Fh doesnt want to go to a bridal expo with me? I just found out there is one on Aug 25 in the huntington hilton, its like 10min from my house. I asked him to go and he told me to go alone. I want him to come so he can get tux ideas and look at favors and stuff. Should I be uspet? I want him to be a part of it and he doesnt even seem interested.
JPC1125
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Some men just arent into this stuff ...it wont make him a bad husband...just a bad wedding planner.
I'd let this slide as long as he gets active on those things in the future...i know my guy isnt worried about getting ideas for tuxes yet....he only wants to go once and thats that.
Maybe your hunny is the same way ?
september2004
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i have never been to one of those, but i know FH would KILL me if i ever even alluded to the idea nevermind actually dragging him there
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Posted by september2004
i have never been to one of those, but i know FH would KILL me if i ever even alluded to the idea nevermind actually dragging him there
My thoughts exactly. Pick your battles about the wedding. Most guys aren't nearly as into as we are so pick a couple of things that mean a lot to you and make sure he helps out with those. I'm getting married almost 5 months ahead of you and when I approached the subject of tuxes 2 days ago, I got my head bitten off for it being WAAAAY too early. Most of their stuff doesn't have to happen until 2 months before the wedding.
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Some or should I say most of guys don't like to go to showcases or expos or be part of the planning process, except my FH he always wants to go and be part of things. Its kinda annoying, you should feel luckey that he won't be going. My FH is always nagging me when we go. I feel like hes a stone around my neck
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I literally DRAGGED FH to one when we first got engaged, and you know what??? He was miserable the whole time we were there. He didnt want to go in the first place, but I begged him. When we were there, all he did was huff & puff and he mostly just tried to get out of the way of all the crowds of people. Consequently, I didnt enjoy myself at all...the only thing I could focus on was how annoying FH was being! If your FH is not into these things, dont force it! Bring a close relative or one of your BM's...you'll have a better time anyway!
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I wouldn't be too upset about it, annoyed yes, but upset no. I'm getting married in less than 2 months and my FH has done next to nothing. It's frustrating sometimes I admit, but I can't change him so I just have to deal with it. I did manage to get him to do a few little things. He went to the reception hall after I found ours and after I went to 18 halls with my mom. He did go to a showcase for the band after some b!tching and moaning. And most recently he okayed the invitations that I wanted. But that's it. He wasn't involved or interested in the photographer, flowers, favors, programs, limos, etc... I pretty much handle everything wedding related and he works on our house. That's the deal.
ckgmwedding
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Trust me-most men would give you that answer including my FH
prindia
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don't be upset, just bring your moh or mom or someone close to u and you will have a great time. Plus men always want to go home early
Monkeybride
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Accept it now that some men will just never be into the wedding planning. Sometimes it's hard not to take it personally but I try to look at it as a positive. My FH has said yes to everything I want to for the wedding so it has worked out well for me.
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My FH husband came to a expo at East Wind only because we are thinking of having it their. He of course wanted to taste the food. All I ask from my FH husband is to get a tux and be at the wedding on time. Go with friend or family member instead, you'll have more fun. Most guys are just not into this stuff.
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thanks so much girls. i feel better knowing its just not my fh that dislikes this stuff. I think I just go tupset because the idea was shot down so quick, he didnt even have to think about it. But I'll take someone else.
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I would not be upset...my FH never went with me...it is something that I did with my mom & then came back to him with ideas...He is worse then me with the details of our wedding, but going to expos is not one of his things
cluelessbride
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Nah, don't be upset. My FH just learned how to spell wedding
lorsin
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I would be upset if mine DID agree. That would mean that aliens came down and switched his body!!
Seriously, I don't think many guys are into the whole planning thing and this was one thing I knew not to even ask about.
Don't worry - he'll get tux ideas elsewhere (especially if you clip out the ones you like from mags, like I do). And he'll get into the other things he needs to.
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personally, i would have been upset if my husband hadn't taken a role in the wedding planning....becuase that's the kind of person he is. he enjoyed planning the wedding together. we visited all of the vendors togehter, made all of the decisions together - and had a great time doing it! in fact, the day after we got engaged, he suggested we go to a bridal showcase....and every vendor we spoke to made it seem as though i dragged him there - so i'm guessing my husband is abnormal and your FH is normal.
FLaCaTaCa
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Most men are NID....Not Into Details...just as JLo said in 'Wedding Planner'. I get frustrated but it isn't worth a big fight. Good Luck!
JimmysBride
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I dragged my FH to one of these and he wanted to kill me!! Trust me, the expo is not a guy thing and it's no big deal that he doesn't want to go. I was a little bothered by the fact that FH didn't want to go either, but after we went, I understood why. You'll probably realize these expos aren't so great either. I think every Bride to be should go to at least one of these though.
divabride
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FI only goes to ones that have free food and a place to park his a$$!!!
jozieb0925
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MY FI would be the same way..I actually prefer to go with a girlfriend..you get a better opinion on things that way..
