Sick to my stomach....

PoppedInASnap Posted: Jan 31, 2008 05:10 PM

Sick to my stomach....

So, for those of you who do not know... my grandfather passed a couple of years ago. He was the person I consider to be my father... and without him I feel lost.

FH says I bring him up DAILY. But the reason isbecause, I can not believe he is gone...

Anyway... here is my problem. My Aunt, a terrible trash face b*tch who cares about nothing but her bleach blond hair and nails... who SMOKED NEXT TO HIM WHILE HE WAS ON AN OXYGEN TANK DYING OF LUNG CANCER.... took ALL OF HIS CLOTHES and put them under her BED.

Now, he hated her. We all hate her. However, my mother bought 90 percent of those clothes for him....

For my wedding I wanted to make my ring pillow out of one of his shirts, and, usehis shirt as the cloth for my bo-k and make a garder out of it. This way, he is LITERALLY walkiing with me down the aisle.

I e-mailed my uncle to ask him for TWO of the 100 items of clothing. And I was just informed that I may have caused a war...

I know its not my uncle.... its HER. But, why cant i have TWO PIECES OF HIS CLOTHING??? WHy cant i have two pieces when I HAVE NOTHING????

I do not know how he or she will respond... but i am sick to my stomach right now because of it...

After i sent it i said 'Geeze what did I do' but I wrote the letter so nice.... and nothing mean. But he is not on aol so i could not unsend it...

please keep me in your prayers that this does not blow out of proportion, as my nerves are a mess already....

Im a Pepper Posted: Jan 31, 2008 05:13 PM

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very sweet sentiments you have about your grandfather and including him in your wedding in so many ways! your aunt sounds difficult, but she can't possibly deny you articles of your beloved grandfather's clothing.... i don't think anyone can be that cruel!!!! don't worry too much until you get your response but i'm praying everything turns out ok with this!

Mrs B to Be Posted: Jan 31, 2008 05:17 PM

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your grandfather will be looking down on you no matter what the outcome. Its terrible that you have to deal with such stress over something that should be offered to you rather than asked for......i hope that it all works out, but should it not keep yourself focused on the good things in life, Maybe you could do the Bo-k memory charm as an alternative? Be the mature stronger person should the war begin.

PoppedInASnap Posted: Jan 31, 2008 05:17 PM

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she is cruel. If i can begin to tell you things shes done... like steals the old lady next doors mail so she wont pay her bills and be evicted so that she can take the apt... thats not even a bad one!!!!!

i really am just so sick right now... im waiting for fh to get off the train to i can talk to him. Im home alone right now and everyone is at work... so im just... thinking and thinking

Mikeys Meeme Posted: Jan 31, 2008 05:22 PM

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I'm so sorry you're going through this. Hope everything works out for you - I'll say a little prayer.

PoppedInASnap Posted: Jan 31, 2008 05:25 PM

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I was doing the charm with his picture... but, i wanted his shirt... i know it sounds nuts, and i am crying while writing this since im so sensitive, but its almost like im holding his hand... does that make sense?

my mom has his mandoline and guitar. She just told me (i called her crying) she wanted to hire someone to play them and his italian songs...

I dont know.... sorry girls, just wanted to know if i was over reacting

PoppedInASnap Posted: Jan 31, 2008 05:26 PM

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Posted by Mikeys Meeme

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Hope everything works out for you - I'll say a little prayer.

thank you. I appreciate that....

Im a Pepper Posted: Jan 31, 2008 05:43 PM

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it's hard not to be upset over something like this! if she can't appreciate why you want his shirts and if she doesn't want to give them to you, that's her cross to bear. grandpa WILL be wtih you, watching over you, no matter what on your day!!!!! and you're not overreacting!

PoppedInASnap Posted: Jan 31, 2008 05:57 PM

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Posted by Future Pepper

it's hard not to be upset over something like this! if she can't appreciate why you want his shirts and if she doesn't want to give them to you, that's her cross to bear. grandpa WILL be wtih you, watching over you, no matter what on your day!!!!! and you're not overreacting!

thank you. Alot.

MRSin2009 Posted: Jan 31, 2008 07:03 PM

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awww I am so sorry you have to even be hurt! You seem like such a nice and caring person.

If your aunt does not give you anything then you have proved your feelings about her are true. I do not see why someone would not give them to you.

I hope everything works out for you!

crazeee18 Posted: Jan 31, 2008 07:05 PM

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aww im soo sorry. U rdef in my prayers..Karma sux...its gonna come back and bite her in the as#

MrsDtoBe09 Posted: Jan 31, 2008 07:49 PM

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It'll all work out. I know it sounds hard, but dont get super upset about it. 2009 is a long time away - before then someone will fight this fight for you and get those shirts!

flairforfashion Posted: Jan 31, 2008 07:52 PM

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That is a sweet idea! I don't think this woman should be denying you of this- is there another family member that can get you his clothes for you????

xBrunette Posted: Jan 31, 2008 08:18 PM

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woah... what a beeotch!! there's is nothing wrong with giving you two pieces outta many... but no matter what happens he'll be walking down with you on your day and no one can take that away from you...

CMS Posted: Jan 31, 2008 08:25 PM

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I'm sooooo sorry you have to go through this You're idea for the shirts is so beautiful, I can't believe anybody would want to deny you that.

I hope this works out for you.

I'm just sorry I can't go over to your Aunt's house and get them for you myself!!!

ddnsp618 Posted: Jan 31, 2008 10:31 PM

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that is a really nice way to honor your grandpa and im sure the b-i-t-c-h will let you have two shirts. she needs to undersand that it is so important to you.

CNC4eva3402 Posted: Jan 31, 2008 10:44 PM

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Wow - what a piece of work! My friend has an aunt just like her so I know exactly what you are going through.

I am so sorry you have to deal with something like this. Your ideas are beautiful!! Remember though, you don't need to have his shirts there in your hands, or on your legs..because he's walking you down that isle now closer than ever - in your heart! And NOBODY can take that from you!

I hope that mental aunt of your finds it in your cold heart to give them to you!!

yngcpl92203 Posted: Jan 31, 2008 11:54 PM

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soo sorry. some people can be so rude and unsensitive. If you want a party of your grandfather with you on YOUR day there should be no issue. I hope everything works out for you.

PoppedInASnap Posted: Feb 01, 2008 10:30 AM

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Posted by crazeee18

aww im soo sorry. U rdef in my prayers..Karma sux...its gonna come back and bite her in the as#

It already has... she has severe problems, fromt anning her skin is like disgusting she looks 60 when shes 45..... and all her teeth are falling out from smoking!