so so sad need hugs

So here is my situation. My family is horrible! we are not really close even though we sometimes try to be, (mainly holdidays) but the thing that bugs me is my mom has no interest in my wedding I cant help but cry about it because every girl wants her mom to plan with her and be there when she first puts on her dress and i did not have this and i will not for the rest of my planning. She just is not interested and yes i have spoken with her already. I went with my MOH who is my best friend to try on my dress and when it was time to pick it up i had to beg my mom to come. I just hate this. My own sister isnt even interested, and shes my maitron of honor. They never ever ask about the wedding, dont ask for help or anything. I just dont get it. Its so hard when you picture in your head things going one way and in reality having them go very very different. Sorry girls just needed to vent, I will get over it, its just so hurtfull to me

So sorry for you.....maybe they'll come around and become interested?

I feel horrible for you.....I truly hope that they come around and see how much they have to loose and how much this is hurting you.....Vent away if your MIL looking to take part in any of this?

i'm so sorry. here's lots of hugs

first off here you go
secondly, some people are just affected like that, no emothion whatsoever. has your mom always been like this? not making excuses, but just trying to get an understanding. i know it can be upsetting, if you wnat, you can have my overbearing do things my way fmil. i have no use for her as far as wedding planning. feel better and just hang in there come and vent to us that is what we are here for.

I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope they realize their wrongs and are able to be there for you.

Im sorry to hear that....
Its ashame that your family is being like that. We are all here for you!
Chin up, and hopefully your family will change their minds.

Hugs, hugs, and more hugs....I am sure as your date gets closer and the more you book, your fam will come around. All the 06ers are here for you!

So sorry....
It is sad that they are not there for you at this special time....but something beautiful is happening (YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED!!!) and ill keep my fingers crossed that they realize that and become more involved

I'm so sorry you have to go through this.


Lots of !

I know what you are going through. So I am sending out big hugs to you.

My mom is interested but she is just not capable of helping me. I think this is why I have been so anxious about the wedding. I feel like I am doing this all on my own. The best thing you can do is just try to enjoy yourself. This only happens once in a lifetime. And when you have children, you'll be able to be there for them!.

Big hugs

Hollie

I am sorry to hear that.

I hope they realize what they are missing out on.

Please know that we are all here for you...

I know it is not the same as having your own family when you are planning your wedding...

my mom isn't really around either...

sorry you are so sad!

I am REALLY sorry. I thinka lot of epopel go trough what you're going through to various degrees. We espect to be arrounded by family support and love and sometimes it just isn't there. It can range from someone not really being enthusiastic or wanting to help plan all the way to refusing to ome, or in my situation, being told we can't tell certain fmaily members because they'd have a heart attack. Well, we told that person and he's still alive, but I think every family has problems. Did you try talking to them about it ans asking why they don't want to be involved? I think a lot of times there's jealousy, or they may be other reasons. My sister is really into weddings and she loves to read my bridla mags and she had the most beautiful wedding in 2003, but sometimes she seems to gt jeaous once in awhile if I'm going to have something that she thinks might be better than hers or something. Weddings are such an emotional time for everyone and it's ALWAYS about expectations, and that can be hard. Maybe you can ask them what THEY expected thier invovlement to be and try to work out a compromise. Maybe they don't realize how important this is to you and don't know they're hurting you. Sometimes people really don't know. Like what i mentiond before, they told us not to tell FH's 90 year old grandpa we were getting married, and they were trying to scare us into beliving he;d have a heart attack and die, but he didn't die, and he was nice to me when we visited. i'm sure he's not happy (Fh is jewish and I'm not), but it did turn out better than expected.

Best of luck *hugs*

Thanks everyone! you ladies are the best I am just so happy I can come here and say whats bothering me and know that everyone understands to some degree.

I am sooooo sorry!
I truly hope she comes around for you.

Hi,

I feel so bad for you and am verbally sending hugs to you. While we all here on this board can't be your real mother we can offer you the support that u might be missing. FM me if you need anything.