talk they had us answer questions in a workbook they gave each of us. No one asked us questions... no one other than the two couples and coordinator spoke. I think that is why it suucked soo much. I really hope you have a better experience. We hated it....and are totally dreading part two next Saturday.

The couples spoke about nothing that we expected them to speak about. They talked about their kids and how they like to read and talk on AIM...and how they have their own lingo...BLAH BLAH BLAH...it was horrible.

Sorry I'm babbaling...so unless you have a small group I don't think you have to worry about sharing your experiences. Even if you do have a small group...no one can force you to say anything you don't want to.

Good luck! Hope yours is 100xs better than mine!

bella1028 Posted: Feb 12, 2008 05:13 PM

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I would say tell he truth...but I also have to say that I completed pre-cana this summer and never did this question come up where we had to answer out loud...it was open for discussion among you and your FH...but discreetly and barely at all...have you gone yet and it came up? or are you just anticipating it?

Sunset Renee Posted: Feb 12, 2008 05:13 PM

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We already live together, so I feel like if I say No, I would just look like a liar. I figure I will probably tell the truth...I can't lie for a church...I just can't!!!

DD628 Posted: Feb 12, 2008 05:15 PM

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Posted by bella1028

I would say tell he truth...but I also have to say that I completed pre-cana this summer and never did this question come up where we had to answer out loud...it was open for discussion among you and your FH...but discreetly and barely at all...have you gone yet and it came up? or are you just anticipating it?

I am anticipating it...LOL

bella1028 Posted: Feb 12, 2008 05:19 PM

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Posted by DD628

Posted by bella1028

I would say tell he truth...but I also have to say that I completed pre-cana this summer and never did this question come up where we had to answer out loud...it was open for discussion among you and your FH...but discreetly and barely at all...have you gone yet and it came up? or are you just anticipating it?

I am anticipating it...LOL

I think you will be pleasantly surprised I felt it was very non-invasive, I promise

Wifeynella Posted: Feb 12, 2008 05:36 PM

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tell the truth, otherwise i dont think you are getting all you can out of it

debismom Posted: Feb 12, 2008 05:41 PM

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Posted by Princess Cut Bride

When I went to session 1 of pre cana two sunday's ago....we sat in a hall with about 40 other couples. We had two different couples talk to us and after each talk they had us answer questions in a workbook they gave each of us. No one asked us questions... no one other than the two couples and coordinator spoke. I think that is why it suucked soo much. I really hope you have a better experience. We hated it....and are totally dreading part two next Saturday.

The couples spoke about nothing that we expected them to speak about. They talked about their kids and how they like to read and talk on AIM...and how they have their own lingo...BLAH BLAH BLAH...it was horrible.

Sorry I'm babbaling...so unless you have a small group I don't think you have to worry about sharing your experiences. Even if you do have a small group...no one can force you to say anything you don't want to.

Good luck! Hope yours is 100xs better than mine!

Love your new avatar, Anna!!!!!!! Mary MOB

PegaLega Posted: Feb 12, 2008 05:51 PM

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I doubt that they will come out and just ask that question. HIGHLY doubt it! Thats a VERY personal question and truthfully if it was asked I wouldnt even answer it-but if you intend on answering I would not lie

ETA:This topic more contains things that you should think about like being nude in front of FH, being sexually active, etc. They dont say do you have sex and how do you do it so dont worry. Its really not all that bad AT ALL! We really enjoyed it actually

DD628 Posted: Feb 12, 2008 10:49 PM

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Yea I am sure they dont want to make us feel uncomfortable.

gfield101 Posted: Feb 12, 2008 10:55 PM

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we told the truth. he's in his 30's we live together! They were an awesome host couple!

Dee0522 Posted: Feb 12, 2008 10:56 PM

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I completely agree w/ most of the posters... this question never came up during my pre-cana, nor anything close to it. The host couple talked about intimacy very briefly and very vaguely... it wasn't like they went around the room and asked questions. In my group I think every couple but one already lived together, so... they know the deal. They're not stupid!!

kimandvin Posted: Feb 12, 2008 10:59 PM

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Tell the truth.. they arent going to tell you you can't get married

JoeJo Posted: Feb 12, 2008 11:14 PM

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They never asked any kinds of those questions...what precana was, was def not what i thought it was going to be(especially bc im not caltholic i was nervous)