Sit down for this one!

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:28 PM

Sit down for this one!

I am trying to get back into a big fortune 500 co.

I use to work for Enron and now I am in a smaller financial Co..

Anyway the HR girl told me ( I am going back for a second) and she said ..

Theresa.. Maybe you should put a rinse in your hair bc in the corpoate world blonde haired girls aren't taken with alot of respect..Just get the job and then take the rinse out!

I said YOU HAVE TO be kidding me.......

I am going to GET This JOB if it kills me now JUST FOR That!

What do you girls think?

NovemberSue Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:31 PM

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I think thats bull&$%#!

allure Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:32 PM

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I say you go girl not everyone can be a blonde and sounds like someone may be a little jealous!GO FOR IT!

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:33 PM

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I think these HR people Really are mean..

She tells me what to wear for an interview like I don't know..

Suit, heels , glasses, hair pulled back..

DUHHHH!

IrishTracy Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:35 PM

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I can NOT believe she said that!!!! I would have laughed & said you ARE kidding right??? That is the stupidst thing I've ever heard. Your resume speaks for you not your looks!!! That woman is a MORON!!!! I wonder if the higher ups know that she says these things??

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:37 PM

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Yes..

BC I met with headhunter on Monday I think and she said Theresa.. You should darken your hair.

I said FOR WHAT..

What does my hair color have to do with what I am able to do at work.. I said PLease get over it..

and she said DON'T wear the E ring on the interview..

I wonder where they get their guidelines!

tsm76 Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:42 PM

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That's ridiculous.

I have to say what she said about the E Ring makes me paranoid, I worry about my rings now with interviews. I wonder if they think I'll be less dedicated because I'm married, may want to have a family etc.
It ****s we have to think about these things but I admit it crosses my mind for interviews. Anyone else feel this way?

MichelleW Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:43 PM

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Was this a headhunter that said this..I'm cofused

boosh78201 Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:44 PM

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She had a hell of a nerve to say that to you!! Im a blond also and I was never stereotyped for the color of my hair. She was probably just jealous.

IrishTracy Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:46 PM

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Don't wear your ring???????? This agency is out of their minds!!! What does you getting married in the future have to do w/ your work? If you're getting married this year you would have to tell them so that they are aware in advanced that you want a few weeks off for your honeymoon. Believe me the new company would apprecitate the honesty. It amazes me what some of these people say. I went on an interview & they gave me the whole wear your hair up, suit ect.... The place was DISGUSTING!!! And everyone was in jeans!!! WTF?? Have you ever noticed that the people that work at the agencies don't dress the way they want you to??!!

Misty Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:47 PM

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This is like something out of the movie Working Girl. lol.

IrishTracy Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:47 PM

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tsm-they are not allowed to ask about family!! It's none of there buisness!!

chmlengr Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:48 PM

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I don't get it - at this stage in time, someone would make those king of remarks? I'm not buying something here. Maybe because I'm not in the financial sector, but I don't get it

CathyB Posted: Jan 23, 2003 12:57 PM

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THe hair comment is totally out of line, but I know a lot of women who don't wear their e-rings or wedding bands on interviews. I had a boss who passed on women who were engaged or married b/c their assumption was that you are family oriented and will leave soon to have kids. I didn't wear my e-ring when I was interviewing last year, just in case.

Meanwhile, it's always a positive for guys to be married, b/c it shows that they have stability in their lives. I really hate double standards.

WishCandy Posted: Jan 23, 2003 01:02 PM

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T- unfortunately this woman is right. I was told the same thing when I was looking for a job. The whole e-ring thing. The co. will look down upon because they think that as soon as women get married, the next thing is them having kids, etc. which leads too all sorts of leaves of absences. It is a stereotype, but unfortunately a lot of big co. feel that way.
The whole hair color thing tho - I never heard - but then again I'm in the communications field - not business. I have heard that comment from a business teacher I had a while ago.
I think if you want the job that bad - then do what the headhunter says - she's not going to steer you in the wrong direction - because she wants the $.

WithThisRing Posted: Jan 23, 2003 01:08 PM

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I did some temp work for the UN, woking with there HR department and assisting with redifining there HR policies and what this HR person said is wrong.

You need to get a copy of there policies and procedures and look into talking to the head of HR.

Also, on a job interview if you get asked a question regarding marriage or your ring, you can simply say 'what does this have to do with my job performance'

something to that nature.
I read it somewhere on Monster.com that they can not judge you upon wearing a ring.

Also if they hired you lets say with 10 piercings in your face, blue hair then 2 months later say oh no you cant do that, you can bring up the point of well you hired me upon looking like this.

HR is a tricky deal. You have to read between all the lines.

Definatly get a copy of the policies and procedures.

JENHOS Posted: Jan 23, 2003 01:15 PM

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Sad but it happens. My first job was at JP Morgan and my headhunter dictated what I should wear on the interview down the pearls and stocking color.
The hair color thing I haven't heard. I guess some people go with the stereo type. I am a brunette so can't relate on that one. I now work for a big financial company and was interviewing while I was engaged and needed to be upfront about the time I was going to need off for the wedding. It didn't seem to be a problem. And I interviewed with both a man and women.

T- If you want this job bad enough I wouldn't make waves as far as speaking to the head of HR. But I wouldn't alter anything about yourself. Your resume should tell them all they need to know. Good Luck. I hope you get it!!!