so listen to what my fiance does NOW... What would YOU think/do?

sarahradio5 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:49 AM

so listen to what my fiance does NOW... What would YOU think/do?

I swear... I'm on my LAST straw...

I overhear him talking to his aunt who lives in FL. He asks her if she's coming up for the wedding, and she obviously says 'no' (which is a surprise to me). She obviously askes him if he's coming down to visit anytime soon. He says that he can't since he just started his new job, but 'WE'LL BE THERE IN NOVEMBER, SO WE'LL MEET UP SOMETIME THEN.'...

Um... THAT WOULD BE OUR DISNEY HONEYMOON!!!! My blood pressure SKY ROCKETED and I started SWEATING.

He got off the phone and I brought it up to him, and he got mad at me and told me to drop it before it started another argument. I told him that I can't even fit in all the restaurants we want to go to in that short week, much less meeting RELATIVES. Plus, THIS IS OUR HONEYMOON!!! Not a regular, ol' trip to FLORIDA!!! He does NOTHING for the wedding/honeymoon, yet he'll take it upon himself to plan a meetup with his aunt during our HONEYMOON!?!?! I have a 95 year old Great Aunt down there.. I'm not meeting her there during our honeymoon!! If his aunt wants to see us, tell her to come to the wedding! OMG! We're not even going to have a RENTAL CAR! SERIOUSLY SO PISSED OFF. He's like... 'Drop it... we'll break it to her then.' Why even MENTION it to her then? His MOM lives in Florida... we're going to be visiting there, I'm sure... why promise during the honeymoon?

Smiles111 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:51 AM

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I would be extremely annoyed by this as well! I'm sorry to hear!!

Tatum&Steve Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:52 AM

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He was probably trying to keep the peace - I'm sure he doesn't intend on seeing her...sounds like something my FH would do too, I'm sure he was just trying to be nice.

SeptBride70 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:54 AM

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wow, maybe he said it without thinking-- you know how men are. i would just say you don't feel it's appropriate on your HM to be visiting relatives and time-wise it's not possible either.

but i would do what he says for now and drop it, then when it comes closer IF it gets brought up again just say no that you don't want to do that and if she really wanted to see you she would have come to the wedding. i would tell him that if he really wants to visit and wasn't just saying that b/c he a. wasn't thinking or b. just trying to be polite then you can go back and visit another time when you go and see his mom (FMIL)... and that's that. but i could def understand why you would be annoyed-- b/c it's your HM.

good luck

mrsh2b Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:54 AM

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That's a guy for you...make a mess...clean it up later. I can totally empathize with you. So annoying!

bellaro782 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:55 AM

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Ya I would be totally pissed off that's not right its your Honeymoon..... That's crazy!!!! I would sit him down and explain that ... that week is for the two of you to celebrate your unity not to meet his family wont come to your wedding ....

TheBigDay Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:55 AM

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Men are just stupid sometimes! Fh does that sometimes.. and i am like just smack my head on the wall please! They sometimes make more issues than necessary if they didnt try to always make everyone happy by telling them sure we'll do what you want.. knowing later they will have to say no.. sorry.. that is rude and inconsiderate cause then people get all exciting for something that the other person knows is never going to happen! and he should KNOW that is not going to happen, it is your honeymoon! i am all about family but not on your honeymoon!

melbalalala Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:56 AM

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Deep breaths!

This is definitely annoying. Im sure it was just something he said in passing and isn't something that you guys are locked into. I would totally totally be pissed off BUT if he says he'll break it to her then, he BETTER be breaking it to her then!

sarahradio5 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:57 AM

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Posted by mrsh2b

That's a guy for you...make a mess...clean it up later. I can totally empathize with you. So annoying!

exactly... wow. Maybe I just really don't get GUYS. IS there a Center for Understanding MEN that I have to take to save myself some heartache first? He's driving me batty!

ewickens Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:58 AM

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I would be annoyed with this as well!!! You have every right to be pissed off!!

CLMon7906 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 11:03 AM

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uncalled for.

FH did that with our e-party trip....called the ex's parents (grandparents of my little girl) and said they could hang out with us the morning of the party!!! i went off the deep end.

kittythestray Posted: Jun 12, 2006 11:04 AM

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I'd be mad, too! You want to enjoy yr honeymoon! Not be visiting relatives and socialized and feel like you HAVE to be somewhere at a certain time!

R&J0806 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 11:13 AM

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geez. i'm sorry. maybe wait a few days and bring it up calmly?

N.Y.bride Posted: Jun 12, 2006 11:15 AM

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Maybe he was just saying it to be polite and really has no intentions of doing so.

ChiBaby Posted: Jun 12, 2006 11:24 AM

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I agree with the majority of the girls...I think he just said that to be 'nice' to his aunt...but he wont really follow through...

deep breath...count to 10...bring it up and confirm your honeymoon plans when things cool off...

I hope you are ok...

AlmostMrsKelly Posted: Jun 12, 2006 11:31 AM

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i know that EXACT feeling, with your heart rate and BP rising and the sweat starts pouring... not pleasant, but i know it all the same, lol
i agree with you and would feel the same way. i, too, am all about family... but your honeymoon is your honeymoon. if he said he would break it to her, 'try' to let it go at that - he had better break it to her, lol
good luck!!

DandS Posted: Jun 12, 2006 11:33 AM

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I am sure he just said that to her without even thinking before he spoke. I would drop it for now and if it really becomes an issue later on, then you can deal with it then, but I doubt he really wants to visit family members on his honeymoon. Plus if you are doing all the planning, then he won't have time to fit in a visit. It will work out!

mrsh2b Posted: Jun 12, 2006 11:35 AM

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This morning I was watching Good Morning America and Mike something (a sportscaster from ESPN) was on b/c he just wrote a memoir called 'Why My Wife Thinks I'm an Idiot' and he was saying that every woman out there, at least every 5-6 days, has contact with another woman who says 'You will not believe what that idiot just did!' and it's so true! I was lauging watching him and then I read your post and we can all fully sympathize with you. I guess the guy is right!