she wins ....

i hate venting online, but who more than future brides would understand.
FMIL wins ... she is making me reconsider this marriage. Just months away, i think it might be best to bow out gracefully, now its on her son to decide what he wants :(

ohhh man you are way to good!

once your his WIFE this all ends because your not just a fiance/girlfriend

im sorry your going through this!
But i give you alot of credit you are handling it with A LOT of class!

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Posted by Joeswifey2B

once your his WIFE this all ends because your not just a fiance/girlfriend

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Trust me it doesn't always end after the wedding! I do not know what you are going through but if you are unsure you need to have a serious talk with FH and see where you stand! Good Luck!!!

honestly it doesn't end after the wedding. my ex mil was the devil.

make him stand up to her and move far far away

Not sure of the situation...? Can u share a little? if not I totally understand and Im sorry you are going thru this

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Posted by Joeswifey2B

once your his WIFE this all ends because your not just a fiance/girlfriend

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Trust me it doesn't always end after the wedding! I do not know what you are going through but if you are unsure you need to have a serious talk with FH and see where you stand! Good Luck!!!

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im not saying it ends.. i meant that no long will you need to live your life around fmil. and fh will be going to you to talk things over with and not worrying about his mom to help..
does that make any sense!

well ladies basically she doesnt like me.
and fh isnt exactly defending me or our relationship, and the stress and expense of the wedding is making us such bitter people, because as it seems, iam the only one excited about this, and my family of course. i dont claim to be the 'ideal' person, but iam respectful, and i leave those battles for him to handle, but iam very well aware (c'mon ladies, im a therapist and i do couples counseling, lol) that any problem not resolved before marriage only magnifies after it. sadly, i think he has chosen to lose me and maintain the peace in his family. we'll see how the next few days/ weeks play out. maybe im just angry right now and i cant see past my own disillusion but iam not too certain i'll be walking down the aisle in 5 months. im just hoping there is some light at the end of this tunnel.

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Posted by Joeswifey2B

once your his WIFE this all ends because your not just a fiance/girlfriend

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Trust me it doesn't always end after the wedding! I do not know what you are going through but if you are unsure you need to have a serious talk with FH and see where you stand! Good Luck!!!

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im not saying it ends.. i meant that no long will you need to live your life around fmil. and fh will be going to you to talk things over with and not worrying about his mom to help..
does that make any sense!

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if hes not doing it now, hes not going to do it later.

seriously, nip this in the bud NOW. bc that woman needs to realize her son is not a child and she does not run his life. he's an adult and has chosen a woman to marry.

having lived through it once, id never do it again...that or id be in jail for murder lol

im so sorry!!! i hope all works out soon!

and your all right all of this is easier said then done and it wont go away!


unless its worked out now! no one can live there life like this!!!!

take some time apart so you can both clear your heads. Everything will work out the way its supposed to. Keep your head up

sorry to hear about that... that really sucks :( hopefully FH wakes up and smells the coffee that he has a great woman by his side...

continue to handle with class, it will pay off in the end...

Ugh, that's awful. I hope everything gets worked out...sending good thoughts!

Everything will work out!!! You'll seee!!! I agree maybe you need to spend some time apart so he can see the value of what he has! If he doesn't give you the respect you deserve now, as his fiance, it will only get worse when you're his wife and mother of his children!!! Keep your head up darling!!!

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Posted by Pacie

take some time apart so you can both clear your heads. Everything will work out the way its supposed to. Keep your head up

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this seems like what we have to do.
dammit we were both off today and suppose to meet with a florist. thats off. :(
thank god for my gf's and you ladies i'd be going insane right now. i dont know how or why i havent even cried yet, normally i can cry over anything, commericials. songs, etc .. but i think im too hurt.

What an awful situation and I am so sorry you are going thru this! FH needs to stand up to his mother! You will be by his side forever does he realize that? I understand he is close to his mom but c'mon! He needs to put her in her place! What she is doing to her own son and to you is unfair and wrong.

good luck with this. he would be making a huge mistake if he lets his mom control everything he does, especially when he has chosen a woman to marry.

she should be happy her son found happiness in you.

goo luck!!

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Posted by DCgirl82

What an awful situation and I am so sorry you are going thru this! FH needs to stand up to his mother! You will be by his side forever does he realize that? I understand he is close to his mom but c'mon! He needs to put her in her place! What she is doing to her own son and to you is unfair and wrong.

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exactly.
and i dont help sometimes, because in anger i'll say 'good luck making babies with her' ..
i have to LOL about it now, bc whatever, you cant words back after they are spoken.
just so pissed.

this so sucks :(
so sorry :(

but your gut is your best meter

Is He worth this drama?

and does He think your worth sticking up for.

dont EVER allow yourself to be a second class citizen to any other woman in his life

GOOD LUCK!!!
SO sorry!!!

praying you find the right path

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Posted by Joeswifey2B

once your his WIFE this all ends because your not just a fiance/girlfriend

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Trust me it doesn't always end after the wedding! I do not know what you are going through but if you are unsure you need to have a serious talk with FH and see where you stand! Good Luck!!!

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im not saying it ends.. i meant that no long will you need to live your life around fmil. and fh will be going to you to talk things over with and not worrying about his mom to help..
does that make any sense!

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if hes not doing it now, hes not going to do it later.

seriously, nip this in the bud NOW. bc that woman needs to realize her son is not a child and she does not run his life. he's an adult and has chosen a woman to marry.

having lived through it once, id never do it again...that or id be in jail for murder lol

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I completely agree with Amy! Honestly, if I were in your shoes, I wouldn't be able to deal with it, not now or after we are married!!!! It's unnecessary stress you don't deserve!!
It's one thing if he sticks up for you and its another thing if he sits and does nothing!!!
Definitely sit down with him and talk to him about how you are feeling and see if there is a way to resolve this situation!!!
FM me if you need to talk!!

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I think you are smart for taking a step back now though. If he's not going to come through for you now, he probably never will. It's such a shame and ridiculous. I hope everything works out for you!