so you can tell me i am crazy

FMIL asked me last night why i didnt register for linens - i explained that my 'hope chest' is filled with all my towels, bed sheets, comforters etc.

So, she said 'well a few people have asked me what to get you and i just told them to get you money bc you have no room for all that stuff on your registry anyway'

#1 why should i NOT get all my stuff just bc i am moving into a small apt - one day i will have a house and i want my formal china etc.

#2 what is the point of a registry then?

So, I just laughed it off but do you think I should mention something next time I talk to her like 'oh i was looking at my registry and there is plenty of stuff left on there'

i am not trying to sound picky - any gift is much appreciated. But if we get cash, we are NOT going to spend it on registry items and we will NEVER get our formal stuff then. . . I mean, it will just never happen!

Okay - first - CRAZY!!!

There - now that it's done - i'd definitely say something to her - that you checked your registry and there's plenty of stuff left on it. I like that - it's nice and to the point & then you can explain it to her if she doesn't get it!!!

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Posted by Snowflake08

i would simply say that you were really hoping people would get you items from your registry, thats why you registered or have FH say something??

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i told FH and he said

SWEET - we totally need the money



for some reason he is not really interested that we complete our crystal set.

but i tried to play it off casually - i am going to try to bring it up tonight a little more seriously LOL

also - since the moment passed i will have to be like 'hey remember what we were talking about yesterday - well guess what? i have been obsessing about it for the past 24 hours'

I would explain it to her.
It doesn't sound greedy or picky at all.
Let's face it... everyone goes to weddings, and most people (well women) have either been invited to or attended at least one shower.
If they are asking what to get you... she should just direct them to the registry. Otherwise, you're right. What's the point of having one??

I live in a tiny apartment. I still want all the stuff I asked for. And we're the same way, if we don't get the stuff as gifts, we won't end up buying it ourselves.

I don't think you're crazy or selfish or picky.

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Posted by davenjess

Okay - first - CRAZY!!!

There - now that it's done - i'd definitely say something to her - that you checked your registry and there's plenty of stuff left on it. I like that - it's nice and to the point & then you can explain it to her if she doesn't get it!!!

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thanks for getting that out of the way!

Why does she care if you have no room i have crap piled in corners all over our apt and wont need half of it until we have a house.

I would let her know that you put it on the registry for a reason and next time someone asks to tell them to get you anything off the registry.

FMILs - Can't live with 'em..can't shoot 'em!

I think she's just trying to be 'motherly', thinking you can use money right now more than pretty china..but..umm..it's YOUR WEDDING! The one time you can actually ask for nice stuff. It's the whole point of a registry! And your right, if you don't get it now, chances are, you will never spend the money on yourself.

I'd def. mention that there's stuff left that you really want!

thanks for your opinions girls

gosh all i do on here is complain. . . i bet everyone is going to be so relieved when i actually get married LOL

I think stuff on the registry should be stuff you can use now and hope to use in the future. It's a 'wish List' as I am always told and if you can't use it now, you will use it someday. That's what I would tell her. I'd nicely say that you'd appreciate it if she told people who asked to get you stuff off your registry. That you won't always be living where you do now, and when you can use it you will be so happy to remember you got it for your shower. I have so much in my place from my engagment party I can't use now. I know sometimes my mom cooks and pulls stuff out and tells me she got it at her shower....I want that. Especially with china and crystal.

Not Crazy At All!!! lol

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Posted by zoe282

I think stuff on the registry should be stuff you can use now and hope to use in the future. It's a 'wish List' as I am always told and if you can't use it now, you will use it someday. That's what I would tell her. I'd nicely say that you'd appreciate it if she told people who asked to get you stuff off your registry. That you won't always be living where you do now, and when you can use it you will be so happy to remember you got it for your shower. I have so much in my place from my engagment party I can't use now. I know sometimes my mom cooks and pulls stuff out and tells me she got it at her shower....I want that. Especially with china and crystal.

Not Crazy At All!!! lol

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thanks for responding