Should I invite . . .

Lauram283 Posted: Sep 15, 2005 07:38 AM

Should I invite . . .

A good friend invited me to her RD (I was a greeter in the wedding - handed out programs). I am getting married 2 months after her and she does not have a job in my wedding. We have been friends for 20 years, since childhood. I feel like I should invite her to my RD since I was at hers. What do you think?

lishbone Posted: Sep 15, 2005 08:19 AM

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i would..what is one more couple..she may be offended...it would def be a nice gesture..20 years is a long time.

enjft Posted: Sep 15, 2005 08:21 AM

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I would as well

SFP0214 Posted: Sep 15, 2005 08:24 AM

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I wouldn't. Unless you are inviting OOT guests or other non-'job' people to the RD. Then I would.

piat79 Posted: Sep 15, 2005 09:11 AM

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Posted by SFP0214

I wouldn't. Unless you are inviting OOT guests or other non-'job' people to the RD. Then I would.

I completely agree.

i102bcute Posted: Sep 15, 2005 09:22 AM

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I would invite her to.

domnikita Posted: Sep 15, 2005 09:40 AM

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I would invite her, if only because of the length of time of your friendship.

girlygrl33 Posted: Sep 15, 2005 09:52 AM

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Thats a tough one, just curious if she is such a huge part of your life how come she isnt a part of your wedding? I think you would have eliminated this problem from the beginnning but b/c you guys are great friends I think I would have her do something and then invite her, you may have other guest question why you invited someone who is not 'part' of the Rehearsal, but its really up to you. If it was me I wouldnt just to avoid the well howcome so and so wasnt invited and they arent part of the Rehearsal too- I think its family members that feel this the most that arent a part of the RD. GL in your decision.

babybug631 Posted: Sep 15, 2005 02:28 PM

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If you're inviting other people who don't have 'jobs' than yes invite her. But, if your only inviting the 'job' people, then no I wouldn't.

curliegirl Posted: Sep 15, 2005 03:10 PM

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If you can swing it, then you should if you feel obligated, however I don't think I would.

Summer05 Posted: Sep 15, 2005 03:18 PM

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Posted by babybug631

If you're inviting other people who don't have 'jobs' than yes invite her. But, if your only inviting the 'job' people, then no I wouldn't.

I agree!

lullabella Posted: Sep 15, 2005 03:39 PM

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Unless you are inviting other non bridal party people then I would say no. I am sure she will understand.

candb Posted: Sep 15, 2005 03:55 PM

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If you are very close, why not.

Laura&Phil Posted: Sep 15, 2005 04:29 PM

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Posted by Lauram283

A good friend invited me to her RD (I was a greeter in the wedding - handed out programs). I am getting married 2 months after her and she does not have a job in my wedding. We have been friends for 20 years, since childhood. I feel like I should invite her to my RD since I was at hers. What do you think?

Tough one, are you paying for the dinner? If not, blame the ones paying, say they can't afford it or something. Otherwise, you can always ask her and her guy on a double date (your treat) for a separate dinner and say that because you weren't able to include her in the RD and you still wanted to have a special dinner with them so you are taking them out. I don't know how your budget is but avoiding hurt feelings is worth a little $$ for an old friend.

Ooops, forgot to say that while you should what you feel is right, personally, I think that you can and should invite her. If it'll make you feel better invite another friend or two who don't have 'jobs'.