How would you feel if your flower girls mother picks out the flower girl dress herself and then buys the flower girl dress and head-piece without telling you AND THEN asks for your opinion much later on...
cc2011
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Posted by ImgonnabeMrsC
ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh i just read back..holy god. that is rude! and a veil!? is she trying to take away from your day?!
slap that woman.
tell her you had another idea for a dress and its your day ! tell her the dress is nice but you prefer to have it off white to match your dress bc your photographer said so. that way pics wont clash. do it do it!
I'm sooooooooooo pissed about this, I have no idea how to say anything w/o looking like a total bitccch! In fact, I don't even wannnnnaaaaaaaaaa be nice to her! I wanna let her have it for real!!!
I'm not worried that the veil would take away at all...but, it looks like its her communion! It's ugly and tacky in my opinion!!!
ItalianBella1122
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Ok, first of all, BREATHE woman! You're gunna have a heart attack!
Yes, I would be extremely annoyed too! Especially about this dress being white while yours is ivory. I think that alone is reason enough to ask her to return it.
I think you should just go for it and tell her that its not what you wanted and you would like her to return it. I'm sure you are trying to be the bigger person here, but at this point, she is making decisions for your wedding. And the FG is just as much a part of the BP as anyone else. She was wrong to not consult you and she should have to exchange it for something of your choice, period!
MandMwedding
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I can't believe she did that!! She should of asked for your opinion before purchasing it! I have my friend who's young daughter isn't in the BP and still wants my opnion on a dress for her!!
If you do not like it, then definitely say something. Make her return it!
Moonmist09
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if you really are at the point where you don't care what your FG wears, then i would say let her keep the dress. it may not be what you wanted but its not like your going to see all that much of it in pictures and trust me, no one really cares what she will be wearing that day.
HOWEVER, i would never, in a million years, let my FG wear a tiara, headpiece, whatever, that had a veil attached to it! she can wear one at her communion and on her wedding day if she wants! BE REAL! i would straight up tell your SIL no that she can't wear that and if you want her to wear something else, you can purchase it for her, i wouldn't trust her to buy anything else at this point.
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Posted by justnicethings
I'd be really pissed. If you don't like the dress, politely ask her if she has a receipt.
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adelz
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I would sit down with her and just let her know how much you appreciate her helping you out, but if it's possible, would be great if you guys can find another dress only because you had a certain vision in your head. Maybe offer to pay for the difference between the two dresses? I only say this because family drama should be avoided as much as possible and then just kindly ask her not to wear the veil. I think she'd understand, and if she gets annoyed by it, at least you did your part in a nice and calm fashion. And then she'll get over it.
