Should MOB get her dress before MOG?

I think FMIL is going to buy her dress first and it doesn't bother me. My mom already discussed w/ her the color and style she wanted.
So I don't think it is a big deal.

I couldn't care less who buys the dress first, what they wear, what color they're wearing and if they wear the same color. But that's just me ... I've reached the point where, for me, the little details really don't matter. Most people don't notice except the other girls that are planning their weddings - and they don't even care. And I doubt I'm even going to remember most of it. I'll just remember if I had fun! I had my breakdown when I stressed about EVERYTHING, and after that week I realized none of that matters. Again, this is just how I feel about it.

At the end of the day - how much do you care about the etiquette? If those things are important to you, as they are for many girls, then that's fine and go with the rules. If you're just worried about what other people might think - STOP! That was my problem, and the stress isn't worth it. I know my mother and FMIL don't care about any of that stuff and neither do I, so we're all just going with the flow.

ETA - I hope this didn't come off the wrong way ... I get mad at myself when I think of the time and energy I wasted when I was stressing.

I think the whole 'coordinate colors' and 'MOB goes first' thing is completely ridiculous.

The ONLY fashion faux pas in my opinion is to wear white....ONLY the bride gets to do that!

Your Mom will find a dress that she loves, FMIL will get a dress she loves and if they are the same color or contrasting --- who cares!!!

They will both be beautiful

Who cares? As long as they're both happy with what they choose who cares about the color? Who cares abotu who bought it first?

I wish I had a mother-in-law and FH wishes his mother were alive to be there at our wedding! In the grand scheme of things, dresses don't matter.