So what you dislike about...

your future in-laws....
Does this cause any problems with the FH, and how do you plan on working thru it??

Honestly...i really did not luck out in the in-law dept...it makes me really sad...I come from a huge, loving italian family and I would have loved to have more of that...

FIL's def wish FH was marrying a jewish girl...they have a NEGATIVE comment to say ABOUT everything...

They don't talk during dinners which to me is perplexing....

I dont know FSIL that welll bec she lives a long ways away....

FMIL wants to be apart of the wedding planning...but its hard for me bec she is so negative...and bec i am so close with my mom and grandma...and not her

and i know FMIL thinks we are spending way too much money on this wedding...not that it should matter me and FH are paying for it...she hasnt quite said that but in the things she suggests (which are normally cheap...and by cheap i mean..you can tell its cheap)...

FMIL will corner me when FH isnt in the room with hall of her personal questions (like what kind of ceremony we wwere having and how my parents feel about things etc) and she will be rude and lo and behold of course FH isnt there to hear it...

and of tcourse the main thing that reallllyy upsets me...is that I CANT stand how FMIL treats FH..it makes me so sad...

So FH and I are on the same page with everything...he knows what going on and he sees it...so we are on the same page...

i know this was very venty..but i cant be the ONLY one lol...

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FSIL and FBIL I LOVE. They're awesome and have definitely brought me into the family as another sister. Although sometimes they drink just a little too much Let's just say I have to make FBIL promise to keep his pants on at my wedding

FFIL I also LOVE. He's awesome, no complaints.

FMIL really is a great woman and has nothing but the best of intentions. BUT, she can be condescending and intrusive. Just think Marie Barone from Everybody Loves Raymond.

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Posted by Lsorrent

FSIL and FBIL I LOVE. They're awesome and have definitely brought me into the family as another sister. Although sometimes they drink just a little too much Let's just say I have to make FBIL promise to keep his pants on at my wedding

FFIL I also LOVE. He's awesome, no complaints.

FMIL really is a great woman and has nothing but the best of intentions. BUT, she can be condescending and intrusive. Just think Marie Barone from Everybody Loves Raymond.

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haha same with my fmil

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Posted by Lsorrent

FMIL really is a great woman and has nothing but the best of intentions. BUT, she can be condescending and intrusive. Just think Marie Barone from Everybody Loves Raymond.

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Poor you..

FMIL is similiar to Marie B in the way that nothing is good enough for her baby boy. His mother cleans his room, folds all his clothes the same size and color coordinates them in the draws and closets etc etc. She expects me to do all this (including ironing his sheets). It's too much and I know she will become a cop when she comes over to make sure everything is neat and perfect. ahhh

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I def lucked out with with the in laws

FFIL is great...all together he is a great person and we get along awesome

FMIL is like my second mother. it just sux bc she and FSIL live in florida and we are all verryyyy much alike

FSIL seriously is like my twin..everything we do is basically the same lol so shes more of a friend

of course there are things that everyone complains about when it come to the FIL but i def wouldnt change em for the world!

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Posted by Lsorrent

FMIL really is a great woman and has nothing but the best of intentions. BUT, she can be condescending and intrusive. Just think Marie Barone from Everybody Loves Raymond.

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Poor you..

FMIL is similiar to Marie B in the way that nothing is good enough for her baby boy. His mother cleans his room, folds all his clothes the same size and color coordinates them in the draws and closets etc etc. She expects me to do all this (including ironing his sheets). It's too much and I know she will become a cop when she comes over to make sure everything is neat and perfect. ahhh

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o boy...i def feel for you...but you could thank god she isnt any worse...for example..

my sisters MIL is a psycho... she once told my sister that she expects her to bathe her husband when he got home from work...she needed to clean him with a sponge when he gets home and make sure she picks out his clothes and cooks and cleans for him..she turned around laughed in her face and it caused a huge fight..she told her that she was marrying a man...not taking care of a child..still to this day they dnt get along and they have been married for 10 yrs lol

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Posted by Lsorrent

FMIL really is a great woman and has nothing but the best of intentions. BUT, she can be condescending and intrusive. Just think Marie Barone from Everybody Loves Raymond.

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Poor you..

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I'm not even kidding. Like to the point when FH used to clean his room, she'd swipe picture frames with her finger looking for dust.

The best was when we were together for almost two years and she sat him down looked him dead in the eye and said 'Are you and Laura having SEX????' When he told her it was none of her business, her response was 'Well I know the answer anyway!!!!!'

Then yesterday we got an engagement gift in the mail from someone. When we called to find out who the person was (didn't recognize the name), turns out it was her boss. Her initial reaction....'I trust you'll get the thank you out immediately????'

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Posted by Lsorrent

FMIL really is a great woman and has nothing but the best of intentions. BUT, she can be condescending and intrusive. Just think Marie Barone from Everybody Loves Raymond.

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Poor you..

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I'm not even kidding. Like to the point when FH used to clean his room, she'd swipe picture frames with her finger looking for dust.

The best was when we were together for almost two years and she sat him down looked him dead in the eye and said 'Are you and Laura having SEX????' When he told her it was none of her business, her response was 'Well I know the answer anyway!!!!!'

Then yesterday we got an engagement gift in the mail from someone. When we called to find out who the person was (didn't recognize the name), turns out it was her boss. Her initial reaction....'I trust you'll get the thank you out immediately????'

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oh dear! sorry!!

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Posted by tHEBRide2010

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Posted by Lsorrent

FMIL really is a great woman and has nothing but the best of intentions. BUT, she can be condescending and intrusive. Just think Marie Barone from Everybody Loves Raymond.

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Poor you..

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I'm not even kidding. Like to the point when FH used to clean his room, she'd swipe picture frames with her finger looking for dust.

The best was when we were together for almost two years and she sat him down looked him dead in the eye and said 'Are you and Laura having SEX????' When he told her it was none of her business, her response was 'Well I know the answer anyway!!!!!'

Then yesterday we got an engagement gift in the mail from someone. When we called to find out who the person was (didn't recognize the name), turns out it was her boss. Her initial reaction....'I trust you'll get the thank you out immediately????'

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omg so we were at my fil's house and it was a really hot summer day and they were all in the pool...i didn't bring my bathing suit bc i didn't feel like swimming...so all day i am getting nagged like why arent u going in the pool...ill loan u a bathing suit (which would have been SUPER big on me and weird to wear fmil's bathing suit)...omg i was going crazy..like leave me alone i just dont wanna go swimming!
so 2 weeks later we were back at FILs house having dinner with the whole family and 2 of FHs friends....FMIL announces to the table something about how i didn't wanna go swimming 2 weeks ago because I had my period!

WHAT?! first off, my menstrual cycle is none of your business...esp not to announce to a table full of people....2nd, I didn't have my period and even if I did...it wouldn't stop me from going swimming w t f

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FSIL is really cool. FFIL is alright, don't really have much interaction with him.. FMIL.... UGH!!!! While I know that she could be 100000x worse, she still annoys me! She likes me and all which is good. She is just so annoying. She is a cranky moody bitchy woman! FH is like the best son and does everything fof her and around the house, he acts like the man of the house BUT she is so ungrateful for everything he does. She gets mad at other people and takes it out on him and it annoys me to no end. She also always whines about how tired she is meanwhile she lays on the couch and watches TV all day.

I also dislike FFIL and FMIL because poor FH is in so much debt. They think it is still 19th century Brooklyn apparently and they never paid for anything for FH and never gave him anything. They are like one total extreme. I don't get what the point of having children is when you're not going to provide for them. They refuse to help us out at all with the wedding because 'no one helped them' when they got married. I told FH, my parents paid for their wedding themselves but they're not holding that against their children! You're supposed to want more for your children than you had. And what really pisses me off about this is that they have money. They are not rich by any means, but they have plenty of money to make an attempt to help us out.

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i have the greatest in laws ever.

FFIL- passed away in 2007. luckily for me i knew him for 7 years & he loved me. i loved him so much & it was very hard for me to see him go.

FMIL - is my savior. we currently work together & i was recently offered the full time position at the same office so we will continue working together. she is very smart & i can talk to her about everything & anything.

FH is an only child so no FBIL's or FSIL's for me.

the rest of his family loves me as well.

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FMIL has a control problem, she likes to have things her way. I have an attitude problem, so if I want something for my wedding and if it's reasonable I want it; especially if I'm paying for it. A while back we had an issue because she asked me if I was wearing a wedding gown or an Indian outfit for my wedding; of course I said a gown. She then said things to annoy me and made faces at me wanting to wear a gown, so I just told her what I had to say and left it at that. Since then, she hasn't bothered me about it. FMIL is very used to getting her way, her kids just give into her to keep her quiet, I'm not going to do that.

FH knows how I feel about that so whenever his mom says something stupid to me he's always worried that I will blow up on him about it.

FSIL and I get along great, but she can make the wedding planning her own. Sometimes I feel like what I want is not good enough for her and then she just suggests things that I don't want or already have looked at. I just feel like I have to justify my likes to her sometimes. But we do get along. Never had an argument and I would like to keep it like that.

I don't really like how FH's family treats him either, he basically does everything for them and they make a big deal when he actually says no. I mean some things aren't that difficult to do for yourself. I hate that they don't ask him if he's busy or tired before ordering him to do something.

Alright, there's my vent about my FH's family. Sorry it's long.

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Posted by tboodhai

I don't really like how FH's family treats him either, he basically does everything for him and they make a big deal when he actually says no. I mean some things aren't that difficult to do for yourself. I hate that they don't ask him if he's busy or tired before ordering him to do something.

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SAME HERE And FH is too nice to say Go **** yourself! like I would haha

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i dont know if i lucked out because they live in ISRAEL or what lol ... i only met his mom once .... she came for a month last yr and stayed with us and we hit it off ......

i speak with his brother all the time thro FB ...

AND HIS GRANDPA .... speaks to me in hebrew lmao ... im guessing he likes me if he speaks to me even if i only understand 2 out 5 words

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FFIL is really sweet. Quiet, but very nice. I love FH'd bro like my own.

We will leave it there!!