so upset...Bridesmaid

One of my BMs just emailed me saying that she won't be able to commit to being a BM due to her schedule now. she's in med. school and will be in miami the months surrounding the wedding.

I'm so upset

Im sorry to hear that

Its good that she gave you well-in-advance notice, so you still have time to pick someone else.

And the most important thing is that your still freinds

I am so sorry to hear that My friend did the same thing on me ....she's in law school and understandly busy, but it was still very sad

Look on the bright side: It was very considerate of her to tell you now, instead of just being MIA in May

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Posted by Love4Eva

Im sorry to hear that

Its good that she gave you well-in-advance notice, so you still have time to pick someone else.

And the most important thing is that your still freinds

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Thing is I don't want to just put someone in randomly you know and shes a friend i grew up with. and i feel kind of angry too because she could have todl me this 3weeks ago when i sent out an update email to all the girls letting them know the latest wedding updates and how we'll start dress shopping in september/october and yet she replies three weeks later and i know she read it the same day i sent that email.

I am so sorry!!!

i'm just so puset because this was someone i've knwon since the second grade.

I'm sorry to hear that, but it is such an important and stressful time in her life. Med school is such a huge commitment. I'm sure she is trying to take your best interests into account because she knows she can't dedicate 100% to you.

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006

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Posted by Love4Eva

Im sorry to hear that

Its good that she gave you well-in-advance notice, so you still have time to pick someone else.

And the most important thing is that your still freinds

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Thing is I don't want to just put someone in randomly you know and shes a friend i grew up with. and i feel kind of angry too because she could have todl me this 3weeks ago when i sent out an update email to all the girls letting them know the latest wedding updates and how we'll start dress shopping in september/october and yet she replies three weeks later and i know she read it the same day i sent that email.

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It probably took her a long time to say anything because she feels bad about it... she probably really wants to be a part of your day, but really had to choose what is the best thing for her rigt now. look at this way, she was upfront and told you...i think it's better to not have a BM to have one who stinks and can't do the things you would like her to do. maybe she can do a reading or something at the ceremony?

Im very sorry to hear that!

I am very sorry to hear that. Its better that she told you now then her staying in it not being able to take part.

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006

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Posted by Love4Eva

Im sorry to hear that

Its good that she gave you well-in-advance notice, so you still have time to pick someone else.

And the most important thing is that your still freinds

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Thing is I don't want to just put someone in randomly you know and shes a friend i grew up with. and i feel kind of angry too because she could have todl me this 3weeks ago when i sent out an update email to all the girls letting them know the latest wedding updates and how we'll start dress shopping in september/october and yet she replies three weeks later and i know she read it the same day i sent that email.

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Honestly maybe she didn't realize how time consuming school would be. I just graduated from law school in May so I can understand how involved it is and I'm just getting my life back now. I think you need to understand that she at least tried to give you more than fair notice. She could have tried to see if she would still be able to do it and then realized she wouldn't. I understand you're upset but you're not being fair to her.

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Posted by afrodyt2000

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006

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Posted by Love4Eva

Im sorry to hear that

Its good that she gave you well-in-advance notice, so you still have time to pick someone else.

And the most important thing is that your still freinds

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Thing is I don't want to just put someone in randomly you know and shes a friend i grew up with. and i feel kind of angry too because she could have todl me this 3weeks ago when i sent out an update email to all the girls letting them know the latest wedding updates and how we'll start dress shopping in september/october and yet she replies three weeks later and i know she read it the same day i sent that email.

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Honestly maybe she didn't realize how time consuming school would be. I just graduated from law school in May so I can understand how involved it is and I'm just getting my life back now. I think you need to understand that she at least tried to give you more than fair notice. She could have tried to see if she would still be able to do it and then realized she wouldn't. I understand you're upset but you're not being fair to her.

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i do completely understand I'm 6 courses away from finishing my Masters degree the next three semesters I'll be working fulltime, doing three internships, plus my other remaining 3 courses and then getting married amongst all this so i do understand. but i knew she had med. school and always told her we'd work around her schedule all i cared about was that she was by my side on my wedding day.

I'm sure you're dissappointed, at least she gave you notice in advance. Good luck
XOXOXO
Kitty

i know its sad but think of it this way- if she said yes and she wasnt able to be there for you as a BM should be then I think that would have made you more frustrated and sad !

awwww I am sorry to hear that ~ At least she was upfront and honest with you... If she would have committed and did not give her time or help out it would be worse... I am sorry!