Ok so like most of you already know I havent 'offically' gotten engaged yet (fh is finishing paying the ring off) but planning of the e-party has already begun and my mom and i will begin to look at wedding places when she comes back home in march. Ideally since fh is a teacher we'd like to get married in the summer (july or august) but I'm starting to feel like that is not a possibility My mom has started calling some places and most places only have a day or two left in july and august. Since fh also wants to get married in a church (his one and only request) I'm really starting to freak out. Mom and fh seem to think finding a nice place isn't going to be an issue. I'm feeling like my summer wedding won't happen. Nobody really wants to book a place till i have the ring but am I crazy for being worried about this or rightfully so? Oh not to mention a good friend of mine got engaged about a month ago and his fiancee want to get married same summer as us so we also have to work around them
Butterflyfaye
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First and foremost... take a deep breath for a moment, I can feel your stress in the way you're typing.
The summer months are difficult to book, especially July and August, because they are popular wedding months.
Have you tried looking at a Friday night or Sunday wedding? Its summer, so many more people are on vacation I feel like it's a bit easier to do a friday or sunday wedding, as people are more willing to take the vacation day to do it.
Also - These boards tend to revolve around about 20 primary wedding locations/halls. There's a lot more out there, and depending on what kind of wedding you want - think creative. There's hundreds of venues from way out east in towards NYC.
Think about it - would you consider a museum? A vineyard? A yacht club? There's a bunch of alternatives.
Between thinking differently and considering Fridays/Sundays, you should be able to find a date.
torresm
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This! Don't stress, you do have time, just be willing to open your options
Kris10nGerard
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There are girls who plan weddings in under a year so you have time. If your willing to do any weekend in July and Aug I am sure places will have things open. I would not start stressing out over it yet. And when you are ready to start calling places let them know right away what months your looking for and what day(s) of the week. This way they can let you know right away what is available.
2013Bride
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There are girls who plan weddings in under a year so you have time.
I agree with this. Someone I know got engaged this past Christmas and is getting married THIS July. You'll be fine... don't let the boards scare you into thinking every thing on Long Island is booked up.
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Thanks girls! I'm pretty open to anything I know what I want and what I def don't want. I love the idea of a museum or something like that. I want to have a venue where not everyone I know got married there you know? I feel much better
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Posted by 2013Bride
Posted by Kris10nGerard
There are girls who plan weddings in under a year so you have time.
I agree with this. Someone I know got engaged this past Christmas and is getting married THIS July. You'll be fine... don't let the boards scare you into thinking every thing on Long Island is booked up.
I can definitely second this... I am a bridesmaid in a wedding party this July. The bride was engaged last summer and didn't even begin planning until just a few months ago, and she only just asked me to be a bridesmaid last weekend. It is totally doable and you have no need to stress!
lauren1802
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have you considered doing it the friday night before easter break? 2 or 3 of my teacher friends did this!
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Posted by 2013Bride
Posted by Kris10nGerard
There are girls who plan weddings in under a year so you have time.
I agree with this. Someone I know got engaged this past Christmas and is getting married THIS July. You'll be fine... don't let the boards scare you into thinking every thing on Long Island is booked up.
my friends did this last year as well!
you can save $$ doing this... it just increases the stress a bit... (lessings had some major discounts for remaining 2012 summer dates last fall)
We are getting married the weekend before Easter break, it allows ud to go on the honeymoon right away and i hate thr heat so being a summer bride would NOT be a good idea. We just booked last month and my collegue at work is in the process of booking the smae weekend. Not only are there plenty of places but because break next year falls out in March we are getting great prices cause its considered off season. Maybe try to look at that time frame, you may be surprised. Good luck either way, the boards are a great place for you to get ideas.
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I agree with all the other girls - take a deep breath and relax!
The first few weeks I was on here, I was really nervous about being behind too! The checks will start happening, and you will feel so much better. BUT, take your time and ENJOY being engaged!
Honestly, I'm a teacher and did not want to be a summer bride (too hot for me). Look into the weekends that surround vacations. We are getting married the day before Columbus Day next year, but waiting to take our honeymoon until December. Why don't you look into something around Thanksgiving or Christmas break? Those may also be cheaper because they aren't during 'peak' seasons.
HTH!
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FH & I are both teachers, and we're getting married over Columbus day weekend, in the afternoon. We're kind of excited to not have our honeymoon right away because we get something else to look forward to
Don't worry about your friends getting married - if you decide you both really want a summer wedding and/or that's what works best for you, then gosh darnit have your summer wedding
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ring or no ring, start looking. you make vaild points and its better to know all of your options so when the time comes you can seek out the places that made the top of your list.
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I agree with Linda- ring or no ring if you plan on getting married in 2013, you have to start no later than this weekend especially for summer weddings. The longer you keep waiting the smaller your chances of finding a date at the place that you want. If you are open to options (Friday night or Sunday) and are not that picky about a specific venue then you should not have an issue but you should not be waiting as most of 2013 especially the summer months are already booked at least a year in advance. Also it can get pricey so allow yourself time to make payments instead of stressing out about funds and budget. I am getting married next Feb 2013 and we booked ours in Oct of 2011.
There is an 'OFFICIAL 2013 WEDDING' list on this site that lists everyones names, the date and the Reception Hall that they are booked at. You can take a glance and look at the date(s) you are looking into and call the places NOT on that list.
Also... New Rochelle has a lot of beautiful halls if you are keeping your options open.
As soon as you book your hall, start working on the DJ interviews to make sure you snag that date. DJ AND HALL are 2 most important.. then you can work on the rest.
Hope this advice helps!!
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I'm a guidance counselor so I completely understand the need to work around the school calender. March can be iffy but consider right before spring break next year. We were originally thinking of that time but my cousin booked her wedding date first.
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I'm a guidance counselor so I completely understand the need to work around the school calender. March can be iffy but consider right before spring break next year. We were originally thinking of that time but my cousin booked her wedding date first.
That;s what I am doing!! Originally wanted 3/23 bc that is the Saturday before spring break but all the other teachers snagged that already so I chose the weekend before. I kinda like that we will have a week before our honeymoon to kind of decompress from the wedding, bank all those checks and I won't have to worry about packing beforehand. There are pros and cons to everything, you just have to figure what is most important to you. We only booked East WInd Jan 4 so you can prolly still book a March date, or whatever month!
