i kind of feel bad about it, but sometimes u just get mad !
let me preface: i asked my brother to have his daughter as my FG a while back in the beginning of the planning process. well actually, that's not totally right, cause really my MOM wants her to be the FG. i wasn't caring much if i had one or not. then my brother and i began a fight that has gone on for nearly 2 yrs...from when his 1 1/2 yr old son was in the fuking WOMB! he insisted that both his kids be able to come. and i told him tough shiit...they couldn't. so he threatened not to come at all, and i said 'we'll send you pics'. [it may sound biitchy, but with him and i, there is no tact or need to be gentle].
a few weeks ago, my mom asks if she is gonna be the FG. i say 'he never told me what he wants to do' so my mom says she'll talk to him and handle it, and get my niece the dress. fine. no problem....you want it...u take care of it. she talked to him and asked him straight up about the FG situation. and he's like 'well i want my son to go too' and its still unresolved.
fast forward to now. well my mom says 'you know, you need to find out if she is gonna be the FG, why haven't you talked to your brother about this?' and for some reason, i just flipped out. i told her that i've got waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much on my plate right now to give a shiit about a damn FG. i could care less if she is the FG, and quite frankly i will not lose sleep over it...she wanted the FG, not me. if she wants it so damn badly, she needs to take care of it, cause that's what she said she'd do. i informed her that i have about 6 weeks or so till my wedding and have to move into an apt. with FH, pay bills, get used to living together, handle wedding plans, pay off the wedding itelself, fuking get married....so having a FG was about THIS important to me right now.
granted i probably shouldn't have flipped...BUT my mom hasn't helped me in the planning process at all. she didn't care too much about anything WR until now, cause she wants my niece to put on a pretty dress....even though i told her i didn't care about having a single kid in the BP. so now it's suddenly my responsibility to 'handle' it
okay i just needed to vent my semi-guilt/anger
mskittynj
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Re: So I kind of went nuts on my mom today...(LONG)
Girl, I totally understand why you flipped. It is stressful as hell planning a wedding ALL BY YOURSELF (no need to tell me twice) And of COURSE having a FG is the LAST thing on your mind!!!!! Now on the flip side.....It's your brothers children. Think about it from his perspective. He loves his kids and maybe he feels entitled to have them with him. I am not a parent, but if I was I think I would feel the same way as him. They are your niece and nephew, I knwo you love them too, why wouldn't you want them to be included in your special day? granted a 1 1/2 year old is too young to be a ring bearer, if your whole family will be at the wedding I am sure there will be someone to look after him no? Well it's a tough situation either way you look at it because I don't know if you're having any children at your wedding at all. And then if you allow 1 to be there, you'll have to hear other people bitc*ing......Weddings are awesome but SOOO darn stressful...Anyway whatever you decide to do good luck. Be firm in your position though, if your mom said she would take care of it then let her do it! Don't make it your business. XOXOXO Kitty
