Last night, I went out to pick up DH at a bus stop not to far from our house. On the way back, we're driving, and a car load of 20-something guys speeds up along side of us in one lane in order to pass us (just to get caught at a red light, I love when people do this)...they narrowly missed sideswiping us and all the cars parked next to the lane. They scared the ever loving crap out of dh and I, and I had to swerve out of the lane to avoid being hit. I honked like crazy and managed to pull back into the lane before we were rear-ended by the car behind us in the other land.
The punks that did it, pull up next to us, open their window and scream out 'YOU F'ING HO, C***, B****'. Dh freaked out, and started screaming at them, and giving them the finger...I got scared and hit the gas because there were 5 of them and 2 of us. They started following us and then sped off.
It all got me thinking about how little respect I have seen for women lately, and how furious it gets me. It started the day of the blackout when I saw grown men (boys I will call them) overrun pregnant women and older women and children, to get seats on a bus home. It infuriated me, and this capped it off.
I am so disillusioned with men it's not even funny. I know for a fact that my DH is not capable of acting this way towards a woman. Disrespecting them so that their safety is in danger. He was ready to take on 20 men the day of the blackout to get that pregnant woman a seat on the bus (a total stranger too) and he was ready to take on 5 very irrate punks last night to defend my honor.
Where are the rest of the men in this world with the BALLS anymore????? Why are so many men such complete wimp ASSHOLES with no BALLS? What were those guys going to do to me? They didn't see that my DH was in the car when they pulled up along side of me...were they going to try and fight me??? Because I honked at them when they nearly ran me into the middle of the road and oncoming traffic?!
I know a good majority of us are married to very good men. BUT WHO THE HELL ARE ALL OF THESE OTHER ANIMALS?!
LizD
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Christine - that's what I told her that next time I hoped the door slammed in her face and broke her nose!!!
Eroxogirl...LOL Ivory soap.. too funny. I remember that threat too. Ahh, the good old days!
I don't approve of ANY of this behavior...but I think the fact the chivalry is dying is a product of the women's liberation movement....
now being rude is one thing...but letting women go ahead and protecting them is exactly the stigma the women of yesteryear wanted to end...
its a double edge sword...if you ask me...
smooch
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Sorry, I do NOT think that the women's movement should be to blame. You tell me you'd rather someone think you were dumb, stupid, weak, inferior, and more, just so you can have the door opened for you? I'm capable of opening my own door. If someone gets there before me, I'd hope they'd hold it for me, as I do for others. If the person who gets there before me is a man, then I don't think he's being chilvarous by holding it for me, I think he's being polite, which is all I ask of people anyway. If I was the woman your dad held the door for, I'd thank him with a nice smile, because that's all it takes.
This morning on my way in, the woman in front of me let the door slam in my face. She had no manners.
But come on, the women's movement is giving us equal opportunity. We got the right to vote. Imagine not being able to vote. Imagine having NO rights in the workplace. Women were inferior objects until the women's movement brought about the freedom we deserve.
Chivalry, or respect, or manners, is dead because parents don't take the time or energy to TEACH and DEMAND it. It all starts at home...
kmcwed
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Well said.
It's true the women's movement has been a wonderful thing for all women, and if the tradeoff is getting a few doors slammed in our faces, I suppose it's better than how it used to be for women when they had no rights.
BUT..... I still think the movement has changed the idea of women needing to be treating with honor and respect.
I agree that everyone, no matter what their sex, should be treated with respect and manners, and that it should be taught to our children, whether they are boys or girls.
But I still feel (and maybe I'm old fashioned at heart) that a woman should be treated nicely and with chivalry, if only for the fact that she is the fairer (not weaker) sex. Not to mention the fact that while men may work hard all day, it's still a woman who not only works outside the home, but INSIDE it as all, bears and raises the children, carries more emotional burdens (because we are biologically more emotional), and is essentially the backbone of any family. For THAT, I expect to be treated like a Queen...well, at least to have my doors held!!
LizD
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Kmcwed - Well said! I agree. We are all Queens and should be treated that way. Like you said, women have so many jobs and roles in today's society we have earned to be treated with nothing respect !!
