So I broke down...

I really did! Last night after we went to a showcase I told FH that I seriously wanted to do a destination
wedding! I started blurting out that i think it's ridiculous to spend over 30k on a wedding. I hate everything...all the vendors look the same to me...BLAH BLAH BLAH! He just looked at me and said 'It's the only time we are going to do it. It's once in a lifetime right? So I want really great memories!' And that's why I love him!

I think that all the stress finally got to me and it's like in 2 months I have booked almost all the vendors and it got to me. I think I might take a wedding sabatical for a bit before my head starts spinning around like beetlejuice! No more appointments or showcases for like a month.

LOL I know that doesnt seem long but when you go to appts or shows weekly, like 3 times a week it gets to you and 4 weeks of doing nothing related to the wedding works for me. I have my e-party on March 4th so I am just gonna concentrate on my BM boxes and thats it. Just had to vent! I feel much better now!

Lilli,

You not alone we are all at or going to get to this point atleast once in this process. I reached it with dresses last weekend. I was so done, I cant look think nothing about my dress b/c it makes me cry. Take a break we are in no rush we have time. After a while it does all look the same until it clicks and you are looking at the right person for your day.

and when all else fails.... come hang out w your 2013 gals tmrw!!!

hang in there, your vision will re appear and it will fall together prefectly!

xoxo

Ummmmmmm I've done this!!!
My FH says the same thing... It really will be a great time!! But it's true, you book so much at once because you are afraid it will be booked (which actually happened to me) but it's too much!!
I've been on a break from appointments, etc, and it feels good. I need a break before I dive into DJs because they will be what I'm really critical of.

It's bound to happen to everyone so you are not alone.

Hasn't happened YET because im procrastinating , Im trying not to get too overwhelemed. (emphasis on the YET!)

Totally understand, I sometimes have nightmares , but I originally wanted destination and I thought that might have been just as stressful, since I'd be doing everything from home, that would have bothered me, not being able to get down to actually see everything.

Wedding planning can be so stressful! But we have to remember that we have over a year to plan. We don’t have to get everything done at once. I know that most of us just want to finalize everything, so we can then worry about the little things.

However, we can’t drive ourselves crazy in the process. This should be a one in a lifetime event and we need to cherish every memory, just like your FH said!

We are marrying our best friends and a wedding is the joining of our love and families. Planning should be fun. I don’t want to look back on this whole process and be upset and bitter.

Take it easy. Take a break and in a few weeks start up again.

Awww Sweetie!!!
I totally know what you are saying.
I'm on this site all day and then on at night and in my new Wedding Planner and Magazines. It consumes you. BUT you have to enjoy it!
Relax and take it in and don't do too much at once.
You have already done sooo much.
FH is right... and he seems very supportive!

Hahaha I've so been there!

We all have SO much time that a break every once in a while is a GREAT idea! Enjoy being engaged.... you'll be a married lady for the rest of your life!

I think I'm almost at that point, too. Decisions I thought I'd stick with about music might be changing just because a dj gave me a low quote....it really gets to us after awhile!

So happy for you that you have a FH who can calm you down and remind you of what the real point in everything is

Awwww, I'm sorry you got stressed out. I was starting to feel overwhelmed with all the money we're spending but FH said the same thing about how this is the only time we're going to be doing this. I also took a couple of weeks off from planning to just relax.
Remember you always have us here to vent to.

I know! I love you girls! I so need the GTG tomorrow!! I love FH and he does always know how to calm me down...guess that's he's the one!

I hear you! Worry about all the vendors and who to go see is getting to me too. There's so many out there that my head is spinning.

Tomorrow we will have a drink and have some laughs.

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Posted by LilinBobby

I really did! Last night after we went to a showcase I told FH that I seriously wanted to do a destination
wedding! I started blurting out that i think it's ridiculous to spend over 30k on a wedding. I hate everything...all the vendors look the same to me...BLAH BLAH BLAH! He just looked at me and said 'It's the only time we are going to do it. It's once in a lifetime right? So I want really great memories!' And that's why I love him!

I think that all the stress finally got to me and it's like in 2 months I have booked almost all the vendors and it got to me. I think I might take a wedding sabatical for a bit before my head starts spinning around like beetlejuice! No more appointments or showcases for like a month.

LOL I know that doesnt seem long but when you go to appts or shows weekly, like 3 times a week it gets to you and 4 weeks of doing nothing related to the wedding works for me. I have my e-party on March 4th so I am just gonna concentrate on my BM boxes and thats it. Just had to vent! I feel much better now!

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.... I know you will be fine, you have enough time to give all the wedding planning a little break. Take 2 months if you want!

When I was reading this post I thought I wrote it...two Weeks ago I did the same thing. I told my Fiance to cancel the hall and lets do destination I was hysterical about the money and the competitiveness of many other girls I know.

I want a nice wedding but I don't want to become a Stylist or interior decorator.

He listened and then told me to take a nap. When I woke up all the magazines and piles of mail were put away.

I took a two week break and it helped.

Now I keep telling myself, don't talk to too many people it adds stress. What has been helpful to me is talking to friends I'm not close with. They listen and don't become stylist


Best of luck and you have eight more months than me so take it slow!