so fh and dad bonding didnt go as great as i thought..

latinaj Posted: Dec 15, 2009 04:58 PM

so fh and dad bonding didnt go as great as i thought..

this past saturday my dad and fh spent about 3 hours putting together a dining room set that my dad bought us for xmas... i thought it was a great moment for them to bond and at the time i enjoyed every second of it!
they laughed, argued, drank, manly things...

anyway, today my mom tells me that my dad thinks fh is lazy and in other words not good enough for his daughter...

a little background on fh is that
1. hes never lived on his own
2. he has no idea how to use tools (this is slowly changing since we've moved in togehter...but i got to admit the first few months were a huge challenge!!!)
3. he lacks a little of common sense when it comes to buidling things, using tools, etc(sorry fh i love u, but u really do!!)

i feel terrible..fh is great, he's not handy but i am a bit.. and together we can learn....

idk what to do, should i confront dad? tell fh? i'm so torn

ps..i'm a huge daddy's girl... HUGE .. sort of sickening lol

RitasEngaged Posted: Dec 15, 2009 04:59 PM

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YEAH I WOULD JUST TALK TO YOUR DAD

Clover23 Posted: Dec 15, 2009 04:59 PM

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no one will ever be good enough for daddy's little girl. whatever you do, do NOT tell FH this - his relationship with your dad may be forever changed by it. men are sensitive about things like that. JMO

little j Posted: Dec 15, 2009 04:59 PM

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aww. im sorry. your FH will get better. and he should show your dad. as long as he is trying and doesnt quit, i think that says something!

did your mom tell you that confidentialy? if so, i probably wouldnt bring it up

RitasEngaged Posted: Dec 15, 2009 05:00 PM

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Posted by Clover23

no one will ever be good enough for daddy's little girl. whatever you do, do NOT tell FH this - his relationship with your dad may be forever changed by it. men are sensitive about things like that. JMO

ITA

latinaj Posted: Dec 15, 2009 05:00 PM

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Posted by little j

aww. im sorry. your FH will get better. and he should show your dad. as long as he is trying and doesnt quit, i think that says something!

did your mom tell you that confidentialy? if so, i probably wouldnt bring it up

idk..we were just talking and she brought it up.....she said that noone will ever be good enough for my dad

scatteredx12 Posted: Dec 15, 2009 05:01 PM

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Posted by little j

aww. im sorry. your FH will get better. and he should show your dad. as long as he is trying and doesnt quit, i think that says something!

did your mom tell you that confidentialy? if so, i probably wouldnt bring it up

i agree. hopefully your dad sees that at least fh is trying!! he'll get better over time... imo, i wouldn't bring it up because fh might not look at your dad the same anymore... try talking to your dad about it and maybe he'll see it from a different point of view.

halfbaked Posted: Dec 15, 2009 05:01 PM

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Whatever you do, don't tell FH! That's the kind of thing that nobody wants to hear. My dad and FH are both very handy so I can't say anything on that front, but I agree with you- it's a learning experience. I'd go and talk to your dad about it though if he's really upset.

Rosalind_75 Posted: Dec 15, 2009 05:01 PM

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my fh has never lived on his own.

sounds like your fh just isnt good with tool/building things. is that it? i mean really.

i think you should tell your pops to chill a little.
not in those words.

RitasEngaged Posted: Dec 15, 2009 05:01 PM

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Posted by latinaj

Posted by little j

aww. im sorry. your FH will get better. and he should show your dad. as long as he is trying and doesnt quit, i think that says something!

did your mom tell you that confidentialy? if so, i probably wouldnt bring it up

idk..we were just talking and she brought it up.....she said that noone will ever be good enough for my dad

THAT IS TRUE BUT HE DIDN'T NEED TO SAY HE WAS LAZY

FutureLW Posted: Dec 15, 2009 05:02 PM

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Not every guy is handy and into tools...you could bring that up to your dad. Whatever you do though, don't tell FH! It might hurt his feelings too much and it doesnt seem worth it. No one will ever be good enough for you in your dad's eyes

latinaj Posted: Dec 15, 2009 05:03 PM

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Posted by Rosalind_75

my fh has never lived on his own.

sounds like your fh just isnt good with tool/building things. is that it? i mean really.

i think you should tell your pops to chill a little.
not in those words.

yeah fh never hammered a nail...lol sounds funny

but really i put up most things in our apt...

oh and he hurt himself while putting up our blinds...

awww i love him, he's just not handy...whats wrong w/that?

Future Mrs P Posted: Dec 15, 2009 05:06 PM

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I am a huge daddy's girl as well. My dad absolutely loves my FH, but he gives him a hard time about everything. I think FH realized that he just wants the best for me. As an aside, FH was not very handy either, but we moved into our new house in August and the first thing we did was rip out the kitchen (which is still in progress ) and honestly he's gotten so much better. I know I always say things to my dad how proud I am of FH and what hes doing so he realizes that.

latinaj Posted: Dec 15, 2009 05:06 PM

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THAT IS TRUE BUT HE DIDN'T NEED TO SAY HE WAS LAZY

exactly!

NanandEric08 Posted: Dec 15, 2009 05:07 PM

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I would definitely talk to your dad but don't tell FH. FH will definitely be insulted and it will never be the same between him and your dad. Your dad is always going to think you can do better, no matter who you brought home, because your his baby girl. Regardless of that your father thinks now, I am sure as time passes and he realizes how happy you are with your FH, he will get over it.

AwaitingAugust Posted: Dec 15, 2009 05:11 PM

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My FH is very un-handy also :) At one point, we bought a new picture to hang on the wall and he said he will call his friend to help him hang it ... i thought that was hilarious and we ended up doing it on our own within 10 minutes :)

Anyway, don't worry about your FH not being handy.

As for the main issue, I'm not sure talking to your father would have any affect ... your dad will have to see over time that your FH is a good guy. Maybe you can have your mom talk to him :)