Re: Shower Guest List
I would invite them.
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Shower Guest List
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I would not invite them only because your FMIL is not going to be there. Normally I would say to invite FH's relatives (I did this too) but if FMIL won't be there then they won't even know anyone and IMO it would feel weird. I would then just say that you kept it small between those you were close with, and that you didn't want to offend them if they felt you were just inviting them for a gift.
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Re: Shower Guest List
Posted by Jna2010
i would invite them, theyre going to be your family too, so its either you meet them now or at the wedding.... also your fmil i think should have guests of her own there as well as you are her fdil.... even if they cant come, you should still invite them... jmo
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I am having a similar issue. FH has a ginormous family. He has over 130 first cousins, so he obvs isnt close with all of them. Some of them I have never even met, and we've been together for 4 years. I feel so weird inviting them to my shower if we've never met: 'Hi, nice meeting you, thanks for the toaster![]()
' Weird. I felt the same way as you, I dont want to make people I dont know buy me all these gifts!
I spoke to my mom (who is throwing my shower) and my mom felt the same way as Joanna. My mom said that if I never extend an invitation, how will I ever meet these family members? It's better to over-invite and not offend anyone, rather than leave people out and cause bad feelings. These are FH's family members, and now my family members.
I know you're in a tough spot since your FMIL won't even be at your shower, but I would just invite these family members anyway. if they live OOT and they don't come, at least you invited them and did your best. If they do come, great! It's one less person you have to meet for the first time at the wedding!![]()
I spoke to my mom (who is throwing my shower) and my mom felt the same way as Joanna. My mom said that if I never extend an invitation, how will I ever meet these family members? It's better to over-invite and not offend anyone, rather than leave people out and cause bad feelings. These are FH's family members, and now my family members.
I know you're in a tough spot since your FMIL won't even be at your shower, but I would just invite these family members anyway. if they live OOT and they don't come, at least you invited them and did your best. If they do come, great! It's one less person you have to meet for the first time at the wedding!
