So I'll post some more of my personal bussiness......

Original post by esb980

Sep 23, 2005 11:36 PM

Okay, so this afternoon I needed to get something out of the garage and i don't have a key, so I called FH to ask if he had a spare moment and could drop off key for me, he said okay. So ANYWAY about an hour later I'm cleaning the apt when I hear all this yelling outside of my window, I ignored it because I didn't want to get out of my cleaning streak. FH calls me on phone and says 'doors unlocked' so I ask don't u want to come in and say hi and he says he can't because 'he has a big day and he's mad at 'them'(his two co-workers). When he comes home I asked him what happened and he's all unclear (like usual) so it basically came down to his one friend said 'hey, I've never seen your apt can I go in' and fh said 'no, Eleanor's probably in her pj's and she'll be embarrassed if the house is a mess' then I guess the other friend said something and they started walking towards the house, fh yelled at them to stop and they started fighting. Then they went to work. This makes no sense, right? Well, what fh left out is his other friend said 'He just doesn't want anyone around Eleanor, I don't know why, she's nothing special anyway' OKAY, so I don't know how to feel about this, not that I think I'm great or anything, but that's really not nice, right? Well, this guy is a GM.... FH said he apologized, but he's still mad. I really didn't say anything to FH because... What can I say? I guess I'm just venting....

esb980 Posted: Sep 26, 2005 11:55 AM

Re: So I'll post some more of my personal bussiness......

awww TY!!

I spoke to fh and I said, 'Look, what Adam said was really insulting and it really hurt my feelings' and he explained that he spoke to him and it's over between them. He said it doesn't matte what stupid thinks, it only matters what he thinks, and he loves me, inside and out.

kellwolfe Posted: Sep 26, 2005 12:38 PM

Re: So I'll post some more of my personal bussiness......

Posted by ChristineAE

Posted by esb980

For some reason I feel really emmbarrased to talk about this w/ him.... I don't know why... (see the post I edited above) I feel like if I say anything then it's like I think I'm so great.... I can't explain this. I am very non-confrontational.

ELEANOR!!!! This is the person you are going to MARRY, take vows with and spend the REST of your LIFE with! You should 1000000 x's comfortable speaking with him and not embarassed. If there is one person in the world you should be yourself with, it should be the person you take the vow of marriage with. This is definitely something that you have to seek help (counseling) with. You should never ever feel 'afraid' of confrontation with someone that says they care about you, love you, and want to spend the rest of thier life wiht you.

You have to feel safe with your FI - emotionally and physically. There is no need to hide behind anything, most especially the way that you FEEL.

I agree with Christine 150% !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!150% on every word!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!