I'm sorry girls but I had to rant just a lil bit. Well one of my BMs who happens to be a very close friend and my god daughter's mom for a while has been asking me to invite her friend who I know, but am not 'friends' with to my wedding because this girl really likes me and wants to go, and pay for her place and blah, blah, blah. I told my BM that if there was room for her friend that I would invite her. Well last night my friend calls me and tells me that her friend wanted to speak to me on a 3 way call because she REALLY wants to come. I told my friend that I was not interested in the nonsense. Well less than 10 minutes later she calls me back with the girl on the phone. I was so pissed. They both started gabbing back and forth when the girl tells me 'Oh I really want to go and if you want let me know how much it is per plate and I'll pay, don't worry...' I couldn't handle it any longer and told her 'Real talk I'm not interested in my guest paying for anything, for me it's having the people I know and love there. Not to mention that I have a huge family and I'm trying to keep things under a certain number and at this point there is an 'A' list and a 'B'list. So far your on the 'B'list. I'm sorry but once we get some no's I'll let you know, there is just a whole bunch of other people that gotta be there before I invite you. But if you want let the girls know you want to be there for the bachelorette party.' I felt bad for a second that I may have come off snobbish, which is not what I wanted, but I can't help to feel that this girl has alterior motives for coming to my wedding. We know alot of the same people in our field of work,she has been out of the loop and knows she can re-connect with some of them at the wedding. Did I mention she lives OOT. My BM on the other hand is not a favorite of my other friends and familia so I think she just wants some comfort. My friend said I was a bit of a beast and that after I got off the phone the girl started to look for flights to come up. I was upset with BM for putting me on the spot like that and insisting that this chick come to my wedding. I mean my BM eloped to Vegas and NO ONE knew. Am I being a baby? Was I beast?
jeanyus27
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You are not a beast! That's crazy that she called you with the girl on the phone! And why does this girl want to go to your wedding so badly. Even willing to fly up?!! Definitely sounds like an alterior motive. This is your wedding not a networking party! Sorry you had to deal with that!
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that is RIDICULOUS. I would be SCREAMING at your friend right now. You are not being a beast. i can't believe the girl actually had the nerve to call you on 3-way and ask you herself. I would put her on the F list - no way would i invite her!
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that is RIDICULOUS. I would be SCREAMING at your friend right now. You are not being a beast. i can't believe the girl actually had the nerve to call you on 3-way and ask you herself. I would put her on the F list - no way would i invite her!
F as in F@%k off list!
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That phone call was completely uncalled for. Why would your friend put you in that situation. Totally ridiculous if you ask me. You were not a beast at all. I would be pissed
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u didnt sound like a beast at all. your bm was out of line by putting you in that situation. i made a post the other day about random ppl reaaaaally wanting to come to my wedding and i dont know why. i mean if their someone you barely talk to...why are they dying to come? it makes no sense to me.
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I think your friend was really wrong to put you in that position. It's your wedding and you invite who you want to invite. No one other that your fh should be telling you who you have to invite. I would be soooo po-ed at your friend(BM) if I were you.
I hope things get better and that she doesn't keep bothering you about coming.
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Good for you for standing your ground and putting them in their place. That was so rude for them to put you in that position. Some people just don't realize what it takes to plan a wedding or what a wedding is really about.
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Posted by jennandrolo
u didnt sound like a beast at all. your bm was out of line by putting you in that situation. i made a post the other day about random ppl reaaaaally wanting to come to my wedding and i dont know why. i mean if their someone you barely talk to...why are they dying to come? it makes no sense to me.
You know what I read your thread and thought the same thing to myself. In fact when I read it I thought, I would hate to be in that position and look. I always thought of going to weddings as a chore, unless it was someone that I was close to but it seems like people think its a free for all jam.
Bklyn08Bride
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Thanks girls for letting me sound off and assuring me that I'm not a BEAST.
bluegreen08
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that is absolutely ridiculous. sadly something very very similar happened to me this week but not to that extreme. FM me if you want the story, I'm afraid to post it out here because of lurkers.
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What?!?!?!?! I can't believe your BM had the nerve to do that. There is nothing wrong with what you told that other girl. I can't believe how far people will go. Good for you for telling her like it is.
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that is bananas. what gets into people? you were not a beast, you were honest, and neither of them should have put you on the spot like that - tactless.
blaine08
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that was wrong of ur BM to do that. I would DEF. not invite her. She's already making u feel uncomfortable. I hope everything works out!
madseason
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You handled it realistically, maturely, and to the point - you told it like it is - no fluffy nonsense
And SHAME on your BM for putting you in that position. Are we in middle school again when we make phonecalls to girls parties we want to go to or boys we like? I think not!
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That is crazy! I think you handled it 100% correct. You were up front and honest, you got it off your chest. Whatever the reason she or you BM are set on her attending, shouldn't have any bearing on the situation. It is your day and YOUR family and YOUR friends should be in attendance.
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OMG....she totally put you on the spot and in an awkward situation. I think you handled it well and didnt say anything beasty at all..lol
Celest
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I had to read this twice just to take this all in. I am appalled. THe absolute nerve of both of them. No you were not a beast, you were upfront & honest & if they do not like it they can stuff it. How juvenile of them .. come on three way calling you. What the...
Anyway. I am so sorry you had to even experience that.
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No-you are not a beast. These girls sound incredibly immature and I think you did the right thing.
MJDoc12
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honestly--i think you were MUCH MUCH nicer than i would have been.
i probably would have cursed her out and let her know that calling on a 3 way and begging to a party is the definition of a DESPERATE LOSER -- and you felt like you were transplanted back to 3rd grade or something.
both your BM and this girl have absolutely no tact -- and i would have been pizzzzzzed off at both of them in very very coloful language.
