so upset, long VENT

ok my 'best friend' got married two years ago, and it was a nice wedding, i never say any wedding is bad, but she kept it REAL cost efficient, DIY CP, no wedding cake, no videographer, etc etc

and never did i even ask her whyy she doesnt have a wedding cake, or why she wont do this or that, i supported her, and was really excited... yes to be honest in my mind it was a real simple wedding -but who cares? as long as shes happy and thats what she wants...

well shes been married for two years now, and over time i guess she has no time for friends or whatever the case is... but we still speak i call her , she calls me, and everytime she asks me about my wedding she PUTS me down !!! somehow...

For example: SHES the one who asked me how much i was planning on paying for my photo/video stuff and i said our budget is up to 4-5 k and shes like 'oh well ive never heard of that, my sis in law paid 1500$ only' and im like Um okayy ... thats cuz her sis in law got like 1 album only, and her pics were NOT that great, no offense ...

and than she asks me how much my catering halls is per person 'and lets say for numbers sake i told her its coming out to 100$ per person
she was like really??? this girl thats getting married there is only paying 75$ per person and i was like MAYBE she is... [ i mean is she implying that im ******* lying?? ] and i was like it could be, but shes getting married in a low season and im summer holiday weekend wedding... and i dunno she was silent than...

but she just like puts me down...i do not sit their and tell her omg i spent XX amount of money on this or that, because everything im doing is to make my wedding memorable and to make me and FH happy and our guests enjoy...she's REALLY aggravating me with her stupid remarks after everything...

I'm sorry to hear that she's being like that... it sounds like she may be jealous b/c maybe she really didn't get the wedding she wanted b/c she couldn't afford it.
The next time she asks you about costs for something, I would either tell her you can't remember the cost off the top of your head or if you feel close enough to her tell her that you feel like she's constantly putting your decisons down and your friendship is too important for you to continue to feel that way so you'd prefer not to discuss your wedding costs anymore. Hang in there -

don't even pay attention seriously...Exactly like you said, she did her wedding the way that she liked it and you will do yours the way you want to...Some people really don't realize that and always feel the need to say OMG i would never do that, but they fail to realize that what they're doing is not something everyone would love too. I guess they think their opinions matter more ... and if someone is just going to be negative about everything you are doing then they just don't seem happy with what they have going on. I don't understand why somebody else would care so much about what others are doing for their own wedding.

I know and see so many people who are doing things i personally would never do, but i never look down upon it or wonder UGh why are they doing that. Hey if thats what they like and thats what will make them happy then good for them, im happy for them. I don't expect everyone to like what I am doing or have all the same opinions as I do, i mean if they feel like that then they need to step off their pedestal.

Just do your thing and whenever she brings things up, just be like thats nice they can do things how they wanna do it and i will do what makes me happy.

Don't let her get to you. She had her wedding how she wanted and that is fine. This is your day and you are having it your way. I wouldn't tell her prices of anything anymore, just tell her you don't want to share that kind of info. You could be paying $1000 or $1,000,000 for your wedding, no matter what, it really is no one else's business, and no one else's concern.

Dont pay any attention to her. Its YOUR wedding and you can do whatever YOU want to do.

And sometimes people honestly dont know that what they are saying is rude or inappropriate. So dont let it get to you.

Don't worry about it. People are odd when it comes to money. I've gotten the same thing from people, and we're having a very cost-effective wedding. (But we are having wedding cake! Several, in fact.) She might feel as if you're going over the top, as in her mind she had a great wedding for very little, or she might be jealous that you can spend more, or she has that 'well I didn't have --insert item-- so why would you need it?' That's an attitiude I've gotten a lot.

And, also, her wedding is over and you're the bride now. No matter how much was spent on either wedding, she probably misses the spotlight, and wants to show off a little. She's jealous that you're the bride with the fabulous upcoming wedding and she's someone who has been married for a couple of years with a rather lousy album to look at. Don't get into it with her. If she asks about prices, just say something like, 'Oh, we paid a lot, but it's our wedding after all. If you can't spend money on your wedding....'

For something that is supposed to be the happiest time and day in our lives, weddings bring out the absolute worst in people!

She's jealous, jealous, jealous. The same exact thing happened to me and I'm sorry you are going through it. Either confront her or ignore her. I think it's best to avoid telling her stuff or if you do feel cornered, tell her ranges, i.e. I think it's coming in at around $75-$100. If she starts on the BS, LAUGH it off and say 'oh, well, I don't think $100 is all that much - we think we got a great deal and we're really happy with it.' If she tries to rain on your parade then, she will really sound like a biatch.

People were always saying to me 'That much?' and I would say 'I think the photographer is brilliant and worth it. Plus we can afford it and we are very happy with the deal we got.' That usually shut them up. They were usually the people who couldn't afford to spend as much as we did (and believe me, we didn't spend all that much!)

You sound like a very sweet person and unfortunately, it sounds like she knows how to manipulate you into feeling bad. Don't let her. Be strong, enjoy your wedding and turn it around so she's the one feeling bad. And if she keeps it up, just point blank ask her 'Are you trying to make me feel bad? You're not succeeding but you ARE becoming a little annoying.'

I think she is just jealous. She didn't have these things and now she regrets it. I would ignore her and if she brings up the wedding again Don't tell her any thing. I never tell people how much I am spenind on my wedding. And honestly I think it's rude for people to ask.

On here it's a different story we all share our info cause were trying to help each other out.

But aparently she is just trying to ruin your wedding planning. Maybe things aren't good in her life and she is just trying to bring you down also. I would just ignore her and every time she says something just forget it.