Should I be annoyed? (Sorry so long!)

So next on my list is to block hotel rooms for guests. I called 2 of the hotels the RH recommended and got all the info. I decided I'll probably book the Hilton b/c they gave the better deal. Well, the other day FH and I took his parents to see the RH b/c they hadn't seen it yet and had been bugging us for awhile now. We decided to take a different way home that would bring us by the Hilton, so we could see how long it would take to get there. I knew it would take about 20 minutes, which it did.

Apparently, FIL's weren't happy with it taking that long. So Monday, on their day off, (the day after we went) they went driving around Huntington to find other hotels. Apparently they found 2 others and decided to go in and get the info. They got all the info for me and even took tours of the rooms and the bridal suite. At first I was like, OK they are helping me out, but then I started to be a little annoyed that they took a tour of the rooms before I got a chance too.

Should I be annoyed? Should I say something? I know they are just trying to help out and they had nothing else to do, but after thinking about it, even though it's a pain, it's still part of the fun of planning and now they took that part away. I mean, I'll still probably go look at the hotel to make sure I like it.

This is my first FIL problem, but should I let it be a problem, should it bother me??

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Posted by snwb08

no I don't think so. I'd only be annoyed if they booked it without getting your input first. Otherwise, i'd be thrilled that they are doing some of the work for me!

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I agree! I'd be really happy they did some of the work for me and I'd only be pissed if they booked it without my input. I'm OOT right now so my mom is doing a lot of the legwork for me and I really appreciate it.

A similar thing happened to me. Ive come to learn in this wedding process everyone wants to help and everyone has a vision of what the day is going to be like. Its nice that your in-laws were trying to be helpful, but i can see how you might feel that they have stepped on your toes. To be honest, if they want to help with hotel part let them... it might make them feel like they have helped out. You have all the good stuff to plan anyway.... You can complain to us all you want but i dont think i would make it an issue with them...

Yeah that's how I felt after I thought about it for awhile. Plus, my mom isn't the craziest about them and gets very defensive if she feels they are going to do something to overstep HER b/c she is the mother of the bride, etc...and my mom has a way of getting herself upset/worked up and then i get upset along with her. so that could have been part of the problem.

they haven't done anything for this wedding, but haven't really butted in either. so i guess this is just their way of helping.