Should have eloped.

mandag Posted: Jan 17, 2008 03:04 PM

Should have eloped.

Does ANYONE else feel this way?

My sister, Matron of Honor, is causing drama left and right, FH's parents are pissed about the rehearsal dinner because more of my family is involved than theirs and they are paying for it. FH just bought an outrageously expensive suit, my mom calls me every 15 minutes with a question about hair or nails or cocktail napkins...

I seriously just want to curl up under my comforter, shut off my phone and not come out until June.

Soon2beAlberti Posted: Jan 17, 2008 03:08 PM

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I'm sorry you have to feel this way but try your best to let it all go. sometimes when i feel like I'm going to have a breakdown I go in the shower and have a good cry...i envision that all my worries and stresses are going down the drain. it helps. Just always keep in mind that none of the BS matters...not cocktail napkins, not bridal party drama...nothing.

futuremrsfab Posted: Jan 17, 2008 03:08 PM

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first hugs for you! i think everyone feels like that now and then- my moment was last week when fh and i added up what we have spent and what we are planning on spending & he got so nervous, he had to leave the house but it has to get better- dont worry

Espo22 Posted: Jan 17, 2008 03:09 PM

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just tell everyone to STFU, im sure it'll make you feel better

but seriously, maybe talk to everyone and tell them instead of just yelling and getting pissed at eachother if you all can talk about it in a civilized manner and tell them how much theyre ruining your planning experience and making you hate the wedding. Maybe this way they'll feel bad and watch what they say

NapaValleyGirl Posted: Jan 17, 2008 03:14 PM

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Hugs. Normal to feel this way. You have to remind them that this is your wedding and that the experience is being ruined by this bickering.

FH's family feels the need to invite every member of his stepfather's family. none of whom I've even met! How important are these people if I've never met them in the 3 years we've dated. Sigh. I guess it's important to FH but totally unfair since my parents are footing the entire wedding bill.

failurebydsign Posted: Jan 17, 2008 03:17 PM

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story of my life..im making it all come together..but sometimes i wish we would have used this money for soemthing else and have eloped

mandag Posted: Jan 17, 2008 03:19 PM

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Thanks, ladies...

It really does just help to vent and know I'm not alone. I just feel like I've tried so hard to be easy going and kind and to involve everyone in a nice way so we could all enjoy the process and be happy and instead i'm getting complaints from everyone!

bluegreen08 Posted: Jan 17, 2008 03:30 PM

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sending FM

DnellD809 Posted: Jan 17, 2008 03:36 PM

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Yea, you should tell everyone to RELAX and leave you alone for a while. This is supposed to be a happy time for planning the biggest day of your life and they need to SHUT UP and help make it the best! Just try to talk to them rationally. Let them know that everyone is making you a little more stressed out than you'd like to be and that you need them to tak it easy on you for a while. I'm sorry you feel this way now but when it's all said and done you'll be happy you didn't elope!

mandag Posted: Jan 17, 2008 03:40 PM

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It's just weird what people get hung up on, too! Like we were supposed to have the rehearsal dinner on Fire Island and now FH's mom refuses to have it there because she doesn't want to deal with cranky children on the ferry...

it's a ferry, not a library!

Ms Sawney Posted: Jan 17, 2008 03:43 PM

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I am sorry you are so stressed I think we all go through times like this. Take some time to yourself and clear your head go for a walk work out whatever relaxes you.

mandag Posted: Jan 17, 2008 03:45 PM

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Posted by Ms Sawney

I am sorry you are so stressed I think we all go through times like this. Take some time to yourself and clear your head go for a walk work out whatever relaxes you.

I totally know why brides get so skinny now, because the gym is the only thing that helps!

Thanks

DnellD809 Posted: Jan 17, 2008 03:46 PM

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Posted by mandag

It's just weird what people get hung up on, too! Like we were supposed to have the rehearsal dinner on Fire Island and now FH's mom refuses to have it there because she doesn't want to deal with cranky children on the ferry...

it's a ferry, not a library!

That's a pretty lame reason. Is that where you really want it? What did you guys say to her when she told you that?

price867 Posted: Jan 17, 2008 04:13 PM

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You're not the only one. I think we all hit a breaking point at some time. Due to the petty drama, one tends to lose focus on what the wedding is all about sometimes and it gets upsetting. Just remember that its about you and your FH and your love and your wedding day will be great.

AR31 Posted: Jan 17, 2008 04:25 PM

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oh no!! like espo said tell everyone to STFU!! i mean so what if your family has more people show than his.. seriously you two are getting hitched so doesn't that make your family their family toom and even if they don't feel that way.. daMMit.. it's their son's wedding.. tell them to suck it up!!

the more you try make everyone else happy, the more agita you will give yourself.. and don't digress from the situation.. address to all parties involved that you know how happy they are for you but to sometimes give you a breather!!

LeeLee111 Posted: Jan 17, 2008 04:27 PM

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I know, sometimes I feel this way too. You and your FH deserve a beautiful wedding, dont let the nonsense get in the way.

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Jan 17, 2008 04:36 PM

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Yes. I have more people telling me shitt about my wedding than I care to hear about.

It's part of planning. I've never met a girl here or in real life who didn't have some drama. You just gotta suck it up and deal with it.

Telling people to STFU is not making anything better. I am a hypocrite though b/c I do it all the time. Luckily, I was born a bittch so no one has called me a bridezilla.

The RD thing - you should either cut down your people or pay for x amount of people over what they have.

Your MOH - beat the crap out of her. It works.

Oh and crying helps A LOT. Alberti had it right.

mandag Posted: Jan 17, 2008 04:44 PM

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Crying DOES help!

I try to keep remembering what I am doing this for, and that i need to respect that everyone is very invested in this day and honor that - it's just so hard!

Thank you all for the support