Okay.... all etiquette aside.. we are so on the fence at this point!
Long story short... invited to e-party, didn't come... invited to shower, didn't come... do we still invite to wedding?
For details, read on...
FI had this 'friend' who would come over all the time while we were dating... at least twice a month. FI's known him for years and we live in the same town. The would trade tools, FI would repair and weld his lawnmower (landscaper), he gave FI a band saw and teak patio set.
So... still thinking he's a friend, we invite him and his wife to our e-party. They did not RSVP, FI had to call to find out they were not going to make it because they had to go out of state. No card, no gift (not that we were expecting). After that, they kind of fell off the face of the earth.
So we were like okay... I guess we'll take them off the list. Then a few months later, we run into them at a restaurant and they were all about how's the wedding plans? How exciting! So we put them back on!
Now I just had my shower last weekend and she was a no show. My sis said she called like the day before to say she's not coming.
Ya think we should still send them a wedding invite at this point just for good PR? I don't want to look like the nerdy kid begging for friendship that's not there! Ugh! We have new friends in our lives that we'd love to invite but you have to be politically correct and invite the old ones that you've lost touch with! What the heck!!!!
What would you do? FI told me to ask you guys and whatever you say we'll do!!!!!
CLMon7906
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Re: Should we invite this couple?
Posted by patticakes
I read this twice and honestly, I don't think I would invite them. How often do you hear/see them besides running into them??? I wish I could say definitely one way or the other.
denise, i gotta agree with patticakes here. there are people i've just lost all contact with and just don't get calls or emails back from...i didn't invite them and i didn't think twice to be honest.
eta---why not put them on the 'B' list? that way, if they don't RSVP yes, you weren't putting them at the top of the list anyway?
jeanla4c
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Re: Should we invite this couple?
Posted by robynlevy
i think that if you invited them to the e-party and the shower, they need to be invited to the wedding.
I agree with this.
patticakes
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Posted by CLMon7906
eta---why not put them on the 'B' list? that way, if they don't RSVP yes, you weren't putting them at the top of the list anyway?
Didn't think of that, even better. That way, you won't feel so torn during this whole process and you are still doing 'the right thing'. Good luck!
