So here is my situation. My family is horrible! we are not really close even though we sometimes try to be, (mainly holdidays) but the thing that bugs me is my mom has no interest in my wedding I cant help but cry about it because every girl wants her mom to plan with her and be there when she first puts on her dress and i did not have this and i will not for the rest of my planning. She just is not interested and yes i have spoken with her already. I went with my MOH who is my best friend to try on my dress and when it was time to pick it up i had to beg my mom to come. I just hate this. My own sister isnt even interested, and shes my maitron of honor. They never ever ask about the wedding, dont ask for help or anything. I just dont get it. Its so hard when you picture in your head things going one way and in reality having them go very very different. Sorry girls just needed to vent, I will get over it, its just so hurtfull to me
salsbride06
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oh that is so sad..many hugs for you maybe things will come around.
gNi1125
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So sorry...but we are here if you need support and hugs anytime
LaurenluvsTJ
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I'm sorry...have you tried talking to them? Maybe they are just trying to let you do your own thing, and they don't realize how they are making you feel.
Hugs for you..
KandM2006
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Just throw yourself in your own planning with FH's help and remember that you're going to start YOUR own family now and I'm sure you'll make things go differently for your family!!
stevejamnik
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I am so sorry to hear that. Sending lots of hugs your way.
DanielleBride
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Sending you lots of hugs... Just keep focusing on your day and your wedding and your FH and how you will always make sure that you are there for your family.
LuckyMe
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I went through this in the beginning with my mother. She felt since we have kids that a wedding was a big waste of money. Now not only does she call me to ask me questions but she emails me all sorts of ideas and calls me if there is something on tv that has to do with weddings(she lives in Fla.). My FMIL on the other hand was the one in the very beginning before we even deceided to get married to push wedding plans and even as early as May to say how she couldn't wait for her baby to be up at the altar(This was said at her oldest sons wedding). Now that we've actually started planning she turns her nose up to it if you talk in front of her and literally walks out of the room in the middle of the conversation. Needless to say she's such a miserable person that we don't speak anymore at all!! There's nothing like having everyone around you interested but you can always consider us your family and we are always interested in whats going on
nypdgirl
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SO sorry my dear!
I am not close with my sister! My fam broke apart as well....Sometimes i feel close to my mom cuz she is young but she can be one sided @ times. My family is very self centered & only cares about 'them them them'. They have been helping with the wedding but the 2 main people who really matter & putting all the efford into it is 'me & my FH'.....! It really opened our eyes about things.....
AS for my sis i demoted her from MOH-BM when she did something so horriable to my family. I didnt even think she would have been invited to the wedding or even be around my fam. She left for about 1year & came back to use my parents to get $$ for a car & college. So i know sorta how u feel......(sorry had to vent)
