Slightly bummed! **with edit

Little background...FH's mom's best friend is a lead designer at a popular florist who has done many of the weddings i've been to. Tonight we went to go meet with her because i've changed my mind (yes again) and we had to go over the flowers. Because she is one of FMIL's closest friends, she will be invited to my shower. Now i have no idea when my shower is, or where it is and i want to keep it that way!! I am dying for the surprise. When we got to her house tonight we sat down and she opened her books where she keeps her paperwork. Well right there on the very top was a gorgeous invitation. So i said 'wow what a beautiful (bridal shower) invitation. Then i realized it had my name on it. I quickly averted my eyes so i wouldnt see the date and she grabbed the invite and threw it down so i wouldnt see it. FH was like this He was mortified. Didnt say anything there cause we didnt want her to feel bad but we were both annoyed. Why would you keep that in the book knowing we were coming or just in general. How wrong is that?! So we got home and FH told FMIL what happened...her face too was this and she kept saying are you kidding?? THEN...she turns around and says 'well you kept saying you were going to have a shower, now this just confirms it.' I felt like saying 'do you really need to piss me off right now?'

Edit: i made FH and FMIL promise they wouldnt let my mom/sisters/friends know what happened because i dont want them to be upset...they are doing everything they can to keep it a secret and throw me off

do you really think she did that on purpose? i highly doubt it. and, at the end of a work day, i'm sure the last thing she was thinking was let me move her shower invite so that she doesn't see it.

did you see the date, time or location? if not, then there's no reason for you to be upset. all you know is that your shower invites are out, that's all.

I'm sorry Linda!!!!! I think it was an absent minded thing on her part. I don't think she intentionally left the invite in your folder. Just a bad coincidence. I also think your FMIL was a little out of line saying what she said. Like we really demand to have a shower!!!!

If she's your florist, what was your shower invite doing in your wedding flower folder???

SMOOCHES AND HUGS FOR YOU!

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Posted by Annoulak

do you really think she did that on purpose? i highly doubt it. and, at the end of a work day, i'm sure the last thing she was thinking was let me move her shower invite so that she doesn't see it.

did you see the date, time or location? if not, then there's no reason for you to be upset. all you know is that your shower invites are out, that's all.

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agreed! its still going to be a surprise!

I definitely explained it incorrectly in my post....im not mad at our florist...i was more or less disappointed that i saw anything related to it. I saw May and the #2 within it so i can probably figure out the date if i tried but i dont want to. I was more or less bummed that i saw the actual invite. I know she didnt do it on purpose at all...thus the reason im not mad at her. Maybe it was me just being anal and wondering why my shower invite was in with the florist orders...maybe i feel the need to organize her paperwork for her I really feel bad because my mom, FH, my sisters and bp are trying SOOOOOOOO HARD to throw me off. They are really trying for the big surprise and i guess why i feel so bad is because i dont want to take that away from them especially since they are trying so hard! Does it make sense or am i rambling? lol

That's a great idea!! TY

oops...double post again

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Posted by Annoulak

do you really think she did that on purpose? i highly doubt it. and, at the end of a work day, i'm sure the last thing she was thinking was let me move her shower invite so that she doesn't see it.

did you see the date, time or location? if not, then there's no reason for you to be upset. all you know is that your shower invites are out, that's all.

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agreed
i dont think its a reason to be 'really upset' or disappointed or even vent honestly

you knew you were going to have a shower
you didnt find out any details so as someone else said, all you know is invites went out

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Posted by Snowflake08

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Posted by Annoulak

do you really think she did that on purpose? i highly doubt it. and, at the end of a work day, i'm sure the last thing she was thinking was let me move her shower invite so that she doesn't see it.

did you see the date, time or location? if not, then there's no reason for you to be upset. all you know is that your shower invites are out, that's all.

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agreed
i dont think its a reason to be 'really upset' or disappointed or even vent honestly

you knew you were going to have a shower
you didnt find out any details so as someone else said, all you know is invites went out

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See above post that i posted...first post came out wrong...the one above shows why i was bummed.

ok i gotcha

you know what
as it gets closer to your day, you will be so busy with things, you will actually forget the date or any date with the #2 in it and it will all be a big blur

dont worry

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Posted by Snowflake08

ok i gotcha

you know what
as it gets closer to your day, you will be so busy with things, you will actually forget the date or any date with the #2 in it and it will all be a big blur

dont worry

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TY...i completely agree. As much as i dont want to know the date for myself, i dont want to let my mom, FH and my bm down because i found out what they were trying to hide from me on accident. I am definitely feeling better. At least now i can prepare a cute outfit!

#1) At least you didn't see the details ... I mean, it wasn't a surprise THAT you're having a shower, just WHEN and WHERE, right?

#2) At least you know they picked out really nice invitations!

#3) I think most bride's that are being surprised end up figuring out 1 or 2 weekends that its likely to be (based on things being bought off the registry, or 'fake' parties or events that your family invites you to ... you just figured that out early

I dont think she did it to show you! She most likely was showing it off to other people and left it there!
At least you know your invites are pretty!

Awww I'm sorry you saw the invite. I can kinda relate since I know when my shower is but I wanted everything else to be a surprise but everyone is telling me EVERYTHING but at the end of the day, i'm just happy that my fam/friends love me enough to put such an effort into this for me. It's ok, it will still be a surprise and like you said, now u can have that cute outfit prepared