so before being engaged, i wanted 5 girls in my bridal party, 2 sisters, one very close cousin and two friends.. fh only wanted two on his side so i had to take off the cousin and two friends so now i only have my sisters... and his side is his brother and sister... now im upset because we're spending so much on photography, and i feel like there's going to be so few pictures to take since i have such a stupid bridal party set up... im going to be missing all those nice couple pictures that i really wanted.. but fh will not give in and we keep fighting about it.. i dont want to fight anymore so im just giving in.. but i dont want to feel regret!
does anyone else have a small or 'strange' bridal party? were you happy with it and what kinds of pictures did you take (please post if possible)...
thank you for listening!
SoulMates422
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I don't think the number in your bridal party will affect your pictures. But then again what are you looking for as far as pcitures are concerned? There are also things that can be done as far as couple shots. Also you can still have all 5 girls, your bridal size does not have to match his. I have seen many girls on here with uneven bridal parties.
AeroJenn
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i just wanted to suggest something. Its absolutely not unheard of to do an uneven bridal party (where one side has more than the other). I knwo some people dont liek the idea because its not symmetrical, but if that doesnt bother you, its always an option.
j2911
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it doesnt bother me at all! but fh wants it to be even, no questions... ughhh!!!
MF9282
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See I wanted a smaller bridal party we have 6 on each side and there are just some people we can not leave out. Your pictures won't be affected at all. It will all be beautiful no worries!!
mrss527
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We're having two co-MOH and two co-best men. It's small and intimate, and we won't spend an hour on 'bridal party' shots--more pictures of just us and spontaneous photos of our guests and celebration. Honestly, I've been in three weddings in the last four years and those bridal party shots are the most painful for me--I'd rather get 'em done and move on to the party!
The last wedding I was in, she had 7 bridesmaids and 9 groomsmen, and the entire reception ran late by about an hour. There are some great benefits to keeping it small.
MJDoc12
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my BP is small and unven! you can have one if you want...no biggie!
i have 1 MOH and 1 BM, my FH has 1 BestM and 2 GM's, so the pics will be uneven. but we wanted ONLY the ppl who are important to us up there! so do what you want!
Jennifer907
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First, it's your wedding so if you want to have more girls than guys, do it. Don't worry about how it looks. Plenty of girls have uneven bridal parties. Personally, I am having a small bridal party as well. I have my Maid of Honor (sister - 20 yrs old), Matron of Honor (best friend - 45 yrs old), and a junior bridesmaid (step-sister - 9years old). FH has his best friend as his best man, another friend, and a junior groomsman who will be 7. I think what matters in your bridal party is that the people you have are people you love and care for and you will not regret seeing their face in your pictures 10 years from now.
dplehat
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I don't have an odd bridal party. But just like pp said it is not uncommon to have an uneven bp nowadays. He feels he only needs 2 people but if you need more then have more. Nowhere does it say it has to be even. the photographers will work around it. Good luck
myslideshow
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I am also having an ueven bridal party. I have 6 and he has 9. If you end up just keeping the two girls in your BP it will not affect your pictures...they will look great. And you won't have to worry about too many people cooperating at the same time. However, if you really feel strongly about asking those other girls then your FH should really understand. Tell him that he can still keep just the two guys or if he really wants it to be even then he should ask 3 more.
DNicholes
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I have an uneven Bridal Party
9 Girls 6 Guys
My girls are my girls and not to have all 9 of them with me on that day was not even an option. If you want them there,if they are important to you then have an uneven BP.
Also don't worry about pics, your photographer will figure it all out.
Marchbride07
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I have an uneven wedding party and I think it is fine! You have the extra girls walk down by themselves...it sounds like it is tearing you up to not have ur friends in it and I think that is totally unfair....not that it is not your FH day but you should have all the people u want to be around u in it...
I don't think it's a big deal at all and I hope he gives in
Mrs_C_in_'07
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I think if you have a good photographer, they'll work with the situation and you'r pics will be fabulous.
Future Mrs.
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im having 2 maids; he's having one best man. Who cares? its your wedding. there re no rules. Leave the photos up to the photographer; I'm sure there is nothing they haven't seen!
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Posted by AeroJenn
i just wanted to suggest something. Its absolutely not unheard of to do an uneven bridal party (where one side has more than the other). I knwo some people dont liek the idea because its not symmetrical, but if that doesnt bother you, its always an option.
I agree!!
charisma
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i don't think its something you should fight with FH for, maybe just make them honorary sisters in the wedding and have them sit through the ceremony and be part of the pics with you...just a thought
GabrielleandJohn
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I am an uneven bride
We are having a maid of honour and best man. Then I have 2 girls and he has 4 guys. We are going to be even just not in the convential way. We will have two girls for each guy (our single guys fantacies come true). I think you should speak with him, not fight with him, and explain your reasoning.
portjeffbride
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we're having MOH, 1 BM, 1 best man, 1 flower girl, and 1 ring bearer.
MOH will walk the ring bearer (her son) down the isle, BM and best man will walk down together, and flower girl alone.
If you want your friends involved, why not make them ushers, or have an uneven bridal party and include them in all the pix. They could walk each other down the isle.
They don't even have to be in the bridal party and they could still be in the formal pix.
You and FH make the rules at your own wedding!
What ever you do, don't fight over things like this.... it's totally not worth it! I'm sure you can find a way to encorporate your friends into the events/pics....
PegaLega
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Our BP started out small and has gotten bigger (not my choice) but I dont think your pictures will be bad or less b/c you dont have alot of people
fins428
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My bridal party is uneven 7 and 5
I was in a wedding in November, and we only took one formal shot of the bridal party. I looked through all of her proofs, and they were great. There were a lot of candids of the bridal party and formals of the bride and groom and the b&g with their families.
Don;t stress, it will all work out and look great .
