OK..... So.... since i'm going to Vegas to get married do you think it is in the best interest of our families if we come back and have a celebration here in NY? I am at a lost on what to do now.... my family is all different, my dad thinks its too soon, my mom wants to be see me on my day, his mom & sis's want to be there..... should i just throw a thing for the week we come back? Or should i wait like 6 months to do some planning and time to enjoy my time as a newlywed??? please help. i dont know what to do now!
brooklynbridezilla
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It would be nice...But you have a lot of things consider. How many people? How much per person? Can you and FH save for a reception between now and March? Just some things to consider.
alexlynn7
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if people want to be in vegas with you, and you don't mind them coming, then i say go for it! have a small celebration there for those who want to come. then you can have a bigger party when you get back. i think you should do the party here sooner rather than later, to preserve the 'just married' excitement.
lolita4life
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yeah i know... i honestly never thought about this before tonight... but i do feel if i dont do it right away, i'll never do it. I think I can get the Hall for free, cuz my dads friend is in charge of it..... and my dad MAY know a DJ that could give us a discount.... god, i wish i thought of this earlier.... i'm justrealizing now how my FH's family is going to react. Maybe it would have to be like 6 months down the road or our 1 year anniversary. It wouldnt be anythign fancy. AT aLL!. Very casual.... like a Sweet 16 type of thing. Ya know, have some caterers..... I proabaly wouldnt want a photographer, just put like a zillion instant cameras on the tables.... There wouldnt be a lot of people really.... family, close friends. I guess it is defiantly something to consider..... Sorry to vent , i'm just thinking aloud and anything you girls say can ONLY be benefical.... thanks.
azoodie
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Posted by alexlynn7
if people want to be in vegas with you, and you don't mind them coming, then i say go for it! have a small celebration there for those who want to come. then you can have a bigger party when you get back. i think you should do the party here sooner rather than later, to preserve the 'just married' excitement.
i agree with alex! would you be able to throw a small party and have family there instead of back home?
lolita4life
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i dont want family there.... i want it to be as intamite as possible.. it is too special of a union to me to have my family there, when i know theyll be thinking negative things about the whole thing.
azoodie
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okay so maybe having a small party at like a restaurant would be good for when you get home and have a big bash later down the line where you might be able to even renew your vows!
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You could do something at a restaurant a week or two after you get back with 20-30 ppl (depending on what you are thinking). That way your marriage still feels 'new.' We did something like that for our engagement party with BP, family, and closest friends. It was nice and felt like a celebration. That way you can include people in celebrating your marriage but have the ceremony earlier the way you want it.
lolita4life
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i'm just really torn. i just have to wait for my dad to come around.... which really sux. I am SO mad right now. I couldnt just have a normal wedding like everyone else, no, instead i have to have these crazy parents who basically disowned me when they found out about me and my FH. I love him very much and they are just so selfish and all they think about is themselves. I want SOOOO bad to have a more traditional wedding, but no, i cant have that can i? I got engaged August 2002 and you'd THINK they wouldve come around by now. I dont understand why I do this to myself. I cant wait forever to get married even though thats what i know they are wishing. Yes, i am young, I understand that being 21 is a really young age to get married. Why cant they see that i love him so much and weve been together for like 4 years now and that we're not getting married out of wedlock or anythign like that. What gets me so mad is that ive been waiting and waiting to plan my wedding in hopes that my family will soon come to realize he makes me happy.... but NO, so what do i do? I plan a Vegas wedding. I dont need them there then. Works out for everyone. I save $$$, they dont have to deal with 'comgin around' .... theres no tention to force them to 'like ' him.... God, let alone MEET HIM! can you belive my dad never met him and my mom has only had some brief encounters with him you can count on your hands......!!!!!! I am ready to just cry. Im tired of trying to please everyone. I just dont know what to do anymore.......
sorry so long... im just about to lose it. thanks for letting me vent.
