Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz
Posted by xosweetiexo
Awwww Im so sorry!!!![]()
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Yea, he prob just knew that you would be angry about it and figured it would be best just to lie over and over b/c if you dont have proof- he cant be guilty. I agree, if he continued to lie about it I would have flipped out.
Is he finally admitting the truth or is he still pleading his case? DH will plead his case unless I have actual proof.... he says that he 'didnt tell me because he knew it would hurt me or that I would be upset' well, Im more upset finding out the truth later and that you lied about it![]()
yep, you described exactly how im feeling... what happened was his best friend's fiance mentioned something that didnt exactly match a detail DH told me... i said something right after in front of his friends... he STILL denied it with this stupid asss smirk on his face.... so then I asked again later on when no one was around and he finally confessed.... it really makes you wonder.... 1 thing i hate is liars... if ive ever felt bad about something, i tell him without him ever having to ask... apparently he is incapable of feeling guilt....
Im going to look at a different angle for a moment, but with the caveat that:
1. I am NOT taking his side,
2. I am NOT condoning he lied to you.
So.
Obviously something happened that he KNEW would piss you off. You said no strippers, and there were strippers. You said no lap dace and there was a lap dance.
The issue her is NOT what he did, rather he lied to you about it. But its still not cool that he did SOMETHING.
I think you should let the incident go. It happened, it ****** and he was an ******* for doing something you asked him not to do. I say let it go. You cant change it. Plus if you DONT let it go its going to eat you. Did you read about what you said? Somethig about wanting to get all the other little details and have them come out.
I think that this is one of those things that will just eat you alive the more you dig, and look, and question, and e-mail, and text about it with his friends and their sig others. Its not worth your time or your energy to keep catching him in the lies. He lied. Does it matter that you find out 3 details from person 1, half a detail from person 2, and so on? Then everyone is going to be talking about how YOU are a real Queen B and wont shut up about it. They wont want to be around you because you are interogating everyone at every turn.
Again, I want to be clear that im looking at this from a different perspective. I dont condone anything he did and dont think your wrong!
So I say let the incident go. its NOT worth it.
Now.
Second is, do you trust him? I think you do. Did he cheet on you? Surely not.
Even all that aside, I think you are just pissed and angry and hurt he lied to you. I think its worth it for you to really talk to him and tell him that you are hurt, and getting lied to is something that is a real problem for you. He prob think that lying to you is ok since he sparing your feelings. It might spare you for the incident, but not the LYING.
Have a real conversation with him and tell him how hurtful the lying is to you. Ask him to tell you what happened and you need to know from him because when people are talking about it they are laughing AT you, not with you.
Tell him that as far as your concerned you have this convo and its over. You will let it go and move on.
But he cant lie anymore.
He just doesent get it, and I think by having a REAL convo he will. He does not see your side and he needs to.
But talk about it, and move on, let it go and dont look back. When its over, its over and enjoy being married.
men.
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