She lied to me....

She lied to me....

I have a BM that is very dramatic and everyone told me that I should never have asked her to be in the wedidng in the first place. First she threw a fit when she found out who my MOH was ...that should have been clue number one. Then recently she hinted to the fact that weddings are expensive and she also is having financial problems and issues with her two young kids and not having them there would be difficult. Now she knew from December when I asked her what came along with being in the wedding and all. Plus im not having kids at my wedding and she knew this as well....but she still accepted. Now she is pulling all this crap about how she may not be able to be a part and tonight she said 'I don't believe i can make it to the engagement party'.....I am soooo upset!!! I told her the date of the party over a month ago and the party isn't till September.

SOOOOOO.....she tells me that the reason she can't come is because she is a girl scout leader for her daughter and that weekend they are having training....WELL.....being sneaky and simply for the fact i don't always believe her....i checked the schedule and there is NO TRAINING! I don't know what to say to her if anything at all and at this point I don't want to deal with her or her complaints. Am I wrong? Its like a total smack in the face.

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If I were you, i'd confront her about it. I would tell her I know what was up and ask why she did that...then i'd be like 'you obviously aren't prepared to take on the responsibility of being a bridesmaid so i'll find someone to replace you'

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And you're not wrong! That's a horrible and selfish thing for her to do...I don't think she even deserves to be in your BP if she's pulling crap like that...but firstly, you should make sure that there is no misunderstanding..there's still a minute chance that she's telling the truth..

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i dont think you are wrong. i mean come on, how old are you guys? she cant be honest with you? she should have told you 'thankyou for asking me to be in you BP but i will be unable to afford it.' see? easy as that!

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Your right....I don't want to jump to any conclusions and attack her or anything like that. She just has been a problem from the start and we still have over a year of planning to go. I just wish she was more honest from the beginning because i would have totally understood if she couldnt be a part of the wedding.

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Confront her! So you can get the real reason.

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You should definitely confront her and find out if there is some explanation as to why it's not on the schedule. And, you should remind her that this is YOUR special day and it's about YOU!!!! She should be going out of her way for you (that's why she is a bridesmaid) and if she isn't going to then she should not have agreed to be a bridesmaid!!

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I would tell her that you feel she doesn''t want to be in the BP and that you would really like her to be a part of it, but would understand if she was not able to. Let her down easy and make her make it HER decision so she can't say you kicked her out.