UPDATE: thanks girls! im not as mad as i was... it is the fact that he lied repeatedly that bothers me... what actually happened, i can forgive and forget (and no, it wasnt the typical no stripper/no lap dance etc worry that some girls have... had nothing to do with girls)
i just needed to vent and its good to hear all points of view from you girls... thanks!
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It depends on what he lied about...if he lied about going somewhere or having a stripper then yes I would be hurt that I heard about it from someone else but I dont think I would go on rampage because it was one night at his bach party.....however if he crossed the line and cheated or had something done to him or vise versa then I would flip.
i think a lot of times guys try to shelter us not because they want to lie but because they don't want to hurt us (I agree that they shouldn't do anything to hurt us...but at a bach party things happen and as long lines are not crossed let them have that night) but maybe he was just trying to protect you from that....but like I said if it was totally over the line then give him h e l l
Im sorry you are dealing with this.
ita..i think sometimes they just do it to protect us...i gues i would be pissed bout what exactly he lied about(but im totally with you,should be no lying in the first pace)...i woud tell him im more pissed i had to find out from someone else rather than him
im sorry u r dealing with this and i hope it all works out
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I really, truely, honestly believe...he is not enjoying lying to you, BUT..he wants to spare ur feelings at all costs.so he feels he has to. I was in the same situation sooo many times, he looked me in the eye and lied! I stayed mad for a week, then told myself....why would he tell me the truth...id prolly take a leg off. Its very fustrating when dealing with it, VERY, but remember...he walked down the aisle with you for a reason...cause he loves you. And another thought....its his one and only bach party, keep reminding him about that
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Sarahgetsmarried
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UPDATE: thanks girls! im not as mad as i was... it is the fact that he lied repeatedly that bothers me... what actually happened, i can forgive and forget (and no, it wasnt the typical no stripper/no lap dance etc worry that some girls have... had nothing to do with girls)
i just needed to vent and its good to hear all points of view from you girls... thanks!
Thanks for the update!
Yeah, I knew it wasnt WHAT he did, it was the lying.
You are doing the right thing by letting it go. Just talk to him and make him see your side.
Honestly...this is one of those things that you can say 'This is how I feel, and dont do it again. I am explaining it to you because you may not REALLY get what im feeling.'
NOW he knows. If he does it AGAIN, then you can take issue.
I had a prob with FH and got mad. Then I took a step back because he didnt GET it. I could not get mad because he didnt REALLY get why I was mad.
Fair enough. I explained why and he has never done the same thing. It was a huge deal to me and he never even saw an issue.
