hey, i need some advice. i get married in November. i think we can all agree that we don't want ppl at our wedding that we don't like nor get along with. my fh's brother is the best man and his gf is crazy! she is very jealous and doesn't like me so she has done things in the past 2 years that weren't exactly nice. she tells fh's family lies about me to make them not like me but they know how she is. She has recently crossed the line and i don't think she is worth time or effort anymore. My question is...what do I do regaurding her and the wedding? I dont want her there, but know if we don't invite her, fh's brother may not come. If it's ok for the parents tp say they dont want this one and that one there...why can't I say i dont want her there. FH dislikes her too for the things she has put us through and doesnt want her there either. We are paying for the wedding all alone. Is there something I can do?? any suggestions please.
AdriandSteve
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tough sitaution b/c FBIL is fh's best man. Imo, you can't really invite him without a guest. So even if you put 'and guest' on the invite there's no way to really tell him to NOT bring her.
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Sorry I don't think you can invite FBIL without his GF. It sounds like although she might be crazy they are serious. If your FH wants his bro there you should prob invite her. Remember you will be so busy you will never even notice she is there.
flibbertigibbet
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i think you need to need to have FH sit down with his brother and have a heart to heart about his gf.
i think it would be rude to invite him without his gf. ESPECIALLY because he's your best man? he's a person of honor at your wedding.
you guys need to let him know that 'hey look your gf can be drama sometimes. can you make sure she behaves? we really dont want any waves that day'
you say that FH's family know how this girl can be and if they like you and understand the situation... nothing crazy will happen i'm sure. but it would make YOU guys look bad if you start inviting people, especially close ones like your FBIL without the courtesy of inviting them with a guest. JMO.
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since he's the best man you can't really tell him his gf can't come. like adriana said, if you put and guest, she's still gonna come. maybe have your fh tell him you guys would both rather his guest not be her. there's really nothing more you can do!
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Posted by AdriandSteve
tough sitaution b/c FBIL is fh's best man. Imo, you can't really invited him without a guest. So even if you put 'and guest' on the invite there's no way to really tell him to NOT bring her.
Agreed... unfortunately I don't think you really have a choice here.
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Posted by jmgoncal
Posted by AdriandSteve
tough sitaution b/c FBIL is fh's best man. Imo, you can't really invited him without a guest. So even if you put 'and guest' on the invite there's no way to really tell him to NOT bring her.
Agreed... unfortunately I don't think you really have a choice here.
Ditto. Just make sure she takes her crazy pills.
MikesBride2B
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I know it *****, but you can't not invite her...FSIL is a total wretch to me and I'm not allowed to uninvite her either.
SummerBride10
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I'm gonna have to agree with everyone else...you dont really have much of a choice but to invite her.
143dmr143
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thanks everyone! you are all right...she has to just take her meds prior lol. thanks again:-]
