SO UPSET RIGHT NOW

I just got off the phone with my Photgrapher I called to tell him that we have changed our photo spot and to tell him I got the release from my church for him to sign and he asked where I was getting married again because he didnt have my paperwork in front of him. i told him St Patricks in Bay Shore and he goes Oh no they are the absolute worst....so I said why? He said they are VERY strict with the picture taking policy, they tell them where they can stand and how close they can get etc. He said 'I have to tell you this because I dont want you to think me missing all these shots is my fault, But they wont allow me to take pics coming down the isle or going up the isle and the spot they make me stand in is across the crowd and the pics come out like someone from the audiance took them'

I am sooooo upset right now I have been crying just thinking of not having certain pics I have pictured having and now may not be able to have It is too late to book another church because my invites are already printed i dont know what to do.

Oh sweetie Im sorry.. I have been to churches where they have those rules too...

ok first off..

next call ur church asap..tell them the situation..maybe the day he shot that wedding it was a certain preist who told him that,maybe he just heard that information and does not know for sure..
either way find out directly from the church and then take it from there..if they say u cant then figure out the next step..if u want to switch or not...good luck and please keep us posted

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Posted by krislee316

I just got off the phone with my Photgrapher I called to tell him that we have changed our photo spot and to tell him I got the release from my church for him to sign and he asked where I was getting married again because he didnt have my paperwork in front of him. i told him St Patricks in Bay Shore and he goes Oh no they are the absolute worst....so I said why? He said they are VERY strict with the picture taking policy, they tell them where they can stand and how close they can get etc. He said 'I have to tell you this because I dont want you to think me missing all these shots is my fault, But they wont allow me to take pics coming down the isle or going up the isle and the spot they make me stand in is across the crowd and the pics come out like someone from the audiance took them'

I am sooooo upset right now I have been crying just thinking of not having certain pics I have pictured having and now may not be able to have It is too late to book another church because my invites are already printed i dont know what to do.

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ok even if this is the churches rule.. if the photog steps out of the certain 'zone' they make him stand in - exactly what are they going to do? Throw you out and NOT marry you? Id say go along with whatever ridiculous rules they have and tell your photographer he MUST get the shots you want..

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Posted by krislee316

I just got off the phone with my Photgrapher I called to tell him that we have changed our photo spot and to tell him I got the release from my church for him to sign and he asked where I was getting married again because he didnt have my paperwork in front of him. i told him St Patricks in Bay Shore and he goes Oh no they are the absolute worst....so I said why? He said they are VERY strict with the picture taking policy, they tell them where they can stand and how close they can get etc. He said 'I have to tell you this because I dont want you to think me missing all these shots is my fault, But they wont allow me to take pics coming down the isle or going up the isle and the spot they make me stand in is across the crowd and the pics come out like someone from the audiance took them'

I am sooooo upset right now I have been crying just thinking of not having certain pics I have pictured having and now may not be able to have It is too late to book another church because my invites are already printed i dont know what to do.

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ok even if this is the churches rule.. if the photog steps out of the certain 'zone' they make him stand in - exactly what are they going to do? Throw you out and NOT marry you? Id say go along with whatever ridiculous rules they have and tell your photographer he MUST get the shots you want..

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He said he shot a wedding there recently and the woman told him if he stepped out she would stop the ceremony and the organist and they would not restart until he is in his place

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Posted by VeggieBride

what if you can re-enact everything? will they let you do that?

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I wouldnt feel like it was real like the emotions in my face or my fathers face would be different then the first time

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Posted by krislee316

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Posted by Soon2BMrsC09

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Posted by krislee316

I just got off the phone with my Photgrapher I called to tell him that we have changed our photo spot and to tell him I got the release from my church for him to sign and he asked where I was getting married again because he didnt have my paperwork in front of him. i told him St Patricks in Bay Shore and he goes Oh no they are the absolute worst....so I said why? He said they are VERY strict with the picture taking policy, they tell them where they can stand and how close they can get etc. He said 'I have to tell you this because I dont want you to think me missing all these shots is my fault, But they wont allow me to take pics coming down the isle or going up the isle and the spot they make me stand in is across the crowd and the pics come out like someone from the audiance took them'

I am sooooo upset right now I have been crying just thinking of not having certain pics I have pictured having and now may not be able to have It is too late to book another church because my invites are already printed i dont know what to do.

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ok even if this is the churches rule.. if the photog steps out of the certain 'zone' they make him stand in - exactly what are they going to do? Throw you out and NOT marry you? Id say go along with whatever ridiculous rules they have and tell your photographer he MUST get the shots you want..

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He said he shot a wedding there recently and the woman told him if he stepped out she would stop the ceremony and the organist and they would not restart until he is in his place

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Actually, Ive never seen this happen but I have heard of churches going to this extreme.. I dont get it but I know most churches are really strict about where the photogs stand and whatnot.. so its not as easy as saying you must get this shot,

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Posted by krislee316

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Posted by VeggieBride

what if you can re-enact everything? will they let you do that?

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I wouldnt feel like it was real like the emotions in my face or my fathers face would be different then the first time

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yea i understand. im sorry. maybe you can plead with the priest!

Aww that stinks! I'm sorry!

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Posted by VeggieBride

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Posted by krislee316

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Posted by VeggieBride

what if you can re-enact everything? will they let you do that?

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I wouldnt feel like it was real like the emotions in my face or my fathers face would be different then the first time

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yea i understand. im sorry. maybe you can plead with the priest!

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I have pre cana saturday so I am going to speak with the priest then but I am just so upset I dont know why my photog didnt tell me that when we booked

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Posted by krislee316

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Posted by VeggieBride

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Posted by krislee316

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Posted by VeggieBride

what if you can re-enact everything? will they let you do that?

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I wouldnt feel like it was real like the emotions in my face or my fathers face would be different then the first time

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yea i understand. im sorry. maybe you can plead with the priest!

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I have pre cana saturday so I am going to speak with the priest then but I am just so upset I dont know why my photog didnt tell me that when we booked

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why dont you offer to increase your 'donation' if he lets the photog get a few shots you want

St. Pats is extremely strict, but I have seen pics and video from St. Pats that are great. There are designated places they have to be, but they can still take decent pics.

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Posted by MrsBtobe2009

I am getting married there too. I spoke to the deacon that is marrying us and he said he doesnt care as long as they dont block everyone's view. So to me my photographer is going to stand wherever I want him to.

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I am sure that my Deacon will say the same but its the Lady (and I know exactly who he is talking about) That gives the problem Hopefully she wont be there and all will be perfect for me I am trying to be optimistic and not worry until there is something to worry about.

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Posted by krislee316

He said he shot a wedding there recently and the woman told him if he stepped out she would stop the ceremony and the organist and they would not restart until he is in his place

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HA!! He's talking about Phyllis! She's HORRID! Be prepared...she WILL be mean to EVERYONE at your rehersal.

Listen, your photographer will be fine. I got married there in October. And really the rules only state that the photog cannot be on the alter (and why would you even want him/her to be?!). I have pictures of myself walking up and down the aisle, front and back. Pictures of each reader, pictures of us sitting at the alter, saying our vows. You'll be fine, trust me.... Oh and Phyllis didn't stop the ceremony once... she sat behind my BMs off to the side.

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Posted by AMGBride2008

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Posted by krislee316

He said he shot a wedding there recently and the woman told him if he stepped out she would stop the ceremony and the organist and they would not restart until he is in his place

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HA!! He's talking about Phyllis! She's HORRID! Be prepared...she WILL be mean to EVERYONE at your rehersal.

Listen, your photographer will be fine. I got married there in October. And really the rules only state that the photog cannot be on the alter (and why would you even want him/her to be?!). I have pictures of myself walking up and down the aisle, front and back. Pictures of each reader, pictures of us sitting at the alter, saying our vows. You'll be fine, trust me.... Oh and Phyllis didn't stop the ceremony once... she sat behind my BMs off to the side.

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HAHAHA OH she has a name I call her the rehersal natzi lol She is the most misrable woman I have ever met