So, how do you girls feel about inviting EX's to your wedding?
SylvieB
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So, how do you girls feel about inviting EX's to your wedding?
I was having this conversation w/ someone and the way I feel is that there should be no one among my guests that could say they've had 'relations' w/ either the bride or groom. Mind you, I didn't always feel like this. I have one or two Ex's that I'm still friends with. (They're not invited and they understand) This is not an issue w/ FH and I, we pretty much agree. But I'm curious to how other people feel about this...
HamptonsBride
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I had a friend at my wedding i'v e known for 18 years, we briefly hooked up years ago, so yes, technically he's an ex, but i don't even think about that..and he is now married...DH had no problem with it, althoug he'd joke..so how many guys that you slept with are coming to the wedding?
I told DH to feel free to invite his ex that he lived with for years, ( he didn't want to)...i know they are still friends and talk occassionally and she was an important part of his life...i am secure enough in my relationship with him that it doesn't bother me...but i can understand people who don't want them there. I think it's a personal choice that the couple needs to make together.
neener1211
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I did invite an ex, however, he lives far away, and did not come. Which was just fine with me, but I wanted to invite him because he was still a friend.
MrsQ-in2007
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Neither FH or I will be inviting any exes to our wedding. He is not in touch with any of his and although I have kept in touch ocassionally with my ex, we're not close at all so I woudn't think of inviting him.
MJDoc12
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i guess everyone is different....my DH's ex was trying so freaking HARD to get an invite to the wedding. (background: she told ppl when DH and i got together more than 5 years ago that eventually he'd 'break up with that whore and come back to me') she's tried the whole 'friends' route...and i just wasn't having that beetch at my wedding.
for me i had a rule : If my husband's d**k was ever inside of you or any of your orifices (think clinton)....sorry you're not allowed to attend. (btw--that went both ways)
SylvieB
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Posted by MJDoc12
for me i had a rule : If my husband's d**k was ever inside of you or any of your orifices (think clinton)....sorry you're not allowed to attend. (btw--that went both ways)
I SOOO agree and it has NOTHING to do w/ insecurity! Well said!!!
LB and DC
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i dated a few guys in HS and college that are all invited to my wedding... i tend to stay friends with my exes, and FH is friends with them too, so i don't see a problem. his ex is coming too - all the way from TX! we went to her wedding, and she is a very cool chick, so i am looking forward to seeing them again.
then again, i have an ex i am friendly with, but he is a fairly recent ex (relationship ended almost 6 years ago) and he is not invited because that would definitely be awkward. i guess it all depends on the situation.
jennandrolo
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i guess everyone is different....my DH's ex was trying so freaking HARD to get an invite to the wedding. (background: she told ppl when DH and i got together more than 5 years ago that eventually he'd 'break up with that whore and come back to me') she's tried the whole 'friends' route...and i just wasn't having that beetch at my wedding.
for me i had a rule : If my husband's d**k was ever inside of you or any of your orifices (think clinton)....sorry you're not allowed to attend. (btw--that went both ways)
your too funny
My ex actually asked me yesterday if he was invited. I said no. Not cuz hes my ex cuz he is still a friend, just because he stops talking to me for months then comes back trying to be all friendly.
leafgirl
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For me personally no ex's are being invited. I still now and again speak to one, but in no way would he ever be allowed to be near my wedding. I wouldn't want him to be either. For others I know a lot of people whose ex's were at their wedding and they are great friends with. To each their own I think....
twinkle164
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For us there will be ex's. My cousin married my FH girlfriend from high school. No big deal. She is a doll. And high-school was over 15 years ago. Our wedding is about FH and I. The past is the past.
Aug06
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I tend to stay friends with exboyfriends as well so I will have an ex (from a long time ago) there. Luckily FH is very secure and he is okay with it since we have been friends for so long.
HelenZ
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I actually wouldn't mind inviting my ex, since we do talk occasionally, BUT when I think of it the other way around, I don't know if I'd be comfortable with his Ex attending and honestly I don't want either of us to feel uncomfortable on our wedding day, so I just wouldn't want to do that to him! Even if he says he's fine with it.
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Wow. I guess everyone is different. FH has a friend he used to date that we invited to the wedding. Also, my ex that I was with for over 10 years is invited. At this point, his relationship was so long ago, it might as well had never happened. With me - ours lasted for so long, it was more of us being best friends growing up than it was anything else (hence the reason we didn't work out as anything more than friends).
FH and I realized that although these people are no longer #1 in our lives, they are still a part of us. They continue to be great friends of ours. My ex even took awesome pics for our engagement - saved us from having to hire someone!
faithandkevin
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I didn't invite any exes. I didn't see any reason to.
KarinAmanda
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Posted by Aug06
I tend to stay friends with exboyfriends as well so I will have an ex (from a long time ago) there. Luckily FH is very secure and he is okay with it since we have been friends for so long.
hmmmmm could you be speaking about a certain ltp? haha
cant wait for the big day Danielle!
SN2BMRSBURTE
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H-e-l-l-s No!!
KarinAmanda
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haha and on that note - Danielle you are invited to my wedding
i am on 08er crashing, interesting topic...
there will be at least 1 ex at my wedding, she is an ex of FH but I have known her almost as long as I've known him.. I have no problem with it, but I am assured that FH wouldnt want any of mine there so I wont even open that can of worms and I am fine with that.
this is our day, all i need is FH and my family and friends to be there! He is somewhat of the jealous type and that has always been his personality. I have accepted that as part of him.
znycgirl
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No WAY!
I would never have wanted to go to my ex's wedding (if you ever loved...even a little...emotions persist) & even though I'm friends with most of my exs...I'd be too hurt if my FH invited his (even if they were NOT at all even a little likely to be romantic).
DrWho
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Our best woman, who introduced us, is FI's ex. I was really happy when he picked her to stand up on his side, she's so cool, and her family is great. (That's why she is in FOUR weddings this summer.) Would I invite any of my exes? No chance in hell. Go figure.
VadersBride2006
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One of my BM's is FH's ex... but now I am better friends with her than he is!
The person we have doing our music, I dated for like a nanosecond, so I don't really consider him an ex.
