small vent...FILs

I thought my parents were the only crazy ones...turns out, my future in-laws have their own little things that are going to drive us mad.

For those who don't know, FH and I live in DC; his parents like about an hour away, near Baltimore. We are planning a trip up to NY next month to do our tasting and invited his folks along because we thought it would be nice for them to get involved, see the place we are getting married, visit with my parents, get the lay of the land (they've never been to LI), etc., etc. So I went ahead and reserved them a hotel room at the place where we have our room block...got a nice rate, too, but when we told FILs, they informed us that they were not planning to spend the weekend in LI with us. Instead, they were going to drive as far as NJ, stay with FFIL's brother and his wife Sat nite, then drive Sunday to LI for the tasting and drive home right after! I wasn't sure whether to be hurt or insulted or both. I kinda feel like, gee, why even bother making the trip? It's not like we'll have a lot of quality time at a tasting with all sorts of other couples and their parents in the same room.

AGH, why are we the only ones who see this wedding as a uniting of two families?! None of our parents seem interested.

Awwwwwe! I feel for you. My FMIL never even returned my numerous parents calls after we got engaged, and to make it worse, she has only met my mother and father once in the last 5 and a half years...She's not to in to the whole 'family' thing.

Well, maybe she his parents don't get to see your FH's uncle that often and this is a chance for them? Try to think positively. It's be ok, like everyone tells me, you are marrying your FH, not you FIls.

Hi Alison. I totally feel your pain! I too am trying to unite my NY family with my future DC family and no one seems too interested either.

What I've learned is that you have to let people do what they want even if it makes no sense to you or makes you totally crazy At least they are going to the tasting right?

Hang in there.

Hey Alison! I understand how you fell. You totally made the effort and they stopped short of 1/4 of the way (not even 1/2 way). That s****s but please don't give up on them. They are coming to the tasting, which is good! They probably just didn't understand what an important and good opportunity this was and instead they are trying to cram a whole lot into the weekend rather than taking time and enjoying and spending quality time together. The most important thing is to not take it personally and just let it roll. I am very sorry they just don't get it!!

Perhaps your FH can talk to them and explain so that next time you make the effort they are more respectful of it. they may want to take the opportunity, they may just not have realized it was there.
Good luck, and enjoy your tasting!!!! FUNNN!!!!!!

Thanks guys. I think FH is going to talk to his dad about this today.

Always fun, eh?