shower dress

sooo im sure everyone knows whats going on with FMIL

anyway, FSILs shower is satruday and FMIL and I went shopping idk 6 mnths ago, on the day she was taking her medicine i guess, on one of the few days weve gotten along in the past 3 years
anyway, i found my shower dress and she insisted on paying for it


great, now i love the damn dress, but she paid for it, so now i refuse to wear it to the shower for principle haha

am i crazy

wear the dress or find another one?

i would personally say screw her an wear the dress...

BUT... part of me that is hesitant says if you wear the dress she'll remember that's the one she purchased for you and she seems like someone who would turn that into a spectacle

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Posted by FutureJOC

i would personally say screw her an wear the dress...

BUT... part of me that is hesitant says if you wear the dress she'll remember that's the one she purchased for you and she seems like someone who would turn that into a spectacle

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ughhh im soo madd bc i love the damn dress
and iknew i shouldnt have let her- i just didnt wanna arguee she was making a scene in the store

now im like i dont wanan wear it bc i know shes expecting me tooo haha
and i dnt want her to b able to say omg i paid for that dresss


:(

Haha, I dont know....it sounds like things are totally crazy...id there any chance that wearing the dress will help a little? I'm kind of nervous that not wearing it could make things even worse, but if you dont care or think that she would make a bigger deal if you wear then if you dont then I guess you should get a new one

I say wear it!!
It'll probably piss her off when she she's you in it so it's like a little dig at her! DO IT!!

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Posted by MrsTarricone2B

If you love it - wear it! Screw that crazy woman!!

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i do love ittt
but shes so dramafied- that im ready to go out and buy a new dress
haha

and she has the shoes i wanted to wear with ittt :( :( :( :(

so not right!

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Posted by amandamichael

ughhh im soo madd bc i love the damn dress
and iknew i shouldnt have let her- i just didnt wanna arguee she was making a scene in the store

now im like i dont wanan wear it bc i know shes expecting me tooo haha
and i dnt want her to b able to say omg i paid for that dresss


:(

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yes but on the flipside of that, if you don't wear it, she might make a scene because you didn't wear it...

so I say just wear it... you love it.. why not?

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Posted by FutureJOC

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Posted by amandamichael

ughhh im soo madd bc i love the damn dress
and iknew i shouldnt have let her- i just didnt wanna arguee she was making a scene in the store

now im like i dont wanan wear it bc i know shes expecting me tooo haha
and i dnt want her to b able to say omg i paid for that dresss


:(

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yes but on the flipside of that, if you don't wear it, she might make a scene because you didn't wear it...

so I say just wear it... you love it.. why not?

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how much worse could it get- shes keeping my jimmy choos hostage haha

I don't know whats going on with her....I don't have nearly as much time as I would like to participate liweddings as much as I would like to...but...

I say wear it, and make a point to thank her. Why? Becasue no matter WHAT happens, you will ALWAYS be able to know and say that YOU did the right thing. Arguments, fall-outs, giant fights...you will always be able to say 'well, I wore the dress and I thanked her for it at the shower.' So regardless, it gives you a concrete foundation to stand on.

Again, I dont know whats happening, but while you can never help someone else's 'crazy' you always have control over how you handle yourself. And the best way to counter crazy, is to be calm and always be the bigger person. Plus, this is a BIG day for you and yuo need to feel GREAT!! If you love the dress wear it. And if you thank her, at least you will know that you did the right thing. And so will everyone else there. And there is no amount of crazy that can change that.

thats true--- but shes changed the locks and shes holding all my stuff hostage--- so weve passed crazy about 6 days ago

i will not thank her for anything, not a dress, nothing, she has thousands of dollars of my stuff

im just trying to figure out if im better off buying a new dress

than hearing her whisper that she paid for that dress that im wearing

ya know what i mean?

Why dont you give her the money for it?

OR

let her whisper. I wish there were a little switch in our heads that could just let us enjoy a day without caring/worrying about anyone else...there are so few days when people are allowed to do that! If you really love the dress, and its TOTALLY what you picture yourself in on that day, then wear it. And if you do hear her whipser, you can just say 'well, this dress vs. all of the stuff of mine that you have...maybe you should buy my wedding dress too...you know...to be fair.' lol. is that nasty? I dont even know the situation and i think thats nasty!!

omg id so wear that dress and point it out to rub it in lol