maybe because my time has passed and im seeing people worry about timy details that i promise will make no difference that day..i know everyone wants ther day to be perfect..but you are going to be sooo happy that you are finally married and your day has come and that nothing at that point even matters anymore..just go with it ladies!!!!!!!!!!
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it's definitely because you're already married. Not that I know what that is like but I'm sure you have a whole new perspective on wedding planning since you're not doing it anymore, everything is going to seem insignificant to you now that you're done. I think that is why so many girls leave LIW after their weddings, they have no more wedding talk to talk about and everything that the brides to be are still planning seems so petty but to them it's important
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Honestly, when you're in the planning stage, everyone is entitled to worry about whatever it is they're worrying about. We all did. Hindsight is 20-20 and after the wedding things always seem different.
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just make me go
dont take offense anyone..i mean personally
im just saying
maybe because my time has passed and im seeing people worry about timy details that i promise will make no difference that day..i know everyone wants ther day to be perfect..but you are going to be sooo happy that you are finally married and your day has come tand hat nothing at that point even matters anymore
well said!
I am going to print this and put it next to the comp so when I want to explode I can see - from a bride- that the world wont end!
Thanks for the reality check
Any further advice is well appreciated and theraputic!
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I think many brides go through that phase. i know I did but after a while it's all put into perspective. People have different priorities for their big day. Thousands of women with many different personalities....that's all
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i totally agree with you dominique! i see people worry about the silliest little things and things that most people wont even notice all you can do is thats what i do when i sit here lol
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Posted by MikeandJess
it's definitely because you're already married. Not that I know what that is like but I'm sure you have a whole new perspective on wedding planning since you're not doing it anymore, everything is going to seem insignificant to you now that you're done. I think that is why so many girls leave LIW after their weddings, they have no more wedding talk to talk about and everything that the brides to be are still planning seems so petty but to them it's important
kind of but not really..i am not going to leave...its jsut programmed into my brain to stay here after a year and a half..but im just giving some advice
coming from someone who was not at all excited for their wedding due to what i had to go through to get to that day
i thought about cancelling it almost everyday because i had all the joy of planningtaken away from me by a lot of diff people
i wasnt voted most likely to elope last minute for no reason..
it ended up being a wonderful day but i would never do it again cause of the hell trip i took to get there
ive cut a lot of people out of my life due what they did an im over it and see things so much more clearly now..im getting of topic and venting now..sorry
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Posted by failurebydsign
just make me go
dont take offense anyone..i mean personally
im just saying
maybe because my time has passed and im seeing people worry about timy details that i promise will make no difference that day..i know everyone wants ther day to be perfect..but you are going to be sooo happy that you are finally married and your day has come tand hat nothing at that point even matters anymore
well said!
I am going to print this and put it next to the comp so when I want to explode I can see - from a bride- that the world wont end!
Thanks for the reality check
Any further advice is well appreciated and theraputic!
thanks..im honored
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Honestly, when you're in the planning stage, everyone is entitled to worry about whatever it is they're worrying about. We all did. Hindsight is 20-20 and after the wedding things always seem different.
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kind of but not really..i am not going to leave...its jsut programmed into my brain to stay here after a year and a half..but im just giving some advice
coming from someone who was not at all excited for their wedding due to what i had to go through to get to that day
i thought about cancelling it almost everyday because i had all the joy of planningtaken away from me by a lot of diff people
i wasnt voted most likely to elope last minute for no reason..
it ended up being a wonderful day but i would never do it again cause of the hell trip i took to get there
ive cut a lot of people out of my life due what they did an im over it and see things so much more clearly now..im getting of topic and venting now..sorry
That's ok, that's what these boards are for too. I didn't mean that you had to leave, I'd love for all the married girls to stick around and see pictures from the weddings later in the year but I just remember the 07 boards. By November most of them had left and I think it's because of the reason you said above.
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im sorry girls..im not trying to make anyone mad
i know its probably because my wedding is over..but all jokes aside..its def post wedding depression
all the planning and everything for that one day and then its gone..you will be happy to be married..but you will feel empty too..it honestly makes me sad
DH pointed it out this morning that he thought that is what is wrong with me..lol
its crazy i know..but it happens to the best of us
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im sorry girls..im not trying to make anyone mad
i know its probably because my wedding is over..but all jokes aside..its def post wedding depression
all the planning and everything for that one day and then its gone..you will be happy to be married..but you will feel empty too..it honestly makes me sad
DH pointed it out this morning that he thought that is what is wrong with me..lol
its crazy i know..but it happens to the best of us
Well - thanked you - and you are welcome - it really helps me put things in perspecitve - I am probably going to crawl a wall when something small goes wrong - with the perspective - ill try and be more realistic - lately I havent been - the day will be perfect - planning - eh not so much!
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i think my advice jsut came off in a bad way
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no offense but honestly this post makes me wanna go too
and i agree with the other brides, i think ur entitled to crazy over whatever details u want - it's ur wedding after all - i think it's perfectly fine to be a perfectionist
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ive cut a lot of people out of my life due what they did an im over it and see things so much more clearly now..im getting of topic and venting now..sorry
AMEN So did I
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i think my advice jsut came off in a bad way
i didnt think so
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I know what you mean. I feel like kicking myself over some of the things I worried about!
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i know once its over i'll feel the same way. I think its the same with many things in life, we worry so much before it happens and then after you realize that it wasn't anything important. I was asking FH yesterday about the place cards and he says as long as it has the table numbers on it then thats all that matters lol. He told me to stop worrying about all these little things and its about us. Now i know its about us and what is most important to me but sometimes we do get caught up in the small details that most of our guests wont notice hahaha. Its normal, and i am sure all of us after we're married will have the same advice and those who still arent married will still continue to worry about the small things no matter what we say. Its the whole part of planning
