she pulled a NO SHOW!!

our engagement party was this weekend and my FMIL and 1 of my FBIL's pulled a no show!
they didn't even bother calling..
the day after the engagement party my FH niece was baptised, so my FMIL comes up to me with some sob story about how when she asked her husband(not FH father) for $ to put in the card-he said'why do you need to give them a gift-your gift to them is your son'!!!
so she claimed she felt embaressed by not having a gift and opted to do a no show-
(heres the kicker) I saw her put 3 $100 dollar bills in the card for the baptism!!!
I'm livid at them right now....
do I avoid them now considering how rude they are towards us!

thanks in advance
Jess

OMG! I really don't know what to tell you... That is just terrible! I can't believe your FH own mother didn't come to his engagement party. If I were you, I would definitely take a step back from them for awhile...just to cool off. They owe you a big apology...not a lie or an excuse.

Woah! If I were you I would be so mad! I agree, step back for a little while until you can calm down. How is your FH taking it? Was he pissed? Hurt? Can you imagine your own mom not comign to your engagement party.

That sucks. I am so sorry. You have every right to be mad, but maybe there is somethign else going on. ( I can't imagine what-) but sometimes you have to give the people the benefit of the doubt. If not for yourself, than for your FH.

2 hours into the party and she wasn't there-I asked him what was going on and he said that she probably wasn't coming-so I asked if he was ok and he said that he expected her not to show up and isn't surprised...
I think my parents were more upset bc they paid for them to be there and they never came.. my parents asked if they wanted to go half on the engagement party in the first place and they said NO-but my parents still invited them and now look what they did!
I give up on them!

I am sorry you are so frustrated. All you can do is lower your expectations of them (although your expectations seem totally reasonable). Unfortunately, they are your FH's parents and you can't get rid of them. Just accept them for what they are.

Although I can't imgaine what kind of parents don't come to thier son's engagemetn party when they are local. So sorry you are getting inlaws like that.

I am sorry!!! Take a break from her for use ... blowing up isnt going to make the situation any better

aww.. I am so sorry.. that is messed up!!! Gift or no gift she should of been there!!!!!