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so I met someone at the yankee game last night- interested in opinions..

Original post by kdelace

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I went to the game last night with my sister, cousin and a good friend of mine- compliments to my Dad who got us tix to cheer me up. :)
There were three guys sitting one row below us. One was really cute.. So of course when there is a bunch of guys and a bunch of girls you wind up chatting. Were high fiving when something good happened, were talking.... and I noticed there was chemistry between us.. I havent felt that in awhile..
it was realy cold at one point and he offered me his gloves.. O mean real gentlemen.
After the game, were walking out and he manages to find me through the crowd and ask if I would like to go to dinner sometime- he lives in the city.
I said yes and gave him my number.

I know I am in the process of getting an annullment and my husband and I just separated a month ago so IYO do you think its too soon? I mean if you have been following my story, my soon to be ex met a girl and made plans to go out with her.. But to me two wrongs don't make a right.
But its just dinner, it's a night out inthe city, he is a sweetheart from what I know of so far... What do you think...

If he even calls, he took my number so you never know...

bluegrl24ny Thread views: 3,003

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Posted by don424

ok, my advice is that you should out and live your life -- no sitting at home being upset, especially since your ex is not.

One word of caution and I may be wrong, so this could be considered a question. If your ex were to find out that you had a new 'boyfriend', even though it may not be serious, his lawyer may try to spin so that it looks like the divorce is your fault, that you gave up on the marriage (the proof would be the new boyfriend) and that may effect the negotiation of assets. Since you know he is seeing others, you can make the same argument.

I'm not sure how much you both have together jointly, so this may not apply, but just wanted to throw it out there

right - but if she already found a message from the ex about meeting another girl..... It seems like he made that first move, so I don't think it would hold up as a valid argument?

don424 Thread views: 3,003

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like i said, since she found the cell phone message, her lawyer could use the same argument

just food for thought -- lawyers will always seek to protect the best interest of their client

wc0143 Thread views: 3,003

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Posted by bluegrl24ny

Posted by don424

ok, my advice is that you should out and live your life -- no sitting at home being upset, especially since your ex is not.

One word of caution and I may be wrong, so this could be considered a question. If your ex were to find out that you had a new 'boyfriend', even though it may not be serious, his lawyer may try to spin so that it looks like the divorce is your fault, that you gave up on the marriage (the proof would be the new boyfriend) and that may effect the negotiation of assets. Since you know he is seeing others, you can make the same argument.

I'm not sure how much you both have together jointly, so this may not apply, but just wanted to throw it out there

right - but if she already found a message from the ex about meeting another girl..... It seems like he made that first move, so I don't think it would hold up as a valid argument?

And all this kind of stuff is why I said *I* would wait to avoid any added complications.

jj04 Thread views: 3,003

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GO GO GO and while you are going..have a GREAT TIME!

nov04LIbride Thread views: 3,003

Re: so I met someone at the yankee game last night- interested in opinions..

It didn't sound like there were many assets to divide, and with a mediator it is pretty much jointly coming to an agreement over assets like the computer, etc., not lawyers fighting... I don't know. My FH and I broke up for a couple months and I went out with a guy and it just made me so sad--I almost started crying over my chicken parm! I just remembered eating with my now FH and how comfortable it was, and there I was trying to make small talk with a surgeon who was as interesting as a piece of cardboard...But, I digress--only you know when you are ready!

kdelace Thread views: 3,003

Re: so I met someone at the yankee game last night- interested in opinions..

don
as far as my situation goes, there arent any lawyers. we met with a divorce mediator... were going to file for an annullment since we were only married 7 months. the paperwork is being drawn up and well be meeting with him to sign it when its ready. As far as joint issues, weve handled it i.e. split money, cc... and its all being written legally. the only thing he has to do is pick up the rest of his stuff...

I am still hurting and slowly healing but I have to slowly start going back out an dlivingmy life... Someone said above that I already have made my decision to go if he calls and you are right. I think I will. I guess I was asking for support on this. It was so funny, my i was with my sister whos is married, my cousin who is engaged, and my friend who has a boyfriend last night. I was the only 'single' one.. But I didn't care. I am at a point in my life whereI have to live for me for awhile...

DjPiLL Thread views: 3,003

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I personally don't see whats wrong with dinner. Hey its a free meal!

kdelace Thread views: 3,003

Re: so I met someone at the yankee game last night- interested in opinions..

the thing is, I miss him but not the way I used to... He has become this person that I dont even like which makes this a little easier for me., And he's the one who made this final decision, not me. I gave him every opportunity to try and work things out- counseling, coming home for a few days etc... He didnt want to... He has worn me down mentally and physicall. there wasnt any passion or fun anymore. I know we were only married 7 months but were together 21/2 years and there was a great deal of pain and hurt inthose 2 years. I just thought, naively, things would get better .....
I don't know how women in my situation put up with it for so long....the drinking, the drugs...I couldnt do it after 7 months....

bluegrl24ny Thread views: 3,003

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Kristi -
You've been through hell and back, but you still have the strength to move forward with your life - and that is so admirable!! Like you said, it's time to start living for YOU now - so do just that, and have a great time! You deserve to have some fun in your life right now, and there is not a damn thing wrong with that

franksbride Thread views: 3,003

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Definitely go for it...enjoy yourself...you deserve a night out with a nice guy. There's no harm in dinner!

2003fallwedding Thread views: 3,003

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I say go out to dinner...not that your looking for an instant love connection but it might just turn into a good friendship...Go and HAVE FUN!!!

IrishTracy Thread views: 3,003

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I say if he calls go out. It doesn't mean you have to think long term relationship. It would be dinner. No biggie. And if nothing else you might get a great friendship out of it.

don424 Thread views: 3,003

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Posted by kdelace

don
as far as my situation goes, there arent any lawyers. we met with a divorce mediator... were going to file for an annullment since we were only married 7 months. the paperwork is being drawn up and well be meeting with him to sign it when its ready. As far as joint issues, weve handled it i.e. split money, cc... and its all being written legally. the only thing he has to do is pick up the rest of his stuff...

I am still hurting and slowly healing but I have to slowly start going back out an dlivingmy life... Someone said above that I already have made my decision to go if he calls and you are right. I think I will. I guess I was asking for support on this. It was so funny, my i was with my sister whos is married, my cousin who is engaged, and my friend who has a boyfriend last night. I was the only 'single' one.. But I didn't care. I am at a point in my life whereI have to live for me for awhile...

well then, i say go and have a good time

beachgirl13 Thread views: 3,003

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You should go for it!

AprBride Thread views: 3,003

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Hi Kristi,

I say go for it! If you remember my situation, it was very similar to yours. I also started dating someone, on a 'why not?' whim, a month after my separation, and still together 8 months later, it is wonderful...could not ask for better. Even just starting to get out there and see other people helped tremendously. Not as a way to mask feelings, but as a pleasant distraction.

The Original 2nd-time-around Thread views: 3,003

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Go, and have a GREAT time. You deserve it!!

(Make sure you keep us posted )

eogara Thread views: 3,003

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Posted by kdelace
I am at a point in my life whereI have to live for me for awhile...

This is the key statement. I'm so happy you feel this way and, on those days when it's a little more difficult than others to deal with, come back and read that you yourself wrote this. You need to live your life for YOU.

Let us know what happens!!

suven Thread views: 3,003

Re: so I met someone at the yankee game last night- interested in opinions..

Go out with the new guy! My only advice is to keep it quiet from your soon to be ex. I know that it seems like he won't care anyway, but believe me, he will...and then your separation could become MUCH more difficult...

And, have a great dinner!