I need a final count on who is doing hair and makeup and I emailed all the girls today. So my cousin who is a BM says the following:
Okay...honestly I can't afford to pay for my hair and make up if hair is going to be 85. I definitely want my make up done. But if I have to I will go to my cousin for my hair I'm sorry but being a college student I can't afford both! I hope you understand
OK HELLO IM GOING TO SCHOOL, PAYING $30,000 for you to eat and drink on my dime and you cant spend $$$$ on hair? THen you want me to spend $$$$ on a limo for your 21st bday party? which is the same amount of money for me and Fh?
For her sisters wedding I spent over $500 between the dress and makeup which she got a good deal on since it was her dad's cousin sorry if my girl needs to make $ to cover her not being in the salon all day.
ok vent over I guess I am being a bridezilla who wants to get ready with all my girls together and not have to worry where people are and if they are going to be late. Im on a tight schedule since we have to travel like 20 mins to the church.
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Vent away...I would maybe ask her to be at your place (or wherever you are getting ready) but the time your styliest gets there so you can still enjoy your day with the girls
CantWait2Wed
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To be honest, everyone's situation is different. Try not to be mad at her
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I completely understand and you ARE NOT being a bridezilla. What the hell is wrong with people!!!!!!!!! Did she not know this months ago give me an effin break!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am having an issue with my girls too because people wanna chop their hair of and don't know if they want it done anymore!!!!! It would have been great to know before I got the 3rd hair stylist and put down an effin deposit How do you not know if you want hair and makeup for a wedding!!!!!!!!!
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Are you doing pics at your house? For my cousins wedding - my sis and I decided to get our hair and make up done - not with my cousin...we showed up to her house while they were taking family pics - threw our dresses on and were ready in perfect time for BP pics....plus we had our own car - so we made it to the venue before the limo and were ready to go! HTH - it's little things like this that will stress you out....go with the flow = breathe and what ever it is it is! Vent away!
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To be honest, everyone's situation is different. Try not to be mad at her
I agree. Weddings can be expensive to participate in and I think the bride should be sensitive to that. I understand your frustration but don't think you're being fair.
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I didn't pay to get my hair done at a friend's wedding because with all the added expenses of the hotel, etc. I couldn't afford the extra cash so I did it myself. I rather put it toward the gift.
This is also the reason I am paying for my girls hair as part of their gift.
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I'm getting ready at the hotel. They live allllll the way out east. I undrstand but they knew about this for 2 years!!!!!! So now they are foing to ask the girl who is doing our make up to do their hair because she won't charge them 'an arm and a leg'. If it was her wedding I wouldn't care if it was $100 that's part of being in a wedding.
jgold910
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ahhh didn't know they knew about it for 2 years - they could have easily saved and prepared - upset is ok.....
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i agree. 2 of my bms couldnt do hair or makeup bec its expensive-- hair 85--makeup 55-- i just asked them 2 be on time and wasnt mad.. with the shower and all the wedding expenses--- its a lot of $$. i wouldnt want them to feel like they have to sell an arm and a leg to be my BM's. thats just me. not everyone has the same financial situation.
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To be honest, everyone's situation is different. Try not to be mad at her
I agree. Weddings can be expensive to participate in and I think the bride should be sensitive to that. I understand your frustration but don't think you're being fair.
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I'm getting ready at the hotel. They live allllll the way out east. I undrstand but they knew about this for 2 years!!!!!! So now they are foing to ask the girl who is doing our make up to do their hair because she won't charge them 'an arm and a leg'. If it was her wedding I wouldn't care if it was $100 that's part of being in a wedding.
Again, just try to be understanding. Knowing about something for two years is understandable but financial problems sometimes can't be avoided. Is it really worth being annoyed at her for? My MOH isn't staying at the hotel the night of because she can't afford it. I was annoyed at first but then I realized that it's my day, not hers and she shouldn't have to feel forced into spending money she may or may not have.
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I'm getting ready at the hotel. They live allllll the way out east. I undrstand but they knew about this for 2 years!!!!!! So now they are foing to ask the girl who is doing our make up to do their hair because she won't charge them 'an arm and a leg'. If it was her wedding I wouldn't care if it was $100 that's part of being in a wedding.
Understandable but things come up and you asked for a head count because it was an option, right? So they had the choice of wether or not they wanted to get it done. I completly understand your point sometimes people just have other priorities.
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I really don't understand why you care wether she does or does not use your people who are obviously out of her price range. She vas very nice about it.. this is not a tit for tat situation just because you paid such and such amount for her SISTER'S wedding. She's being upfront and honest. Still... I personally don't understand when people get mad over this stuff, it seems petty.
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honestly... I feel like you can't really force her to get her hair professionally done at that price... I have been in situations like that before. I am not requiring my BMs to get their hair or makeup professionally done because I don't want to put the pressure on them financially.
Maybe ask if she can have her cousin or whoever is going to do her hair come to the hotel so that all of you can get everything done together?
kimmaymb20
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Whatever I guess I'm such a bad person that I want everyone to use the same people. I haven't asked for anything from mt girls whatever I wanted to vent but now I feel even worse thanks alor.
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Don't be more upset - people are trying to comfort you - even though it's probably the last thing you want to hear....I understand where you're coming from - other's are trying to make you see from the other point of view that's all - don't loose sleep over it!
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Whatever I guess I'm such a bad person that I want everyone to use the same people. I haven't asked for anything from mt girls whatever I wanted to vent but now I feel even worse thanks alor.
I don't want you to feel bad. We all have our moments, just try to look at the bigger picture and don't let people stress you out! It's not worth it. Like I said, I was in a similar situation and I was sick to my stomach over it, I didn't mean to make you feel bad and I'm sorry if I did- I'm not that person!
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Everything will turn out fine Kimmy.. It's your big day, just ask them to be there when you start getting your hair and makeup done. This way they can be part of the getting ready process.
Feel better...
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Vent Away!!! Also though, try to take things in stride. Talk to her about it, And see if you guys can work anything out
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This is why I am telling my BM.. U can either Choose, YOU come to the HOTEL & get the Mkae up/hair don there.. or Come already READY to the Hotel at xxx time... Whichever is better & cheaer ffor U, BUT i prefer u to be with me at the hotel....
