So I decided to put an end to it

...the FSIL situation I mean. She emailed FH because I had put on my FB status that I thought if people had a problem with me they should let me know instead of b!tching behind my back...so she emailed him and told him how immature I am, blah blah blah...all this crap. I just had enough of hearing all this crap through 10 different channels and with FH's blessing I wrote her an email myself. Here it is...I think, considering everything that's happened I've done a good job, but of course I need my LIW girls approval haha (names changed to protect the innocent and the not-so-innocent):


FSIL,

I would like to eliminate the middle men here, since obviously there are issues to be resolved and its hard to do so when I am getting communication second and third hand.

I understand that you have many issues with me. With the most recent issue, I am truly sorry that I offended you. The status was written as a joke with FH's full knowledge and not as a knock against FSD. The joke was meant to calm my distress with the fact that FSD is an incredibly bright and smart child, but now finds herself in remedial reading due to a lack of effort. I love FSD as if she were my own daughter and I would never put her down. I may have a different parenting style than you or your mother would prefer, but everything I do is with FSD's best interests at heart.

As to other issues you may have with me, I'm unsure where they stem from. I have tried from our first meeting to be nice and engaging with you, but my intent and my actions might not have matched up and, if that is the case, I am sorry. Whether we like it or not, we will be in each others lives for the long haul. All I've ever wanted is to have a healthy, friendly relationship with you, and it is a source of constant distress to me that we find ourselves at such odds.

I understand if this letter is not received well, and I understand if you do not wish to write back. I hope that in the future our issues can be resolved and we can enjoy each other as sisters-in-law instead of as enemies.

Sincerely,
Ilana