Should I Ask Her?

Should I Ask Her?

My brother has been with his wonderful girlfriend for 6 years. I went e-ring shopping with him last week..so I know they'll be engaged soon. I already have 8 girls in my BP, and I was going to ask his girlfriend to be a reader. Now I'm having second thoughts about asking her to be a BM...I don't want her feelings to be hurt and I do want to show her that I love her and value her in my life. I could still have her be a reader and include her on all the wedding party events. Or, I could ask her to be a BM very tactfully. What do you girls think?

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I would ask her. She's going to be family.

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I would ask her...maybe they can put a rush on her BM dress and you can pay for the rush fee? Just a thought

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I think she would still be honored if you asked her to be a reader. It's so close to the wedding, you wouldn't want her to rush her dress and everything.

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I would ask her to do the reading can also get her crosage if you like i am sure she will really be honored

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If you really want her then I would ask her!! If you think it is too close then just ask her to do a reading!! Either way i'm sure she feel special!!

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I would ask her, Im sure that she will be honored..

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I'd ask her. It would be a nice gesture, and she is going to be your sister in law....sets a good precedent

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I would definitely ask her to be a BM. Since they are planning to be married, this would be a great acceptance into the family.

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i dont see any harm in asking her. however i would wait until after he proposes

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Honestly, I would ask her to be a reader. I'm sure she'll be honored.

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I would leave her as a Reader. She knows you care you asked her to be a reader. I dont think you need to make her a BM just because your brother and her might be getting engaged soon.

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I would leave her as a reader. One of my readers is very involved with helping my BMs plan.

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def ask her to be a bm (jmo)

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i would ask her. you dont want to regret it in the long run. im sure she would be honored

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I think I would ask her..she will be family and that means she will be there forever...it is a nice thing to do...I am sure she will feel so happy to be such a big part of the day

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