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so not happy with people

deb08 Posted:

so not happy with people

i have gotten just about all my rsvp back and i am sooooo suprised about the number of nos we got back!! We are going to be over 10 below are min- def not happy about that- some are 'friends' i have had for ever and soooooo many are in my family- i could not believe it-- i even got one from a friend that came to my shower and sent the rsvp it just said sorry -- That it- i just dont get it.

sorry for the vent
ShaDom9301 Posted:

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I'm so sorry to hear that.

I am worried about the same thing. I have 2 weeks left till the RSVP is up and i'm biting my nails every second i open a card.
Hawks Nest Posted:

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It is this economy, it is putting a damper on everything....

JTsGal829 Posted:

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i hear you!!! as of today we are exactly at 125.. which is our minimum. But for awhile i didnt even think we were gonna make that. we are just waiting on 1 more couple to respond.
so many people who said they were coming can't make it now, and some of them i was very surprised by. We had originally though we were gonna have around 145-160... out of the 203 we invited. and instead we have almost 80 nos. I really do think it has a lot to do with the economy right now it stinks!
LIBride1121 Posted:

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I feel your pain too. Friday is our deadline and we are still waiting on so many replies. And I have a bad feeling that we will be below our minimum also. Most of them are FH’s friends that “don’t know if they can make it.” Well flippin figure it out or just say no then, don’t hold out till last minute. I have a feeling these people won’t send them back and then just show up on the day. Drives me nuts!! Grrrr I hate this part of the planning. Sorry that was my big vent too, feels a little better getting it off my chest.



Kricket212 Posted:

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I am with all you girls......I invited 229 & we are at around 140 ten below our guarenteed.
I was going to invite more........but most of you agreed it was rude.
I just invited the neighbors so now waiting to find out if they are interested in coming. I gave them until this weekend to respond. It stinks because we have to pay no matter what. I already tried to get out of it.
SparkyandAng Posted:

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I totally hear you! I'm 23 people under my min. b/c not only did people that I thought for sure were yes', say no.....but people after they said yes, canceled. Quite a few.

RockysGirl Posted:

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I'm still waiting to hear back from people My RSVP date is next Saturday - that's less than 2 weeks and I'm still waiting on about 70 responses - more than half. What the hell is the matter with people???? It's not difficult!!

Anyway, so I dunno yet if I'll reach my minimum. As of now, I'm nowhere even NEAR it
Wifeynella Posted:

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I'm with all of you. We invited 285 and always figured we'd be around 215-225, with a min. of 200. We are at 183 right now with a lot of outstanding RSVPs still! Even with vendors we are going to be under our min.

Its definitely the economy but at the same point my wedding date seems to be the most popular freakin' day! I know of 8 other weddings, one 60th bday party and one 65th bday party.
jrzygrl Posted:

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I am so sorry about that!!! I had the same issue... but a lot of people were traveling from out of state/ town... and well just when I thought it all worked it'self out.... b/c we were at 2 people over out minimum... this week the first two days we've lost a person each .. so I think we are 3 people under our minimum.... it stinks.

I know you said you are more then that under and it is very disheartening just remember those that are important and make it a point to be there (of course unless it's some extenuating circumstance) Those guests are what matter... they are your true friends... and believe me it's a hard road.... this week I had someone tell me they were not coming after they've been on again i'm coming off again... finally say they wont feel 'comfy' coming all because I didn't invite her to my B-party.... which wasn't an extended party! so unfortunately this wedding process you will learn who your true friends are those that are happy for you and those well that are jealous? I guess.

Good luck! and don't stress! talk to the venue and see if they can give you some add ins since you are under. Don't let that number stress you out.
Kimbalina Posted:

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We are under our minimum by 2 people. Dont worry about the No's... it is soo fusturating and I honestly know how you feel.
But whatever!!! it is their loss.
deb08 Posted:

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Thanks ladies- I guess you find out so much about people when it comes to weddings!! and how things really are- my fh said we have to worry about the people who show up and s c r e w those who dont!! That is where we are with this whole deal now!! Have a great day Ladies!!!!

nifheim Posted:

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yep if they have to travel things just are getting tight lately, i feel so bad maybe you can invite some other friends or coworkers?
MrsHtobe Posted:

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We had a lot more nos than expected also - alot more :-/

I was upset about it for awhile, but you know what? The people that are important are going to be there. If someone didn't make your wedding a priority, then you don't need them there (unless its a good excuse, or course).

AllyDrew1108 Posted:

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I was surprised too. I have a cousin who never RSVP'd at all so we're assuming she is not coming. My entire office said they won't be able to make it, one girl said 'I have tickets to a Rutgers game that day.' Wow, way to make me feel like c r a p.

JessesGirl Posted:

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Posted by LIBride1121

I feel your pain too. Friday is our deadline and we are still waiting on so many replies. And I have a bad feeling that we will be below our minimum also. Most of them are FH’s friends that “don’t know if they can make it.” Well flippin figure it out or just say no then, don’t hold out till last minute. I have a feeling these people won’t send them back and then just show up on the day. Drives me nuts!! Grrrr I hate this part of the planning. Sorry that was my big vent too, feels a little better getting it off my chest.





YAY I HAVE A DATE TWIN!!!!!!! Sorry, you're the first person I've seen for the 21st besides me

As for responses, Monday was our deadline and we have 26 cards that haven't been sent back, most of them are invited with guests so thats a huge chunk of people. I hate how it puts a delay on everything! Table numbers, telling the florist, menus, ordering favors, AAARRRRRRRRGGGH.
MELABELLA82 Posted:

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I understand where you are coming from. I am the same way-I am still short about 40 RSVP's-I have his mom and my mom calling and to top it off the people I thought would be there-aren't going to be. Considering we have gone to all of their affairs. It's alright, you know what you have to do now....it's your day..don't let asses ruin it.

bluekat16 Posted:

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My RSVP's are slowly coming in and honestly I think we'll be undr our min. Maybe it is the economy putting a damper on things. Either way your day will be great and filled with the loved ones who want to celebrate with you.
Kerin2804 Posted:

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Remember that your day will be magnificent ! Try not to think about who is not there and think about all of those who will be there to share such a great moment.
cherish83 Posted:

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I am with you. Friday was our RSVP date. SUnday we started to call people. And we are still waiting on 5. At this point we are at 142. Our min is 150. I'm thinking we are going to end up with 148 which isnt THAT bad. But i'm suprised by how many no's we got and who DID say no. I know its a holiday weekend and the economy *****.. so that is all contributing to it... But we invited an extra 20 people near the end and I cant believe we still wont make minimum..

The way I see it is... The people who ACTUALLY want to be there and who ACTUALLY Matter... will be there. Try to cheer up. reach the point where you say Fkjk it. Like I have

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