Shower guest list and wedding guest list question-Problem/Long

NPbride Posted: Apr 25, 2005 08:28 AM

Shower guest list and wedding guest list question-Problem/Long

FI asked his sister if there was anyone he left off the list for my shower and the wedding. So she gave him a list of family members and close friends. We looked it over and we had the same people with the exception of one woman for my shower and a couple for the wedding. It's FI's brother's MIL. I've met this woman a handful of times and I've asked my family to keep my shower small and low key (I've only asked for family members and a couple of close friends on my side-not inviting any friends from work). I don't think it's necessary for this woman to be invited and I don't think it's necessary for her and her husband to be invited to the wedding.

Sidenote: We are inviting FI's sister's MIL b/c they've been married for about 15 years and FI has known the family since high school. FI's brother has been married for 3 years and like I've said we don't really see them at all. Another sidenote is we are paying for the entire wedding ourselves and we're cutting people from work that we're friends with and I'm not willing to pay for a couple that I don't care if they're there or not. Opinions? I have a feeling this is going to cause friction among his family.

JENL80 Posted: Apr 25, 2005 08:45 AM

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well, like you said you are paying for the wedding and i believe you should invite and not invite who you please, i don;t blame you for not wanting them there, i do not think it is necessary either. youre cutting out your friends to keep it small, so why should you cut out your friends but keep these people you harldy know on the list. i know it'll cause friction, but you have to do whats right for you and hopefully it will all work out. i am trying to do the same for us, we need to cut ours down cause we want it small and its stressful and crazy.
good luck

amyandbill Posted: Apr 25, 2005 10:54 AM

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We are inviting my sister's in-laws but that is because they are absolutely wonderful people. They are so good to my sister and are so sweet to me everytime I see them....they were the first people I got an engagement gift from and they live in Pennsylvania!
You only need to invite them if you WANT to it is definitely not a necessity.

jesslangen Posted: Apr 25, 2005 10:58 AM

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I didnt want to invite my sisters MIL but she told me its proper etiqutte....so, I did. Maybe I shouldnt have given in but my sister is my MOH and I don't want to make waves with her. She has done so much for me already.

ChrissynRicky Posted: Apr 25, 2005 11:01 AM

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Posted by JENL80

well, like you said you are paying for the wedding and i believe you should invite and not invite who you please, i don;t blame you for not wanting them there, i do not think it is necessary either. youre cutting out your friends to keep it small, so why should you cut out your friends but keep these people you harldy know on the list. i know it'll cause friction, but you have to do whats right for you and hopefully it will all work out. i am trying to do the same for us, we need to cut ours down cause we want it small and its stressful and crazy.
good luck

I agree! Very well put!