So frustrated ...long. sorry

I am sorry to vent to you ladies but I know you will understand. As I am sure many of your emember my sister is my MOH. For many this is a wonderful thing. For me it has been less than wonderful. My sister planned her second wedding for just about one month after ours in Florida. She got engaged 2 years after us and ever since then it has been all about her. Again. She has not been happy or excited for usm, hasn't planned with me or anything. I have given up on her being supportive and will deal with it as long as she isnt taking away from the day.

Well, this week at our fittings all she could talk about was when we would schedule HER bridal fitting or when I would get my dress fitted for HER wedding. I let it slide, took a big breath and walked away.

Fast forward to yesterday when I get a text message saying 'Do not under any circumstances make plans for June12' So i think ot myself, that is a friday and I work and have a dinner to go to after school. I aske dher if she meant the 13th. She said no that I would need to be in Massapequa at 4pm. Impossible since I get out of work at 3:30. I told her that to which she replied 'Well this is when it is going to be so get coverage and get there.' ***?! I know this is about my bach party and i said back 'Well it can't be that time if the bride cant be there now can it?!'

It turns out my sister made plans to fly to her wedding venue and finish her wedding planning well after the original date of my bach party had been set. so once again, our wedding is being scheduled around HERS. I am just so hurt and annoyed. this is the one day I can be selfish and say its about ME...not HER. And yet she is making it about her. I just wish I had a MOH that was lookign to my our day special no matter what, not when it is convenient for her. I am just so sad. Id ont even want a bach party now. The fun has been taken out of it...thanks for listening ladies.

That *****, I am so sorry she's being so selfish and self-centered. Do you think you can talk to the rest of your BP and see if you can plan your bachelorette party with them - and without her? If she is going to fly off to Florida during your planned stuff, that's her issue - not yours.

im so sorry u r going through this..esp someone as sweet as u

sad as it is to say..weddings sometimes really bring out the worst in people..inmo she is being very selfish and thoughtless...if u feel up to it maybe try talking to her..if not or if she blows u off..u keep doing what u gotta do..u deserve the best wdding day and dont let anyone take that from you...hopefully she will come around if not its her loss

fm me anytime u want to talk..hope u feel better

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20

Thanks ladies. Unfortunately my sister doesnt see herself as doing anything wrong. I fear that my talking to her would be nothing but a waste of energy. She just doesn't get it. Life has ALWAYS been about her.

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I am really sorry you are going through this, it is totally unfair. I know what you mean about not being able to talk to her about it because she will not listen, or understand. I have someone in my life who is selfish like this. I am sorry that this is your sister/MOH.

Sorry you have to put up with this...

Sory you have to deal with this Lauren

Lauren Im sooo sorry she is doing htis to you again
Is there anyway you can talk to her?

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20

Thanks ladies. Unfortunately my sister doesnt see herself as doing anything wrong. I fear that my talking to her would be nothing but a waste of energy. She just doesn't get it. Life has ALWAYS been about her.

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Gosh do I feel the same way you do. My sister is also my MOH and refuses to do anything for the wedding. Your situation is different because she is getting married too. I am so sorry that people never see their own faults. She should be be doing this to you at all and my advice is for you to put your foot down.
If I understood what you wrote correctly...I would tell her that you cannot go with her to her venue. Its your bach party and just oh well. JMO but sometimes you need to be mean when people dont see how much they are hurting you.
Feel better!

ah sorry you are feeling that way. . you should have someone to step up for you. . that said, do what you want with your girls and don't make your plans around her. . if she can't make it. too bad. . this is your time. .