so much frustration

bride2b28 Posted: Aug 23, 2006 02:36 PM

so much frustration

My fam is not getting along
a lot of people that are on my guests list wont go unless I get rid of some of the people who are going that they don't like
I cant understand why people want to make things soo crazy for me
I am so ready to call it off !
Its even making me and my fiance argue
anyone have advice they can give

KD1279 Posted: Aug 23, 2006 02:39 PM

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bride2b28 Posted: Aug 23, 2006 02:40 PM

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awe thank you for the hugs

Tatum&Steve Posted: Aug 23, 2006 02:40 PM

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Awww, they should suck it up for you YOUR DAY! And you should tell them that! There is no need for fighiting it is one night and it should be celebrated and enjoyed by all! Tell them to stop acting like children and deal with it! Don't let them stress you out, they should act like adults, tell them these are petty issues to argue over.

pixiechickie Posted: Aug 23, 2006 02:45 PM

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Tell me about it. I cant invite these people if I invite those...dont seat these people together or else...
its so ridiculous. Its going to be in a big place with lots of people. If they are all adults they can understand how to avoid or stand on the other side. Im not worrying about it, and neither should you.

CLMon7906 Posted: Aug 23, 2006 02:46 PM

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ELOPE! I wish we had...the nightmare of wedding planning would've ended LONG ago. It still haunts me now. I love my DH and I adore his family and friends, but between everyone's opinions [my family/friends included], I really wish we'd eloped!

NY031978 Posted: Aug 23, 2006 02:54 PM

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if they cant suck it up....and leave it alone for 1 day...then oh well! invite them all---the ppl who care for you and your fi will be there!!

or how about a destination wedding?? sometimes i wish i did that!

bride2b28 Posted: Aug 23, 2006 02:58 PM

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Thanks guys for your thoughts I am going to invite them all
and there just going to have to deal
I just cant believe how stressful the fam can make things
even my wedding planner is going nuts lol

thaks again guys

thelastresort Posted: Aug 23, 2006 02:59 PM

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Invite everyone. If they can't stop being big fat babies to be there for you at your wedding, then shame on them. Don't let their pettiness become your problem.

kcion Posted: Aug 23, 2006 03:02 PM

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Not to be a BRIDEZILLA, but it's YOUR wedding!!!

Tell them you will seat people on opposite sides of the room - and tell them (in a nice way) to GROW UP
It's about YOU, NOT THEM!!!!!!

Are you paying for the wedding? If not, then maybe sit down with the people who are paying and try to get them to understand your feelings

If you are paying - TELL THEM TO GET A GRIP!! If they are not contributing $$$$$ they have no say

Keywi231 Posted: Aug 23, 2006 03:02 PM

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Posted by lollipop

Invite everyone. If they can't stop being big fat babies to be there for you at your wedding, then shame on them. Don't let their pettiness become your problem.

i agree

irishsweetheart Posted: Aug 23, 2006 03:03 PM

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Seriously! I agree with all you girls. Tell them to get over it. It's one night that's about you and your FI not them!

snydl40 Posted: Aug 23, 2006 03:04 PM

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Tell everyone that this is your day and if they don't want to come with certain people there then don't come. Maybe they will come to their senses and realize they are acting like children.

pamelaann Posted: Aug 23, 2006 03:05 PM

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I see it this way It is your day .... they only people that need to be there are you your fh siblings mom and dads......... if the rest won't come because this one or that one is there .... than take my fh advisce tell that not to come.....

I know you want everyone there however.... it is about you not them..... if they can't see it why would you want someone there that can't see that

EastEndBride Posted: Aug 23, 2006 03:06 PM

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its horrible & i know just what you're going through.
in my fi's family his parents don't speak to their oldest son & his wife. this same son doesn't speak to one of his sisters & she feels the same!
while on one hand its a potential disaster we went ahead & invited them all to the wedding.
i'm just trusting that they can tactfully avoid each other for one short day in honor of the wedding!
they don't have to be friends, but as long as there is no fighting i am happy.
if anyone chooses to miss out on our wedding because of their own petty problems that is their loss!
its a shame that families can take the love & happiness out of a wedding. do your best to focus on your marriage & not anything else

bride2b28 Posted: Aug 23, 2006 03:11 PM

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aww thank you thank you
i really do apreciate your thoughts
i feel soo much better now
and im glad that i am not alone
with this crap lol
but my fam has to deal!
i dont want to call off the wedding because of them

thanks guys!

pamelaann Posted: Aug 23, 2006 03:21 PM

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Posted by bride2b28

aww thank you thank you
i really do apreciate your thoughts
i feel soo much better now
and im glad that i am not alone
with this crap lol
but my fam has to deal!
i dont want to call off the wedding because of them

thanks guys!

DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT CALLING OFF YOUR WEDDING BECAUSE THE GROWN UPS ARE ACTING LIKE 2 YR SPOILED BRATS..... LOOK I DON'T REALLY GET ALONG WITH MY BROTHER BOTH HE AND HIS WIFE ARE IN WEDDING.... I WANTED MY 2 TWIN NEPHEWS THERE.... GUESS WHAT THEY ARE NOT COMING BECAUSE OF WHAT EVER REASON THEY GAVE ME .... ALL I HEARD IS THEY ARE NOT COMING THE WAY I SEE IT IS THIS .... IT IS ABOUT YOU AND FH AND ALL ABOUT THE TWO OF YOU. IT IS YOUR MH JOB TO MAKE SURE THAT NOONE RUINS YOUR DAY.... MY GIRLS KNOW WHAT TO DO.... KEEP ALL THE CRAZYS AWAY..... REMEMBER YOU HAVE WAITED TO SHARE YOUR LIFE WITH FH AND HE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU. THAT IS ALL THAT YOU SHOULD CONCERN YOURSELF WITH.... LET THE GROWN UPS FIGURE OUT HOW THEY WILL DEAL....... INVITE WHO YOU HAVE TO AND GO FROM THERE.... IF THEY GIVE YOU A FIGHT TELL THEM THEY HAVE TWO CHOICES BE THERE FOR YOU WITH A SMILE AND WARM WISHES OF KEEP THE NEGATIVITY AT THERE HOUSE AND MISS SHARING IN ONE OF THE GREATEST MOMENTS IN YOUR LIFE... AS SUCKY AS THAT IS THAT IS THE WAY I T MIGHT HAVE TO BE

rojerono Posted: Aug 23, 2006 04:10 PM

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kitty1224 Posted: Aug 23, 2006 04:41 PM

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Its *****, My own mother said she will not come if I invite some people. The people she doesn't want me to invite mean so much to me. I would not want them not to be there. So I understand. Torn