some of the things said on here...

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Posted by MD835

no offense but honestly this post makes me wanna go too

and i agree with the other brides, i think ur entitled to crazy over whatever details u want - it's ur wedding after all - i think it's perfectly fine to be a perfectionist

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i agree...right now anyway...lol...i'm sure i'll feel exactly the way dominique does after the wedding but right now i need it to be ok to get a little crazed over things!!

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Posted by MikeandJess

it's definitely because you're already married. Not that I know what that is like but I'm sure you have a whole new perspective on wedding planning since you're not doing it anymore, everything is going to seem insignificant to you now that you're done. I think that is why so many girls leave LIW after their weddings, they have no more wedding talk to talk about and everything that the brides to be are still planning seems so petty but to them it's important

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i agree

its not that im saying dont pay attention to the little things..do..pay attention to everything

but little things that you feel yourself stressing over..just be calm and know that its going to be great no matter what

im not trying to come across that now that i am married i have all the answers because i dont..

i just come on here still and see what things people are talking about and i know how i was a month ago...freaking out over everything and half the stuff that i wanted to do ..i forgot about cause i was so busy and they werent missed either


make your day whatever you want it to be..just dont stress too much and enjoy yourself


all the vendors i had worked with kept telling me all day that i was the best bride they had in a long time because they were trying to do every little thing for me and tip toeing saying 'your the bride..whatever you want'

and i kept saying..'I DONT CARE STOP ASKING ME WHAT I WANT'..every question that was asked of me that day i kept saying..'i dont care..whatever..its no big deal'...BECAUSE I DIDNT

it was my wedding day..and i planned for a year and a half and at that point i could do no more..everything was done and it was time to make it happen

there were things that went wrong that i should have been screaming about..but whatever..it went well anyways

like here is an example

patken asked what we wanted to do as far as pics..i wanted to go to argyle park in babylon but everyone was saying it was too cold out and for me to change my mind..so i did..i said ok we'll go to patkens studio and then head to CLM..well we arrive at patken and there is another bride getting out of her limo with her entire bridal party going to take pics in the studio

and my family and BP issaying like..get mad this isnt right they said you could do it here nad now there is someone else

i didnt say a word..called nick at CLM and said..this is what happend can i come there now?

he said sure..were still setting up though..i said i dont care we will be outside..and that was that

should i have caled patken up on monday and sreamed..no..cause reguardless the location...i still took pictures..so WHO CARES!

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Posted by failurebydsign

just make me go

dont take offense anyone..i mean personally

im just saying

maybe because my time has passed and im seeing people worry about timy details that i promise will make no difference that day..i know everyone wants ther day to be perfect..but you are going to be sooo happy that you are finally married and your day has come and that nothing at that point even matters anymore..just go with it ladies!!!!!!!!!!

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I'm not married yet and I think a lot of things said/done are insane. But I am very easy to please and laid back about the whole thing. The wedding part just isn't as important to me. To each her own!

I don't mean this in an offensive way at all, just my perspective, but I think all of us brides-to-be have enough people going when we start going crazy over our weddings so I see this as the one place where I can obsess and be crazy and still be in GREAT company!!!

If someone's post annoys you, you can just move on and not respond to it. I am sure we all have our sensitive days where we obsess over minor issues that feel huge and every time i've had one of those issues, everyone here has been so wonderful and welcoming. So...I guess thank you to the girls that take time to understand.

<--my feelings on this. hahahhaa really though, i'm not being rude. The past brides had their turn to obsess so I think equal rights to all brides-to-be. Love ya'll, no hard feelings.

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Posted by Espo22

i know once its over i'll feel the same way. I think its the same with many things in life, we worry so much before it happens and then after you realize that it wasn't anything important. I was asking FH yesterday about the place cards and he says as long as it has the table numbers on it then thats all that matters lol. He told me to stop worrying about all these little things and its about us. Now i know its about us and what is most important to me but sometimes we do get caught up in the small details that most of our guests wont notice hahaha. Its normal, and i am sure all of us after we're married will have the same advice and those who still arent married will still continue to worry about the small things no matter what we say. Its the whole part of planning

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You're completely right. And I try to keep myself in perspective of these things. I keep thinking of little things to add, but then I think to myself, 'Do I really need to spend the money on DIY menus and all this other stuff?' No I don't and I won't. There is nothing wrong with people doing that and I love seeing that stuff, but now I need to think, okay should I spend the extra money for that stuff or put it away for a new lamp in our house lol. I can find other ways to personalize my wedding that won't cost anything extra.

i hear you...sometimes when i see the cry packs or the rants about something seemingly miniscule I just and go 'oh brother, sooooooo dramatic' but even I am guilty of having my moments. At first...all I wanted was to marry my FH...he's my best friend and all I want is him...but then we decided we needed to get married in the church...that added a stressful list of 'to do's' then we were asked to upgrade to a bigger room which means more people, more centerpieces, more $$$...it's all snowballed and now I find myself with more stress than i ever thought i'd have planning my own wedding.

I agree...I'm not married yet but people still make me go

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Posted by Mici n KC

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Posted by Espo22

i know once its over i'll feel the same way. I think its the same with many things in life, we worry so much before it happens and then after you realize that it wasn't anything important. I was asking FH yesterday about the place cards and he says as long as it has the table numbers on it then thats all that matters lol. He told me to stop worrying about all these little things and its about us. Now i know its about us and what is most important to me but sometimes we do get caught up in the small details that most of our guests wont notice hahaha. Its normal, and i am sure all of us after we're married will have the same advice and those who still arent married will still continue to worry about the small things no matter what we say. Its the whole part of planning

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You're completely right. And I try to keep myself in perspective of these things. I keep thinking of little things to add, but then I think to myself, 'Do I really need to spend the money on DIY menus and all this other stuff?' No I don't and I won't. There is nothing wrong with people doing that and I love seeing that stuff, but now I need to think, okay should I spend the extra money for that stuff or put it away for a new lamp in our house lol. I can find other ways to personalize my wedding that won't cost anything extra.

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that is exactly what i meant!!!!!!!!..if you have the money and time do do all those little things..who cares if someone else doesnt remember it in a year..the bride will always remember every detail..and if that makes you happy hen do it..but at the same time..jsut think things through and see waht else you can do with that money

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Posted by soon2bmrsconnolly

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Posted by failurebydsign

just make me go

dont take offense anyone..i mean personally

im just saying

maybe because my time has passed and im seeing people worry about timy details that i promise will make no difference that day..i know everyone wants ther day to be perfect..but you are going to be sooo happy that you are finally married and your day has come and that nothing at that point even matters anymore..just go with it ladies!!!!!!!!!!

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I'm not married yet and I think a lot of things said/done are insane. But I am very easy to please and laid back about the whole thing. The wedding part just isn't as important to me. To each her own!

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same here!