Shower Invite Wording - 'fiance of....'?

Hi everyone! I was hoping you girls could help me navigate a bridal shower wording issue - my latest dilema is that the grooms side would like for me to word the shower invite in such a way that his side will know who it is for since they never met the bride and apparently don't even know her name. The suggestion to me was ...' a shower in honor of MARY JANE, fiance of JOE SMITH'. My question to everyone is - is this offensive, degrading to the bride? I think it is and I told the person that suggested this to me as much. It sounds like I am referring to the bride as property of the groom.... but now I am wondering - am I overreacting?

I would prefer to word it something like .... 'In honor of the upcoming nuptials of Mary Jane and Joe Smith, you are invited to a bridal shower for Mary' or ...... 'Please help Mary Jane prepare for her nuptials to Joe Smith - join us for a bridal shower!.....'

Ughgh - is this normal? Has anyone else had to do this? Any suggestions on how to word it so it doesn't sound so ... i dunno... weird?

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I agree with you, I don't really care for their suggestion, I don't know if it's offensive, but it just doesn't sound right, I mean the invites are going to people the bride knows too, so then it sounds really weird.

Your ideas sound better and convey the same point.

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my sister had 'Fiancee of xx' on my invite and it did look nice; and I know his side of the family really thought it was a touching point, to include his name on the invite.

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I included my friend's finace's name on her shower invite, I don't thinki it is degrading to the bride, IMHO!

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If they dont know the brides name, They need to LEARN it. That doesnt sound right to write that!!! They will have to figure out who she is!!!!!!

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Just to let you know on the spelling:

Girl: fiancee
Guy: fiance

I think it is sad that they don't know her name. If you are going to be invited to any event I would think you need to know who you are honoring.

I like that version that you wrote:

I would prefer to word it something like .... 'In honor of the upcoming nuptials of Mary Jane and Joe Smith, you are invited to a bridal shower for Mary' or ......

I don't really care for the first suggested version but I think it is acceptable. I think it really emphasis that people don't know who she is.

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I agree with you. i don't like the way it is worded with fiance of.... the other way sounds nicer.

I agree that his name should be included, but there has to be a way to word it that sounds more elegant than just fiance of xyz

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My sister's shower invitation was worded that way, I thought it was fine.